Chinese ancestors are very good at summarizing experience and telling future generations about experience in extremely simple proverbs or common sayings, so folk sayings always imply some truth.
Is a person lucky? Will he have a smooth life? Especially some elderly people will say, "You look like a person who is suffering."
What are the characteristics of a person who is suffering? Can you really judge a person’s fortune and good fortune just by looking at his face?
People with a bitter destiny: face to be gloomy, face to be bitter
The word "Face to be born from the heart" is the most direct reflection of a person's fate. As the saying goes, "A person's heart is dirty, everything is dirty."
People with a gloomy personality believe in pessimism in everything and think about everything at the worst. Murphy's law tells us that things often develop in the direction you think badly.
firmly believe in materialism we know that matter determines consciousness , but consciousness also has a reaction, and this reaction is so great that you can't imagine.
Psychologists conducted an experiment to place two sheep of the same size in two environments.
A flock was released, and it followed the flock to eat grass on the hillside at will without any intervention.
Another one is tied to a wooden stake and put plenty of grass on you, but there is also a wolf tied next to it.
After a period of time, it was found that the sheep returning to the comfortable environment grew healthy, while the other sheep was dying and on the verge of death.
has no other reason. Logically speaking, the tied wolf will not pose a threat to its life, but the long-term anxiety, anxiety and panic affect the lamb, and it was scared to death by itself.
Emotion is invisible and invisible, but it can affect human behavior and have an impact on the human body.
The same experiment, a prisoner who is about to be sentenced to death was taken into a room, and the room was very quiet.
The executioner told him that the execution method was to bleed until the blood in his body dried up, and the death row inmate lay on the single bed in the room like an appointment.
The executioner covered his eyes, tied his hands to both sides of the bed, gently scratched his wrist, and blood fell into the bucket on the ground.
In this process, the executioner left the room, and the death row inmate was blindfolded and lay on the bed. Only the sound of blood ticking in the room that was too quiet could be heard.
After a while, the executioner came in and found that the death row prisoner had passed away with cold and stiff body, but in fact what he didn't know was that the ticking sound of the room was not his blood but the sound of water drops.
The wound on his hands was just a slight scratch that was not fatal. What ultimately led to his death was just his own imagination, thinking that his blood was dry and scared to death by his imagination. These two experiments:
These are the experiments that we should not underestimate the role of consciousness, it often brings us incredible results.
People with gloomy minds have narrow temperament and short-sightedness. They can only see the darkness and ignore the sunshine. If this continues, their mood will be reflected on their faces, which is what people often call bitter faces.
eyes are dull and have no vitality, serious and dull face, sluggish and slow behavior, such people can gain the trust and dependence of others in life or in the workplace, and over time, even those who are blessed will have good fortune.
So you must learn to open your heart. The so-called opening the skylight and saying things clearly, you must live under the sun.
Positive and positive attitude will make the darkness have nowhere to hide. Sometimes people are prone to falling into dead ends and unable to think about it, but as long as they change directions, they can achieve the effect of "once you are extremely narrow, you can understand people, and then you can walk dozens of steps and suddenly become enlightened."
If you are experiencing the trough of your life at this time, if your future is bright, please insist on believing in yourself.
If the future is unclear, you should also be sunny. On the positive side, use your positive consciousness to guide your behavior.
The most classic thing is when it comes to finding a boyfriend and girlfriend. Some people say that you must have an idea. If you have an idea, don’t rush to find it, but polish yourself according to this idea.
Only by becoming such a person can you attract such a partner. As the saying goes, if you bloom, the butterfly will come.
People with a miserable life: Too good
The first sentence of the three-character classic is: When a person is born, his nature is good. The education we received from childhood also requires us to be kind people.
But kindness is to help others when you are able to do your best and have a slight surplus, and it is not to give selflessly without any bottom line.
People who are too kind are not kind but weak. There is an old saying: People are good and are bullied, and horses are good and ridden.
do not know how to refuse and resist, and can only blindly compromise yourself and compromise and please others, willing to satisfy others' even unreasonable requests.
In fact, this approach is not to accumulate blessings, but to consume your own blessings. Your kindness should be sharp.
For a long time, suppressing one's own personality and needs will cause oneself to fall into a vicious cycle of self-loathing.
Bai Yansong once said: You agree to something as soon as others ask for it, and you give it to something as soon as others ask for it, so that you will become less precious.
famous master Qi Baishi After becoming famous, countless people came to the door to ask for paintings in the name of friends. At first, it was difficult for friends to refuse, and even if they worked overtime, they would draw them and give them to others.
Results, after a period of time, not only did the number of people who were seeking paintings not only did not decrease, but relatives and friends who were completely unrelated to each other would come to the house. In the end, Qi Baishi made himself so tired that he was ill in bed.
After he recovered from the condition, he posted a clear rule on the wall that he would give money at the market price and would not respond to the repair of the past paintings.
