As the saying goes, " disease enters from the mouth, and disaster comes from the mouth." Many of the troubles and discomforts we encounter in life are all because of the fault of speaking. We say things we shouldn't say and cannot say things, which leads to us becoming very passive and bad. Therefore, when it comes to speaking, we must be careful. The following is a summary of the top ten taboos in speaking. I hope everyone will pay attention!
1. Avoid talking too much
" Yijing " says: "There are few words for auspicious people, and the more words for an impetuous person.
" The so-called "too much words will lead to mistakes". If you say too much, there will always be some inadequate considerations, and there will always be times when you say something, and it will be difficult to collect the water. If you bring disaster, you will regret it.
2. Avoid saying bluntly
has a straightforward personality. It is certainly worthy of praise, but if you speak too straightforwardly, it may not be a good thing. Many words cannot be said directly, they need to be said in a roundabout way, and they need to be more implicit, so that others can easily accept them and achieve the effect of speaking. If you speak out bluntly, things may go against your expectations and cause unpredictable trouble.
3. Avoid talking nonsense
The Book of Books says: "Perfection brings harm, humility brings benefits." People should not be proud and complacent or self-righteous. If you don’t know the importance of it, speak nonsense, boast about yourself, and brag randomly, you will lose the trust others have in yourself and make people hate it.
4. Avoid being harsh and ruthless
As a person, you should be strict with yourself and be lenient with others. If you speak harshly to others and blame them completely, it will inevitably arouse others' disgust and resentment. Even if it is out of kindness, it will not achieve the effect, which will make people feel rebellious.
5. Avoid talking lightly
Confucius said: "In ancient times, they were ashamed to be unable to speak." The ancients were cautious in their words and did not speak easily, but they thought that it was impossible to do it. That was a shameful thing. If we speak rashly and make promises to others easily, but cannot fulfill our promises, it is not only a shame, but also a loss of trust from others in ourselves.
6. Avoid ridicule
No gold is pure, no one is perfect. Each of us has our own shortcomings and weaknesses. If we ridicule others' shortcomings and weaknesses, it is equivalent to asking for trouble and making others ridicule our shortcomings and weaknesses. Do not do to others what you do not want others to do to you. How can we bear to ridicule others if we don’t want to be ridiculed?
7. Avoid flattery
You should not be humble or arrogant in life. Don’t say things that flatter others at will, and don’t flatter the leader. This is a manifestation of self-deprecating personality.
8. Avoid jokes
jokes. You should not make jokes at will. Pay attention to your sense of qualities and pay attention to other people’s feelings. Otherwise, when it comes to other people's sensitivity and sadness, it is likely to anger the other party and cause conflict.
9. Avoid talking about it all
Many times, you can see through it, but you can't say it out loud. You should leave some face for others and leave some room for yourself. Click until you hit the mountain and shock the tiger.
10. Avoid talking nonsense
. The key is to treat each other with sincerity. If you always tell some lies and deceive others, and think you are smart and complacent, you will lose the trust of others, and your intelligence will be misled by your intelligence.
