Recently, a friend asked me a question: I like a girl, and she thinks I'm pretty good, but I'm younger than her, and she refuses to be with me just for this reason. Do you think this is strange?
The author told him: Because of different "psychological needs" of each person, their "obsession" will be different.
Just like you, you may think that "the girl is older" is okay, and you can better find the feeling of "caring for others and caring for others".
But she may think that "boys are too young" and have never experienced anything. She may like me just because of impulse. After this "impulse period", he will get tired of it.
In addition, "too young boys" are not very good at taking care of others, not very considerate, unstable and unreliable.
Therefore: She will decide that a boy who is "older than her" is her final destination.
Correspondingly, she doesn't want to waste too much time on a relationship that she feels has no future.
This kind of rational analysis shows that deep down in her heart, she particularly longs for "stability", and she also particularly pursues "a sense of security and being cared for"!
This friend asked again: If she thinks this way, is it "too unfair" to me?
The author told him: If you can think about the problem in this way, it means that "this girl" has thought about it correctly.
In relationships, there is no fairness, only needs.
You can complain about "other people's choices" instead of thinking about how to make yourself behave or more mature and stable to meet the needs of the other party, which just proves that "people want to choose someone who is older and will hurt others." is correct!
Today you complain that "she thinks you are too young", and tomorrow you complain that she is "old"!
So: don’t blame others, blame yourself if you want to.
By the way: Are you a Pisces, and is this girl a Cancer?
He was surprised: Teacher, how did you know?
The author told him: Generally speaking, there are more "Pisces" boys who cannot think "rationally" in relationships.
As for girls who are generally obsessed with "age", there are more "Cancer" girls.
So: there is this judgment.
I don’t know, dear readers, especially girls, do you have any obsession with the “age” of your lover?
In this article, let’s follow this topic and talk about: Among the girls of the twelve zodiac signs, which ones are “uncle-loving” and which are “fresh-meat-loving”, and see if they match the “obsession” in your heart. conform to!
Pisces, Gemini, Libra : From a "little fresh meat" lover, evolve into an "uncle control"!
Generally speaking: the more people do not have a "backbone", the more likely they are to have various problems in terms of "choice".
Therefore: these three constellations, as representatives of " difficulty in choosing ", are responsible for "road crazy".
extremely needs someone by his side to help him make "choices" and "decisions"!
So: Although they begin to attach great importance to "appearance", what they really need in their hearts is someone who "leads them".
will eventually lead to: no matter how many wrong choices they make because of their "appearance" during the relationship, they will eventually tend to be more "uncle style".
The more I have experienced the "exaggerated, flashy" character, the more I understand deep down the value of "calm and low-key".
Therefore: If these three constellations start to fall in love with people of the same age, they will go through a series of love processes of "drifting through wind and rain, with no fixed place to live".
The more they will have an indescribable sense of intimacy with "uncle", it will also change their "aesthetics" from "good looks and good figure" to "capability and content".
So: If you have girl friends with these three zodiac signs, you will find a very interesting phenomenon.
The people around them will become older and older as time goes by: from the "fashionable, arrogant type" at the beginning to the "suited, restrained type" later.
The difference between someone who started competing with her to eat, and then looked at her tenderly, helped her wipe the corners of her mouth, and asked her: "Do you want something else to eat?"!
also represents the difference in their "psychological needs" and the "evolution" of their personal aesthetics.
But at the same time, there are also problems.
Because of feelings, it is a kind of "lack of self-control and excessive perceptual thinking": only focusing on "feelings" without considering "reality".
Girls of these three constellations are also the most likely to fall in love with an "uncle" unknowingly without knowing whether this person is "in a relationship or has a family."
So: after becoming an "uncle control", it is also the easiest to become a "third party".
Therefore: If you are a girl of these three zodiac signs and have evolved into an "uncle-controller", you must investigate more and understand more before choosing to "love regardless of all costs"!
Scorpio, Virgo, Leo : I feel like I like "uncle", but actually I love "little fresh meat" more!
Generally, when girls fall in love, there is a famous saying: "Marry a man, marry a man, dress and eat!"
So: Many times, when girls get together, what they like to say most is "How much is this man willing to spend for me!"
However, for girls of these three zodiac signs, this "guideline" does not seem to be very valid.
Because: when it comes to career, they don’t feel that they are inferior to men; compared to their thinking and decision-making abilities, even many men are inferior to them.
So: If I want his money, I have to please him; then I am more capable than him, why should I do this?
Correspondingly: Girls of these three constellations will have "masculine" thinking: I will not please you, nor will I bow to you; on the contrary, when we are together, I should make the decision in everything!
