Many parents believe that children's addiction to mobile phones is a problem for mobile phones, a problem for children, but they don't think it is their own problem. In fact, children's addiction to mobile phones is just an appearance, and what is reflected behind it is that there is a problem with the parent-child relationship.
For example, parents always control their children, order their children to do what they want. Once the children resist, parents will beat, scold, and slowly, the parent-child relationship will change, the children no longer trust their parents, and parents feel that their children are rebellious. In fact, there is no rebellion, it’s just that the child doesn’t want to do it according to the standards of his parents.
For example, parents often quarrel, the home environment is not warm, and the children feel cold when they return home, and there is also a lack of warmth among their families. At this time, the children will look out for warmth, and the mobile phone is the best container.
For example, children are under great pressure in school. Nowadays, junior high school students are really hard, and they have to study for more than ten hours a day. When they get home, parents still let their children learn and have no other topics to talk about, and the children will feel very annoyed. In his opinion, what parents like is study and grades, not him
But no matter which, it is a problem with the parent-child relationship between parents and children. Originally, parents and children should respect and care for each other and care for each other. Parents feel sorry for their hard work, and children feel sorry for their parents. They talk and laugh, and they can chat with anything, and the family is full of laughter and joy. When the child is bullied, parents will stand on the side of the child without hesitation. When the child’s grades drop, parents will work with him to see what went wrong and then work together.
instead. When the child is wronged, what he gets when he goes home is: he deserves it, why don’t he bully others, but he bullies you? It must be that you did something wrong; when the child’s grades drop, what he gets when he goes home is accusation and beating: I offer you food and drink every day, so how can you take such a bear exam? Are you worthy of me? You can't even do such a simple question. Are you a pig? ;When a child wants to play with his mobile phone for a while, you say to him: You know how to play, do you have time to do a few questions and memorize a few words? Look at your grades, why do you still have the face to play? Do you know that there is still one year left to take the high school entrance exam. If you can’t get into high school, you can’t get into college. If you can’t get into college, you will be finished in your life!
Many junior and senior high school children left me messages saying that they were too painful to live. Their parents had nothing else except to study. They were very strict at home. Moreover, they beat and scolded them once their grades dropped. They really couldn't feel the warmth of any family. They didn't know what the meaning of living like this was.
To be honest, every time I see such a message, I feel very sad. Such children are already living in dire straits, and their parents are completely unaware of it. It can be seen that the relationship between them is so bad that they may not even have basic care and love.
Parent-child relationship needs to be managed. From the birth of the child, parents' companionship, respect and dedication, as well as unconditional acceptance, full love and freedom, will definitely gain a good parent-child relationship. When puberty, the previous parent-child relationship is the foundation. Even if you encounter problems, you can face each other together and move forward together. Instead of making a mess, letting life be messy.
Parent-child relationship is slowly established in small things one by one, and it is also broken down bit by bit in small things one by one.
Management of parent-child relationships is like an emotional account. You only withdraw but not save, so don’t expect there is a balance in it.
I always think that relationships are greater than education. If the relationship between parents and children is good, there is really no need for education, because at that time, children will listen to what you say. They like their parents and believe that they will love him, accept him, and respect him. No matter whether they do well in the exam or not, whether they have a conflict with others, they are the favorite children of their parents. They will always support him and believe him is his greatest spiritual support. That home is the warmest place in the world and the place where he wants to come back no matter where he goes.
If there is such a beautiful parent-child relationship, will the child be rebellious? Will you be addicted to your phone? Will you run away from home? Will you be depressed and self-harm? None of them.
So, parents, instead of taking care of their children every day and letting them do this and that, it is better to manage their relationship with their children well from an early age. If you do this right, you and your children will benefit for a lifetime.
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