Xiaotu Mom sent me a WeChat message last night to chat with me. When talking about her son, she was full of worries. Her son is five years old this year, but he doesn't listen to anything you say, as if he can't understand the words. You must know that her daughter was already very sensible when she was so old, and I don't know why she took care of her son, which turned into a bad trouble.
In fact, the developmental rules of boys and girls are different. Girls develop earlier, so naturally they become sensible earlier. On the contrary, taking care of boys requires more patience from their parents. They not only develop late, but also are also naughty and naughty. However, in terms of cognition, whether it is a boy or a girl, it depends on the level of the parents. Because parents are role models for their children, their every move, every word and action has a great impact on their children.
The problems he encountered were encountered by many parents during the parenting process. At the age of five, the child was almost in elementary school. At this time, the child still did not listen to the parents' instructions, which was worrying, the child's performance after entering school. In fact, we can try the following methods to alleviate the occurrence of this type of problem.
The first method: establish your own emotional principles
Why should you establish your own emotional principles? This can control your emotional bottom line well without being biased by your child's emotions. In family education , if parents have principles, the children will most likely grow up under the rules, but if parents themselves are not firm, the children will take advantage of their parents' instability to create their own emotional territory. At this time, it will be difficult to correct when you find your children's problems.
The second method: Parents cannot leave their children's life
No matter whether you are a father or a mother, if you are not by your child's side for many years, then you should pay attention to the methods when disciplined him, otherwise the child will not accept your guidance and criticism from the bottom of his heart, thinking that she himself does not accept you. Therefore, parents should try not to leave their children's lives, so that their children can resonate with you, allow you to integrate into their lives and hearts, and establish a better trust mechanism with them.
The third method: communicate more with the child
If you think the child doesn’t listen to you, it’s probably the result that you don’t understand the child either. So, sit down and chat with the child, talk more with the child, and understand the child’s thoughts more. This will not only effectively help the child solve the problems they encounter, but also have a deeper understanding of the child’s ideas and ways of thinking about the problem. In this way, when you intervene in the child’s problems, the child will become your little believer and what you say will be willing to listen.
The fifth method: to understand the growth rules of children
If you understand the growth rules of children, you can save more effort in the process of raising children. For example, after the child is two years old, a rebellious period of young children will appear. At this time, if your baby has a series of abnormal rebellious emotions, it means that the child is experiencing the first rebellion in his life. As parents, we can face this change in the child with a correct attitude, rather than being emotionally excited, so that the child's development rules become part of a bad personality.
or above is for reference and learning only. Please do it under the guidance of professionals. On the road of parenting, we are all novices. How to better take care of children? You can follow me and discuss with me what happens on the road of parenting.
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