A friend became obsessed with horoscopes when he was in love.
This successfully allowed her to blame her ignorance of zodiac signs for her depressing experience of bumpy relationships and bad encounters in the past few years.
"I have never been in love with someone who matches my zodiac sign, so every relationship is a failure."
01
After that, the people who appeared in front of her turned into zodiac signs, and she was able to quickly judge the best ones. Shortcomings and suitability for love.
" Libra is okay, the shooter is good, and the lion is the most suitable."
"What is your zodiac sign?"
"Oh, Scorpio, even dogs are not good at it."
Actually, I didn’t understand zodiac signs, but at that moment I subconsciously Look for evidence that you are not a typical Scorpio.
"I don't feel very much like a Scorpio, do I."
I am afraid that just because I was born in November, I will be judged as a person who is "stingy, petty, and cold and violent" in the words of my friends.
"You are indeed a bit unlike a Scorpio."
was affirmed by friends who are well versed in zodiac signs. At that moment, I felt relieved.
It’s like, because of this sentence, my personality no longer has to share the title of “no place for dogs” with all Scorpios.
Thinking about it, my resistance to Scorpio may also be because I am not completely ignorant of the constellations.
In middle school, classmates who had just met each other would occasionally ask: What is your zodiac sign?
They will also discuss: The most suitable zodiac sign for friends.
exchanging each other's zodiac signs is like carefully handing the medal of friendship to the matching partner.
Because the zodiac signs are very compatible, it really seems that everything we do together is in harmony.
Therefore, I will also search for zodiac signs based on my birthday and compare my personality according to the zodiac sign.
Everyone says that zodiac signs are very accurate. That was also the first time that I felt that Scorpio was not on the stage.
At that time, the entries that appeared in the browser with Scorpio were: sensitive, jealous, and vengeful.
I am not the enthusiastic, optimistic, kind and gentle person analyzed by horoscope literature.
is not the right person to be friends with.
Everyone occasionally says this about Scorpios.
There was a time when I would disguise myself as Libra with another date for my birthday.
It is "kind, kind and popular", and I seem to be like this.
At that time, I didn’t understand that everyone’s belief in zodiac signs was actually a kind of Barnum effect.
I don’t understand those precise words, but they are just general and general personality descriptions, which give us the illusion of resonance.
When I believed in the personality traits created by the horoscope for me, the rules and regulations in the zodiac encyclopedia summarized me perfunctorily.
I also believed that was me.
Later, the constellations slowly faded out of my sight.
My circle of friends is generally stable, and when people I know each other no longer need to ask about their zodiac signs, I no longer need an imaginary Libra to protect our friendships.
02
Recently, MBTI personality test is suddenly very popular.
# Gu Ailing MBTI is INTJ#
#杨幂MBTI is ENFP#
Random combinations of four letters appear everywhere on social media, which looks very nonsensical.
MBTI is a test that interprets each person's personality through four dimensions:
Extraversion (E) and Introversion (I),
Sensing (S) and Intuition (N),
thinking type (T) and emotion Type (F) as well as Judging (J) and Intuitive (P).
Through a series of questions, you finally get a character conclusion composed of four letters.
This is very much like another version of the constellation, but it seems to be more evidence-based than the constellation. The dozens of minutes of doing the questions seemed to tell me that the conclusion I reached was very reasonable.
I finished all the questions casually and meticulously.
ISFJ
I don’t like it.
"A mother with overflowing empathy , sense of responsibility like perfectionism without money, and late-stage procrastination who is sensitive and internally dissatisfied."
- I searched all over the Internet and got a one-sentence explanation of my personality. .
It’s hard for me to say, I don’t believe it.
The moment I got the results, I seemed to be back when I first searched for "Scorpio".
I suddenly discovered that the same frequency of worries that appeared at these two moments was because, in fact, I knew myself far better than these tests.
Because I know better, those descriptive words are obviously general and broad, but they still hit me.
made me face the characteristics in my character that are not humane to others and can be described in derogatory terms.
Whether it is the MBTI test or the horoscope, the reason why the public is full of doubts but can't help but agree is probably:
He so easily breaks your pretense of being "human-like".
opened the hole, you and you looked at each other.
When I faced derogatory words for the first time, I ran away and pretended that I was not a Scorpio.
When faced with derogatory words, I am negative. I am an unlovable introverted personality with low self-esteem and sensitivity.
Even if I pretend to be lively and cheerful.
I have always been kidnapped by the character weaknesses reflected in those derogatory terms, and I feel that I am the worst of the twelve zodiac signs and sixteen types of personalities.
but forgot the sensibility and sensitivity of Scorpio and the thoughtfulness and sense of responsibility of ISFJ.
How can there be a perfect zodiac sign and personality?
Or, are those so-called derogatory words really that bad and unbearable?
They look like me, but they are not me.
03
A friend who is obsessed with zodiac signs has recently fallen in love with a boy.
That boy is not what she calls a suitable Libra, a good shooter, and the most suitable Leo.
But when she thinks he is very good, it has nothing to do with his zodiac sign.
Maybe, they really don’t match. So what if
has a constellation matching degree of 0?
It’s not that she didn’t find the most suitable partner because of her knowledge of zodiac signs, she just liked a specific person, not those modifiers.
So, are horoscopes and MBTI trustworthy?
I don’t know.
But I think my friends and I once paid attention to the wrong place.
We are all three-dimensional and vivid people. We can be described by many words, but no amount of words is enough to completely summarize us.
Allow those colors that are destined to be derogatory to appear on your body. After all, those who are not aboveboard, dark and fragile also constitute one ten thousandth of us.
Those unflattering words in our character do not mean that we are really bad.
On the contrary, the complimentary words that are often ignored by us are also the background of our character.
They are enough for us to confidently say: I am a pretty good person.
Maybe one day, I will still meet someone who believes in horoscopes.
He will also say: "Scorpio, dogs are not good at it."
But I want to say: I am a pretty good Scorpio.
Author: Sancun.
Editing & typesetting: Shan Hai.
Cover - "That Man's Memory Method", provided by - Meng;
Illustration: Duitang.com, apologies for infringement and deletion.
