A short passage shows whether the students who bully their children are threatened by force. It has attracted a wave of envy from netizens. This father with high emotional intelligence is amazing!
In comparison with yourself, I don’t know if you have such moments, between children, between elders, and between peers, as long as you are involved in a head-on conflict about yourself, your brain is like a short circuit, and all your reactions are left in the aftermath day!
During the summer vacation, the child has more contact with his classmates outside the school. Sometimes he plays until eight or nine o'clock in the night, playing ball and chasing. There will always be small frictions in this process. He doesn't scratch the other party's arm during the fight, and the other party hits his car and accidentally falls it when chasing...
When I face these, I don't know how to deal with it, especially when the other party is unreasonable. I either ignore it and let him solve it himself, or let the child stay away from the other party afterwards!
Gradually I found myself in such a mistake, and my physical instinct would not react to such things.
Like a description in "Silent Language": There is much less room for invisible emotional reactions than people expect. It is important that the process of learning emotional responses that deviate from norms is limited by invisible pathways, because people do not realize that there are other ways of reaction.
The education I received since childhood is to be humble. It is better to have less than more things. It is to endure, it is to bear, and it is to reflect on myself silently when accepting criticism, so I forgot the reaction other than thinking.
Sometimes I envy parents who can resolve embarrassment in a humorous way, envy parents who are very strong for their children to be able to support the sky, and parents who love to make friends. I never thought that, in fact, my envy stopped at imagination.
. Under the shaping of this invisible emotional factor, I seem to be getting closer and closer to my imitation object - my parents, and I have become my imitation object of my children. The only difference is that now I am constantly aware of my limitations and confusion!
We are like an invisible rope to our parents and children. The more we want to get rid of it, the more similar we are. Fortunately, our parents have given us more opportunities to understand, and we are also changing, improving, and working together invisibly! Just like the painting "Fragile Little Rope" by Liu Xiaodong .
In the painting, the continuation of life between the father and the son is implied by the slender red rope hanging from the top of the picture. It is like a blood vessel distributed throughout the body, which symbolizes a natural and irresistible blood inheritance.
inheritance has advantages and disadvantages, deliberate and invisible effects. It will not disappear, but is constantly exploring and moving forward. may not have to worry too much about the hidden shortcomings in the middle. Accept it instead of being timid in its expansion and fermentation. After acceptance, it will be resolved and removed, just like in the face of diseases, Chinese medicine's internal and external conditioning plus necessary surgical assistance.
- Let yourself not be too worried and anxious! Small friction is more common, and parents’ worries will increase children’s tension!
2. Understand the reasons for both parties or multiple parties, and sometimes always think that the other party is at fault, and your own children may have shortcomings, and the reward and punishment are clear!
3. Establish your parents’ own prestige, and your attitude will also give your children and their classmates and friends an intuitive feeling. If your parents are timid and cowardly people, your children will be easily treated differently by others!
4. Encourage your children to make friends more, and parents should also make one more movie to become an invisible role model for their children!
5. A positive and optimistic attitude and a brave style of dealing with things will make yourself humorous and confident, and give your children positively a manifestation of their values!
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