And this is obviously a kind of "masculine" thinking.
Then: Generally speaking, "uncle" type boys have good careers and good logical thinking skills.
Such two people together will basically form a condition where "one mountain cannot tolerate two tigers".
Therefore: Although girls from these three constellations have been saying: What I want to do most is to be a "little woman" and not be so tired.
On the other hand, due to the "lack of security and the need for face", they are constantly moving closer to "strong women".
Correspondingly: Although I tried to fall in love with an "uncle" at first, I later discovered that a "soft man, a warm man, a young man" is more suitable for me.
But: it is because of this "psychology".
leads to a result: girls of these three zodiac signs are often cheated of money by their lovers; they also often encounter people who "eat soft food".
So: Many times, the truth that girls of these three constellations should understand most is: "Be a little girl in the sun, and be a strong woman in the wind and rain"!
Sagittarius, Aquarius , Capricorn: "Age" is not a problem! The three constellations
do not have very strong requirements for "age".
However, the "practical" requirements of are very high.
So: Many times, in their world, "emotion" comes second and "stability" comes first.
Although it is not important to fall in love, " return on investment " is very important to them.
At this point, Sagittarius, often called the " fire sign ", is no different from the other two signs.
The only difference may be that: Aquarius and Capricorn will not easily be with someone they don't like.
And "Sagittarius" can give it a try.
But what they have in common is: if it comes to "marriage and love", they must satisfy their needs for "stability, return on investment", and they must also be "well-matched"!
So: Many times, age is not a problem for them.
The real question is: What is your current income, what do your parents do, I am with you, how can you help me, what kind of help can you give to my family, can I learn from you? What have I learned from you? Will I only be asked by you and unable to gain anything from you?
Therefore: Girls of these zodiac signs generally will not choose someone "below themselves" when talking about marriage.
And generally before marriage, conflicts are most likely to arise due to various "money and material" related issues, which will have a shadow after marriage.
After marriage, it is easy to have conflicts due to these problems.
The reason for this result is also very simple: too strong "rational" thinking will lead to insufficient " empathy , empathy heart".
And this feeling will directly make the other person feel that "money is not as important to him": the more "emotional" a person is, the more lonely and lonely he will feel.
As for the marriage and love relationships of these zodiac signs, it will be difficult to keep their significant other because of this way of thinking.
So: Instead of considering the reality and eventually losing it, it is better to learn "empathy" early and know what the other person's real needs are in love!
Because: If you only think about what you want and how you feel, all you will get in the end is "loneliness" and "betrayal"!
Cancer, Taurus, Aries : Professional "uncle control"!
No matter how different their personalities are, the commonality among their inner needs is: I hope that my other half will only focus on me in everything in the future!
Therefore: their coldness to the "hairy boy" is far less severe than that of the "uncle".
In their hearts, they will firmly believe that "age" represents "experience", and a "man" who has not had enough fun cannot be honest.
And a person who can give himself a "future" and "tolerance and companionship" must also be a "little boy".
Therefore: Their "obsession" with age will be higher than many girls' "obsession" with "zodiac sign".
Generally, even if you feel good about meeting someone, as soon as you hear "Younger than you", you will immediately start to "back off": No, no, I'm still young, and I don't want to "find a son" for myself!
And from this psychological point of view, we can also see how strongly these three constellations have a strong need for "love, care, and care" from their lovers.
Especially: these three constellations are also the most productive constellations among the twelve constellations, which are most prone to "parental disagreement and single-parent families".
So: They usually feel the "hurt" from "parental disagreements" in childhood more profoundly than other zodiac signs.
are also more likely to be afraid that their marriage will fail and have a negative impact on their children.
Therefore: they will care more about the issue of "age" and care more about it.
So: Many times, if you want to fall in love with these three zodiac signs, you have to have a marriage relationship.
What you must do is: patience, companionship, tolerance, and understanding.
Maybe you can have no money or career, but you must never lack the concept of "home" deep in your heart.
Because of these three constellations: happiness comes from "home", security comes from "home", and warmth and hope are also placed in "home"!
But here, by the way, I would like to say something to the readers of these three constellations: Many times, your worries and obsessions also come from your family.
So: If you want a better life, you must reconcile with everything in your native family and the unpleasant experiences you had when you were young.
Don’t live your new life carrying baggage, otherwise your temper will be weird and your worries will make you miserable!
The above is the author’s analysis of whether girls of the twelve zodiac signs are “uncle-loving” or “meat-loving”!
At the end of the article, thank you all for reading, and I look forward to your attention, support, and enthusiastic replies!
