Text/Junzidao Yang Shanjun
The bad customs and methods of marriage in ancient times
A gentleman's poem says
A man will have a wife if he is rich, but a woman will have no official matchmaker.
I advise you not to think about how high the mountains are and when the sun will set on the rivers.
The earliest ancient method of intermarriage is also a commonly used method among the people. Later he was abandoned by the world.
The most traditional method of intermarriage in China is based on different theoretical foundations of intermarriage, and different sects learn from and apply each other. There are eight-character marriages, six-line marriages, Nayin marriages, zodiac animals marriages, crape myrtle marriages, Huishao marriages and so on.
The most "feudal" method is for the matchmaker to write the birth dates of both men and women on a piece of red paper, which was called "Geng Tie" in ancient times. Avoid using white paper when writing Geng Tie. When writing Geng Tie, the number of words must be even and avoid odd numbers. If the number cannot be even, the male post can add the word "jian" under the name, and the female post can add the word "rui" under the name to make it even.
After exchanging Geng Tie, the men and women each place it on their own shrines. They can also press the Tie in front of the Kitchen God memorial tablet, and then burn incense to report matters to the gods in front of them. If three incense sticks burn neatly, it is considered auspicious. If the three incense sticks are uneven, it is considered that they are both long and short, just like the folk saying of "talking nonsense", which is unlucky and they cannot get married together. This is purely a marriage law that has no scientific or theoretical basis. It is a "feudal" bad custom and is basically not used today.
In some places, a bowl of water is offered to the shrine. If no insects such as Chong'e fall into the bowl within three days, it is also considered auspicious and recognized by the gods. If a bug falls into the bowl, it is considered unlucky and the ancestors and gods will not approve of it.
generally uses three days, which is the time for the ancestors and gods to inspect and the time for the gods to indicate. This method is purely baseless and purely superstitious. It is also an ancient custom of marriage and has basically been abandoned.
In the traditional marriages of many folk and ethnic minorities, it is taboo to have broken pots and bowls, broken chopsticks, illness of people and animals, quarrels, fighting, death, injury, etc. during these three days. If it is considered unlucky, the Geng Tie must be returned immediately, and the marriage will fail. This method is also a purely superstitious behavior and makes no sense at all.
In addition, it is unscientific to adopt a fatalistic approach to marriage. This bad habit of marrying in ancient times has broken up many good wishes of male and female love, and gradually made people accept the fallacy that "everything is fate, and no one can control it at all", making human beings' pursuit of good wishes become the ruler. and some people's means of profit.
From the perspective of overall numerology, there are certain positive factors and credibility in this method of marriage, but that's all.
Numerology Although there is a complete theoretical system and practical activities on marriage, it cannot be dogmatic, book-formatted, biased and one-sided, and it is especially inappropriate to use the power of gods and ghosts to guide marriage. Pick. This is a mistake that misleads someone's good relationship and misleads someone's children. You will be punished by cause and effect and must not be used indiscriminately.
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