This reduces the intensity of their work, because some people do not know how to appreciate Qi Baishi's paintings, but they come to join in the fun because he is easy to talk and doesn't have money.
Harvard once conducted a survey, and the results showed that if a person knows how to refuse reasonably, he can reduce trouble by more than 90% and avoid wasting time and energy.
From this we can see that does not know how to refuse to be kind without offline, and in the end it is only you who suffers.
The third person who is suffering: Don’t know how to shut up
Lu Xun’s Xianglin Sao is a person who is suffering through the throne. After her first husband died, she was infamous for being a husband.
was sold to He Laoliu as his wife by his mother-in-law and gave birth to a son Amao. As a result, her husband He Laoliu died of hatred and his son Amao was also eaten by a wolf.
From then on, she talked about her misfortune to everyone. Perhaps she wanted to use this method to relieve her inner misery, but if others listened too much, they would not take her pain as a pain, but instead joked with her.
The ancients emphasized "careful words", Confucius educated students: be cautious in speaking but quick in action, telling us to speak carefully and act quickly.
How many cases have given us blood prices throughout the ages? The Spring Festival Gala sketch " One-Sentence Things " said well. One sentence can make a thing happen, and one sentence can make a bad thing is all a thing of one sentence. Sometimes it really comes from the mouth.
Three Kingdoms celebrity Yang Xiu comes from a famous family and is valued by the talent-loving Cao Cao . Yang Xiu is very smart and very good at looking at the big picture from the underestimation.
Cao Cao was suspicious of his close ministers begging him, so he said to his close ministers before going to bed: I am so murderous in my dreams, so don’t get close to me after I fall asleep.
deliberately kicked off the quilt at night, and killed the close minister while he was covering it with a quilt. The next day, he woke up and pretended not to know, and buried the close ministers in a glorious way.
After that, the close ministers followed Cao Cao's order and dared not disobey it. Yang Xiu said: The Prime Minister is not in his dream, but in his dream.
exposes Cao Cao's little strategy to deceive everyone with his dreams, which makes Cao Cao very embarrassed.
The second time was when building the yard, Cao Cao wrote a door on paper and then wrote a job on the door. When Yang Xiu saw it, he knew that the Prime Minister just thought the gate of the yard was too small and wanted to expand the gate, so he said it and asked someone to expand the gate.
The most famous story between Cao Cao and Yang Xiu is the "small rib" story, which later put Yang Xiu to death.
wei and Shu confronted each other for a long time to compete for the land of Guanzhong . Cao Cao was anxious and had no good plans to defeat the enemy, and he was worried and depressed all day long.
One night, the eunuch gave Cao Cao a chicken as a midnight snack. Cao Cao, who was thinking about the strategy, kept murmured repeatedly with the chicken ribs.
didn't notice that at this time Xiahou Dun came in and asked him what the slogan was for sending troops. Xiahou Dun heard Cao Cao say that he was holding a slogan again, and mistakenly thought that the slogan was a slogan.
then sent the account to convey the password. After hearing this, Yang Xiu immediately ordered the army to pack up and prepare to return. Xiahou Dun asked in confusion why he wanted to go back.
Yang Xiu explained: "It's a pity for eating chicken ribs to eat without meat. The enemy and us are stalemate to compete for Hanzhong . This is undoubtedly not worth the gain. Now there is no benefit to gain Hanzhong, and there is no pain in Hanzhong. The Prime Minister wants to withdraw his troops, but for the sake of face, he is said to be useless."
After Yang Xiu explained, Xiahou Dun understood and immediately ordered the withdrawal of the army. Cao Cao walked out of the tent and learned about the situation. He said furiously, "How dare you disrupt our morale and ruin my major affairs, and you will not forgive me."
As a result, Yang Xiu was beheaded. In fact, what Yang Xiu analyzed was exactly what Cao Cao thought. The reason why he ordered the beheading of Yang Xiu was because Yang Xiu was too smart but did not know how to shut up at the right time.
always slaps Cao Cao in the face again and again, embarrassing him. At the same time, Cao Cao also thinks that Yang Xiu is too smart, and the consequences of such a person being used as an inappropriate one can't be imagined.
So Yang Xiu died because of his excessive words. Smart people do not know how to hide their sharpness, which will only lead to disasters more easily.
Some people with miserable life are recruited by themselves by themselves. Some people like to brag. Some people always like to suppress others in words, and some people look down on others.
These words and deeds in life will be affected by yourself and others. Over time, some people stay away from you, some people contradict you, and some people may hurt you. Such sufferings of life are brought from your words.
Some people believe that "human destiny is destined to heaven". In the face of any suffering and setback, they believe that it is God's punishment for themselves, so they choose to accept their fate and become a person with miserable destiny in their imagination.
also believe in "My life is with me," no matter what suppression and tempering encounters, they take the initiative to overcome the hardships and eventually walk out their own path. In the eyes of others, such people will be very tired and tossed all their lives, but only he himself knows the fun.
