When every child is born, his parents only hope that he will be healthy, safe and happy throughout his life. As the child grows up slowly and goes to kindergarten and elementary school, his parents have more and more hopes. He hopes that he will study well, hope that he will be a

When every child is born, his parents only hope that he will be healthy, safe and happy throughout his life. As the child grows up slowly and goes to kindergarten and elementary school, his parents have more and more hopes. He hopes that he will study well, hope that he will be ambitious, sensible, well-behaved, and obedient... There are so many wish lists that he cannot count.

A friend’s daughter, when she was born, she liked to laugh very much. We all say that she was a pistachio given to my friend by God. My friend’s parents-in-law and parents are not around, so the child can only be taken care of by this mother. It is conceivable that the hard work is done. Fortunately, the child is very well-behaved, obedient, and cheerful and lively.

Friends said that no matter how hard or tired you are, as long as you see the child’s smiling face, all your fatigue will be thrown out of the sky. Two years later, my friend gave birth to another son.

In the blink of an eye, the child is in elementary school. Recently, I heard from my friend complain that the older the child, the harder it is to discipline him. Many times, before she talks about her, she will put down her face first and like to be angry at all. I really find it very strange because the impression this child left me is that he likes to laugh. Why does he change so much after he is less than 10 years old?

I specifically learned about the child’s daily study and life situation with my friend. It turned out that when my friend was one year old, he came out to open a company with his husband, and the two worked hard for life together. Her husband is busy with work and socializing every day, and he almost doesn't care about family affairs.

My friend is alone, he has to go to work and has to be busy with two children. He has a lot of troubles in business. My friend's temper was a little anxious, and now he was even more angry.

Smile to customers, but it is not the case for children. When I was so angry, I even beat the child.

Slowly, the smile on the child's face became less and less. My friend regretted it after he fought, but he couldn't control it when he encountered something.

After listening to it, I quickly said to my friend: "Do you know what consequences will happen if you often beat, scold, deny, and unreasonable restraint of children?" "What consequences?" My friend looked at me nervously.

I gave her a blank look: "Children who have encountered these for a long time will have symptoms of negative, nervousness, depression, anxiety, and anger. Some will have nightmares, lack of security, separation anxiety, excessive shock reactions, etc., and some will even have attention disorders, sleep disorders, , excessive sensitivity to sound, difficulty in language expression, difficulty in attention and memory, etc.."

stopped for a moment. Next, I continued, "You really have to learn to control your emotions and change your education method." A friend of

said, "I must make a change. But I want to hear any quick remedies you can do?"

I said, "It's not a matter of one or two days to become a child. How can I change it immediately? But I have a method here, you can take your child to do it." "What method?" my friend asked impatiently.

I said, "It is to write three good things with my children every day, no matter how big or small, even if I see a beautiful flower, which makes you happy, it is a good thing. You can use this format to write: a good thing + feeling + thank you. For example, I saw a beautiful flower today, and I am very happy, thank nature."

friend said, "Okay, can children be happy just by doing this?" I said, "This is a kind of thing." The method of positive education teaches children to discover the beauty of life and learn to be grateful. Gradually, children can look at the world with a positive perspective and discover the beauty of this world. With the appreciation and encouragement of parents, children will definitely become optimistic. In fact, this is also teaching children to have the ability to perceive happiness. "

friend said: "I will start writing with my children today, and I also want to find my happiness."

Yes, a happy life is a meaningful life.