Is this the case for your child? If you let him go east, he goes west, let him beat dogs, and he chases chickens. Not only are he disobedient, but he also has many troubles. He chased the chicken and made a piece of mud, and blamed his mother for wearing white clothes for him today.
Faced with such children, how many of them can calm down as parents. Every move they make is a challenge to their parents. What surprised the parents the most was that the parents were still holding back their emotions, and the children were already furious. Looking at the baby who always stirs up his patience bottom line, whether it is a mother or a father, I decided not to get angry?
In fact, in the eyes of educators, children who are difficult to manage their parents, have a very strong temper and have their own ideas are mostly talented. If parents can guide them well, this type of child can easily become a top student in the school.
This shows that when a child loses his temper and is really harmless, parents should allow their children to vent their emotions instead of just attacking them.
In the past few days, many parents have said that a certain child is very sensible, that is, the child of other people’s family. But I don’t know that those children who are very good at observing their words and expressions have lost their innocence early on. They are forced to become young adults. If such children accumulate for a long time, they may generate a lot of negative energy in their hearts and will sooner or later be crushed.
Of course, we say that we should allow children to lose their temper is not to make unreasonable things for the children. The two must be distinguished. The former is the catharsis of children's emotions, while the latter is a means to achieve a certain goal.
If the child is simply a child with a big temper, she must have the following three talents:
First type: strong expression ability
The premise for a child to lose his temper is that he has the capital to lose his temper, or he can explain it himself, or he knows that the person who loses his temper is safe, and it is easy to distinguish these two points. If the child has strong language expression ability, the way the child vents his temper is to yell at his parents, but if the child has weak language expression ability, their way of venting emotions is to use actions and force.
Distinguish a child's language ability. Parents can at least be assured that children with strong expression skills and children who can understand words will not be too bad in their studies in the future. On the contrary, children who suppress their feelings will most likely not have a very satisfactory life.
The second type: Children have their own opinions
Why do children lose their temper? It is probably because he thinks this matter is too far from his own thoughts. This also shows that the child already has his own opinion. Some parents may not be able to bear the control of their children having their own thoughts, but to be honest, children are independent individuals and not appendixes to parents. Only a child with their own independent thoughts can control their lives in the future.
The third type: Have strong logical thinking ability
For some children who are born with logical thinking, they are often sensitive, but have a strong ability to collect and refine information, so it is easy to find problems from people's behaviors and words to express them. Of course, this kind of child has higher requirements for his parents. If the parents' level is higher than the children, the children will naturally be able to better play their talents. If the parents are poor in this regard, they will only use force to solve their children's problems.
or above is for reference and learning only. Please do it under the guidance of professionals. On the road of parenting, we are all novices. How to better take care of children? You can follow me and discuss with me what happens on the road of parenting.
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