As the saying goes: " When you meet a close friend, a thousand cups of wine is too little. A half-sentence of words without speculation is more than enough." In fact, why not give gifts? If in ordinary human interactions, the gifts given are inappropriate and inconsistent with local customs, no matter how good, expensive or numerous the gifts are, they may not be liked by the host, and may even be criticized by others for being ignorant. Isn’t that flattering? It can be seen that gift-giving is not only a form of human interaction, but also a knowledge, which is absolutely exquisite. Just like the saying shared with you today, "Don't give an umbrella when you are happy, don't give cigarettes when you are alive, and don't give out cigarettes when you are mourning." What "make up" has clearly told us that you cannot give umbrellas when someone is celebrating a happy event, you cannot give cigarettes when someone celebrates their birthday, and you cannot make up for the gift money after a funeral. So why? Woolen cloth? What's the point? We might as well understand it sentence by sentence!
1. Should you give an umbrella when you are happy: The happiness mentioned here generally refers to marriage. As the name suggests, you cannot give someone an umbrella when you get married, because umbrella is a homophone for "san", which has a very bad meaning and is a very taboo thing. After all, everyone who gets married hopes that the newlyweds will be together for a long time and grow old together. What do you think if you give someone an umbrella at this time? Could it be that he wishes others a happy reunion and an early breakup? Therefore, you will definitely not be welcomed by the host, and you will also be criticized by others, saying that you have ulterior motives or are ignorant. In short, it is definitely inappropriate for someone to give an umbrella to a wedding.
2. Don’t give cigarettes for birthdays: As we all know, in rural areas, only the older people usually serve wine to celebrate birthdays, but cigarettes are harmful to health. Giving cigarettes to the elderly is like giving a gift. The thing that shortens a person's lifespan is said to be as good as the East China Sea and the longevity is as good as the Nanshan Mountain. However, the thing given seems to mean that it will shorten the life of the person by a few years. Isn't that duplicity? Besides, the word "swallow" (smoke) is a homophone to "swallow", which means It is also very bad and a very taboo thing. Obviously it is inappropriate to give cigarettes to someone on their birthday. In order to avoid suspicion, it is best not to give cigarettes on such occasions, even if the elderly are addicted to smoking.
3. Make up for the loss after mourning: As the name suggests, if someone loses a loved one and fails to send sacrifices or gift money in time during the funeral, they should not make up for it afterwards. As for why, you can imagine , although no one can change life, old age, illness and death, the grief of losing a loved one is absolutely beyond description in words, and it will be difficult to get over for a while. If you give someone a replacement afterwards, it will obviously be bringing up the old things again and bringing back the sad memories of the past. , what's the difference between that and pouring salt on someone's wounds? If you encounter a bad-tempered master, it is not impossible to be scolded by him. In short, you must not do such kind of bad things with good intentions.
In summary, it is not difficult for us to understand the true meaning of the saying "Don't give an umbrella when you are happy, don't give cigarettes when you are alive, and don't make up for the loss". It also allows us to understand the truth that the choice of gifts in human relationships is Gifts do not mean expensive ones or large quantities, but the most important thing is that they are given rightly and at the right time! What do you think about this? Welcome to leave a message and comment!
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