01 Introduction
In life, we often hear some parents complain that their children can’t do anything and that they need to urge them to do anything. At the same time, we often see some parents whose children are in elementary school and who help them clean and get their schoolbags in and out of school every day, and some parents even chase them to feed them. Then naturally these children will become very lazy, have poor self-care ability, and like to rely on others in everything. In fact, sometimes, parents really need to learn to be a "lazy parent" and be lazy appropriately, so that their children can learn to take care of themselves! Japanese parents do a very good job in this regard. After their children go to school, no matter how heavy the schoolbag is, Japanese parents will not help. In addition, children will be asked to save food, be asked to help clean in the school cafeteria, etc. Therefore, Japanese children are usually relatively independent and have strong self-care ability. So, as parents, how should we be "lazy"?
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It is really necessary to be a "lazy parent"!
Many parents believe that for their children, nothing is important except learning! Some parents even think that letting their children work will affect their children's learning, so even if their children take the initiative to ask for work, they will be rejected by their parents. Many parents like to take care of everything and take care of their children in every way. As a result, the children are not only unhappy, but they grow up more and more selfish, have no sense of responsibility, and do not know how to manage their time. When they encounter difficulties and setbacks, they don’t know how to deal with them. They can only wait for parents to help wipe their butts. Over time, the child will become nothing and even become a "white-eyed wolf". Therefore, I really feel that parents, instead of letting "exhausted yourself and harm your children", it is better to learn to be a "lazy father" and "lazy mother" with clear purpose!
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It is really beneficial to be a "lazy parent"
When parents learn to be cleverly "lazy" and let their children do what they can, children will often become more independent and have more hands-on ability. Strong; When parents learn to be "lazy" skillfully, no longer talk about children or blame them, children will often become more confident and have a cheerful personality; when parents learn to be "lazy" skillfully, and occasionally act coquettish with children, they can well stimulate children's empathy, cultivate their sense of responsibility, and let their children learn to be responsible for themselves and others; when parents learn to be "lazy" skillfully, give children some space for freedom and respect their children, then children will have more independent thinking and more mature things. For parents, being a "lazy parent" and no longer taking care of everything, they will have more time to take care of their mood and their emotions will become more pleasant. This will also be more beneficial for creating a harmonious and happy family environment for children.
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How should parents cleverly "lazy"
Specifically, parents can be lazy from the following aspects
- Homework problems
There is a saying on the Internet: "If you don't do your homework, your mother is kind and filial, and you will be frivolous when you do your homework." After all, parents are too concerned about it! As parents, we must learn to be lazy. When children do their homework, don’t keep staring at their children, and don’t nag them in a long and long way. Remember to shut up and make some space for their children to do their homework by themselves. If the child is procrastinated, it is best for parents not to rush to intervene, but learn to let the child be responsible for his own behavior. In this way, when the child suffers, he will usually correct it himself. In addition, parents should try to let their children learn to clean up their own stationery items, otherwise, the children will only become dependent on adults and have bad habits of losing and extravagant.
- Household chores issues
Many parents think that their children are still young and should not be allowed to do housework, or that children's learning is the most important thing, and they should not be allowed to do housework. What is the result? Children often become lazy and do not know how to be grateful. Therefore, as parents, we still need to learn to be lazy, let our children do some housework within their ability, and learn to act spoiled with them. In this way, the children will not only become diligent, but also have a sense of compassion and responsibility. Just like my son, every time I feel uncomfortable, I will act coquettishly with him and say, "Mom, I feel a little uncomfortable today. Can baby take care of my mother, sweep the floor?" At this time, the son will often say proudly, "I can do it", and when he finishes, he will become very confident.
- Study time issues
Many parents often complain that their children always like to be slow and procrastinate, especially before going to school every morning, they always need parents to keep urging and urging. And the more anxious the parents urge, the more calm the child is. How to criticize and reason, the child just won’t correct it. In fact, as long as parents learn to be lazy and let their children bear the consequences of being late, then naturally, the children will become anxious and gradually develop a good concept of time. Otherwise, the children will not change at all.
- companiment problem
Many parents always feel that they have the responsibility to accompany their children. Therefore, as long as they have time, they will be tied to their children, and the parent-child relationship becomes very tiring. In fact, children also need time alone. Therefore, as parents, we can completely learn to be lazy, let children play by themselves, or let children play with their friends. In this way, not only will the children become very independent and confident, but the parent-child relationship will also be more harmonious.
In addition, parents should also pay attention to cultivating their children's interests and hobbies and let their children watch electronic products less. In this way, children will be more healthy in their own world, and will also give parents a breathing and rest time, or parents can also do other things they like.
5 Life problems
Take me as an example. Every time I go to pick up the express delivery, I will ask my child to help me, and as a result, the child becomes very diligent and helpful. In addition, during the process of dismantling the express delivery, children's curiosity will also be aroused, and parents can also ask their children to help check if the express delivery is wrong? Less/so train their observation. In addition, parents can be lazy and let their children take responsibility for their life issues such as taking out garbage and entertaining guests.
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These problems Parents should not be lazy
During the growth process of their children, parents can be lazy, but there are also some problems. Parents really cannot be lazy!
- Do not be lazy when brushing your teeth
For children, if they do not pay attention to brushing their teeth, it is easy to cause tooth decay and other dental problems, which will affect the child's appearance and health and make the child feel inferior. Therefore, on this issue, it is best for parents not to be lazy, but to pay more attention to guiding their children to protect their teeth from an early age and help them develop good hygiene habits.
- Safety issues, you can't be lazy
No matter what you do, safety is always the first priority, and the same is true for raising children. Therefore, as parents, you must not be lazy on this issue. As long as there are dangerous things, you must remind your children in advance, such as not letting them touch the kettle, and not letting them touch the plug-in board, etc.
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Having said so much, I believe that parents must also understand how to be a lazy parent
So are you a lazy parent?
PS (Article source: Parenting Xuetang, original link: What does it feel like to be a lazy parent? (baidu.com))
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