I am a mother born in the 1990s!
We have been married to my husband for two years, and have been taking care of my children for half a year. The marriage and childcare are messy, and I can’t feel happy if I don’t vomit!
Just yesterday, the child cried all morning for some reason.
I didn’t sleep well the night before yesterday, so I said to my husband, I’m so tired and a little depressed.
My husband was playing with his mobile phone and replied to me without raising his head:
"What are you feeling depressed? I was scolded by the Party A in the company yesterday, and the boss was scolded by the boss. I haven't said it's depressed yet."
I felt depressed after hearing this!
I just said to him that it is very hard to take care of my children. There are a lot of housework at home and I have to take care of the children.
I am the only one, my mother-in-law is taking care of her grandson, and my mother recently broke her patella and was recovering from her injury, so no one helped me.
The family is in chaos all day long, so I said a little bit, I am very tired, I feel a little depressed, and I didn’t say he would help!
Can’t I even exchange for the words “Thank you for your hard work, my wife”?
Let me tell you about my husband's performance. I guess many mothers can find psychological balance from me.
Because my husband really doesn't care about people.
For example last month.
My husband recently laid off a lot of people. Although he survived the layoff, you can think about it and you will definitely become busier and more tired than before.
Originally, the job of 5 people is not tiring now.
I understand him, so I never complained about him working overtime and returning late!
Finally found a time last month, he had a rest. Under my urging, he reluctantly accompanied me to the supermarket with .
Because I usually take my children to the supermarket alone, at most I only fill a shopping bag, and it is not convenient to buy it if there are too many.
That day, he happened to be at home, so I asked him to drive me there and take the opportunity to buy more.
is in the supermarket, and he is walking around while playing with his mobile phone.
As for what I buy and what I see, it seems that it has nothing to do with him!
Sometimes when I buy something, I want to ask him for advice, and he will perfunctorily say, "Well, yes, yes, yes, you can buy it."
Later I was too lazy to ask him, so the whole family walked forward silently.
The child was originally placed in the shopping cart, but suddenly cried and asked me to hug her, so I had no choice but to carry her out.
shopping cart was full of loads, and I pushed it with one hand a little harder.
As a result, my husband seemed to have not seen it. I think he pretended not to see it!
I said to him a little angry: "Push help me push the cart! I can't pull it out with my child."
saw him, sighed heavily, pushed the cart with one hand, and brushed the phone with the other hand!
I glanced quietly with my eyes. It was not a chat interface, so it should not be a job.
He is just browsing articles, videos, and watching some of them...
would rather watch those spam articles and junk videos on the Internet that have nothing to do with reality than take the initiative to help me...
My heart is really cold.
Let’s talk about what happened last week.
I feel that I am very tired recently, so I want to hire an aunt.
I don’t have to take care of me or children, I just come to cook for us.
Because it is inconvenient for me to take care of my child to cook, but I can’t eat takeaway every day. I am afraid that if I don’t eat takeaway well, I will affect my own body. I am still in breastfeeding , which is indirectly affecting the health of my child.
My husband agreed at the beginning.
However, when it is time to pay, I will try my best to find out.
Sometimes it said that this aunt was not delicious when cooking, and sometimes it said that the aunt was not clean, etc.
Finally, I found five or six aunts, but none of them passed the probation period.
I suddenly realized that he actually just doesn't want to spend money.
But he doesn't want to be a bad person openly, so he always looks for other people's problems.
and so. It can cover up the real purpose of his not wanting to find a cooking aunt for me at all.
I really, I just hate myself for not working for the time being.
Without income, there is no right to speak!
Later, I didn't mention looking for a cooking aunt anymore, and I was really disappointed with him.
rice, I can cook it if I can, and order takeaway if I can’t. I have told him the pros and cons of ordering takeout. The child is also his child. As a father, he doesn’t care about the health of his children and doesn’t care about the health of our mother and daughter, then I have no choice for the time being.
can only say that after I can go out to find a job later, I will take care of my daughter and myself!
In fact, the reason why my husband and I have such a relationship can be traced back to when we first got married.
We got married on blind dates.
We are not young anymore. When we met, I was 34 and he 32.
Many articles on the Internet say that no matter whether a man or a woman is over 30 years old and has no marriage, they basically have some personal problems.
I admit that my personality is a bit weird and a little introverted, but in fact he is the same!
When I was dating after blind dates, I also discovered that he seemed to be a very cold person.
is very cold to me and his parents, as if his family is not important to him.
But at that time, I was also anxious to get married, and he was the one with the best material conditions among the men I have ever met and the job was good.
Looking back now, perhaps the beginning of all tragedies is our acquaintance.
(the above content is edited and compiled by netizens)
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Faced with the hard work of raising a child alone, my husband not only did not help but spoke coldly. What do you think of the phenomenon of
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