Anyone who has been to the temple knows that upon entering the temple gate, the Maitreya Buddha is the first to welcome the guests with a smile. On the back of him, there is Vedo with black mouth and face.
This is because the vajra's wrath is not manifested, and the bodhisattva's compassion is not seen.
Kindness and honesty are like roses. The biggest feature of roses is not beauty, but thorns.
There are no thorns, not roses. Losing fortitude is not kindness and honesty.
Being kind and honest is not a concession without a bottom line. Without a bottom line, it means hurting yourself.
Wang Yangming realized the highest value of life with his life's actions. He inherited the thoughts of the great Confucian Lu Jiuyuan of the Song Dynasty, and perfected it with his own insights, forming a unique " mind study " system.
"Master of Heart Learning" Wang Yangming once said: No matter how kind and honest a person is, don't be weak in these three things.
01 Don’t be weak when others infringe on your rights and interests
The old saying goes: “You raise your rice to raise your benefactor, and fight rice to raise your enemy.”
Life is like this. Blindly kindness and concession are sometimes not necessarily in exchange for conscience and gratitude. It is likely that the opponent's gains.
Especially when others infringe on your rights, you cannot give in in many cases.
People who have watched "Water Margin" are mostly impressed with the role of Lin Chong .
Lin Chong, nicknamed Leopard Head, was originally 800,000 forbidden army coach , with improper bravery, "leopard head with ring eyes, swallow chins and tiger whiskers".
But for such a man of great martial arts, every time he encounters an infringement and damages his rights and interests, his first choice is to endure rather than to resist recklessly.
Gao Yanei molested his wife,Although he was angry, he did not dare to speak or act, and left Gaoya inside unharmed;
was tied to a tree by Dong Chao and Xueba in the wild boar forest. He was almost beaten to death by a stick. After Lu Zhishen was rescued, he still wanted to settle down;
After going up to Liangshan, Lin Chong was forced by Wang Lun and others to be crowded out, but only swallowed his anger, until , Chao Gai and others went to the mountain and Wang Lun became angry...
It was this timid and weak character that led to the tragic end of his life.
Lin Chong's example shows that the more generous and kind you are, the more perfunctory and casual to you; the more sincere and kind you are, the more people think you are weak and easy to deceive.
When others infringe on your rights, you should speak up, you should dare to care, learn to resist and protect yourself.
It is not a blessing to suffer silently, but to learn to protect your legitimate rights and interests.
02 Don't be weak when dealing with bad people
There is a saying called "kindness to bad people is cruelty to good people".
Emerson said: "Your kindness must be a bit sharp, otherwise it is zero."
In front of good people, kindness and humility are the coordinates and bridges of communication and friendship.
In the eyes of the wicked, bowing and lowering the eyebrows becomes accommodation and indulgence. He will follow your cowardice and kindness to climb to the top of your head, condescending and commanding.
In the Hangzhou nanny arson case, the nanny did not get punished for stealing money from the hostess, but instead found an excuse to cheat the hostess of the money.
So she wanted to create the illusion of putting out the fire, cheating her master's gratitude, and then borrowing a sum of money.
As a result, the fire was out of control, and the nanny ran away by himself, but the hostess and three children died due to ineffective rescue.
Temporarily compassionate, sheltering the wicked, looks like a small good, but in fact is a big evil; punishing the bad, looks cold, but in fact it is great.
writer Yu Hua said: "When we treat this world fiercely,The world suddenly became gentler.
To be a human being, you must insist on being "a gentleman, a distant villain" and stay away from the wicked, bad guys, and villains.
But if you can't hide temporarily and have to be together, you must not be weak, so as to protect yourself.
Please remember that not everyone is worthy of your kindness and honesty.
03 Don’t be weak when you are troubled by friends and strongmen
Don't persuade people. "
To help others naturally has to do what they can, and cannot be strong.
Kind and honest people often have a mentality. They would rather be wronged by themselves, but will be responsive to others, and there will be a sense of guilt when rejecting others.
Try to help, things If you fail to do it, or if you do something wrong, you will definitely be blamed by the other party. This is not the original intention of helping others.
Even if it takes a lot of effort to finally get things done, in the eyes of the other party, you are just a small effort. I won’t be grateful for it.
So, if you try to help, whether you help or not, it’s a waste of effort. It’s a swollen face to fill a fat man, it’s others who are happy, but it’s yourself that is uncomfortable.
Of course, you can be kind and also You can be soft-hearted, but this should all be based on the bottom line and principle of protecting yourself and your family.
Learn to refuse help beyond your ability and not to embarrass yourself, which is a clear self boundary.
Honesty is not stupid, kindness is not stupid.
Be honest and be a bit sharp, don’t give kindness to the wrong person.
Of course, the above is just part of my superficial understanding of Wang Yangming’s wisdom! A detour
Japanese admiral Togo Heihachiro , who taught his own way of life at the honoring banquet.
He took out his waistband to show everyone, there are only 7 characters on the top : I worship Yangming in my life.
The reason why Wang Yangming can be called a saint is because his mind study has influenced the world!
As soon as his thought was born, it had a huge response.
For hundreds of years, Wang Yangming's thought has influenced countless people at home and abroad, Zhang Juzheng , Zeng Guofan , Zhang Taiyan , Kang Youwei , etc. have benefited from it.
Harvard University professor Du Weiming asserts: the 21st century is Wang Yangming's century.
Japanese hero Takamori Saigo once said: "Cultivating the heart and strengthening the courage are all learned from Yangming."
Under the influence of Wang Yangming, Japan successfully carried out Meiji Restoration, but in our country, Nowadays, few people still remember Wang Yangming, I am very sorry for this editor!
If you learn more about Wang Yangming in your life, you can avoid some detours, so why not do it?
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