The little boy sat on the woman's thigh in the subway, and he also touched his hands randomly. Parents: Pretendive
There is a classic line in the movie " A Mother's Revenge ": "Some children are children, and some children can only be regarded as demons."
This sentence tells us that parents should educate their children well. If the children do not receive good guidance, they will go astray in their behavior.
The good time to educate children is of course childhood. In the process of cognition formation, children are likely to make mistakes. Making mistakes is precisely when parents help them establish correct values.
Unfortunately, some parents spoil their children too much, do not know how to reflect on their problems, and are blindly tolerant.
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A netizen took a scene on Hangzhou Metro , which made people look at it.
There are quite a lot of people on the subway, and some passengers do not have seats. Based on the principle of coming first and then coming, people without seats stand in the aisle civilized manner, and no one makes a loud noise.
A little boy got into the car. He looked around and found that there was no empty seat. He walked to a young woman and sat down.
The woman was stunned. She obviously didn't expect such a thing to happen. When she was stunned, the little boy's hands were not honest and touched his hands. The girl pushed him away: "What do you want to do? It touched my chest."
The adult behind the boy was obviously his family. He seemed very dissatisfied when he saw the little boy being pushed down and said to the girl: "What's the pretentious thing? What's the point of touching the child? Why do you still have the same knowledge as the child?"
"The child makes a mistake, shouldn't you educate as a parent?" The girl argued with reason.
Boy's parents: "The child is ignorant. What's wrong with him? Don't you just want to sit down? You make such a fuss and scare him."
is really speechless. Such parents are not ignorant, but stupid.
He thought that protecting children could let them escape punishment, but he did not know that Your indulgence on children is teaching children how to do evil.
The distance between the child and the evil is only one parent.
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Do you still remember the child who did evil in Disney?
Many people go to Disney to play and want to feel the innocence of the fairy tale world and relax their tired body and mind.
A girl was looking at the doll and realized that someone touched her. She turned her head and saw that it was a child. She reminded parents to pay attention to their children and not let them mess around.
Who knew that the parents of the child were reluctant, and a woman said viciously: "What's wrong with touching it? Will you lose a piece of meat? It's so pretentious."
While the two sides were arguing, the family of one child relied on the large number of people and power to bully the girls. They knew that their children had made a mistake, but they still had to deliberately distort the facts. This is really sad.
Both children have arrogant parents. Children who cannot get the correct values will become what they will become when they grow up.
"Shanghai wife murder case" has given us some warning.
The man Zhu had not been married for long after his wife. The two had a conflict over a trivial matter. Zhu lost control of his emotions and directly grabbed his wife's neck with his hands. Afterwards, he did not realize his mistake at all, but hid his wife in the freezer.
What's even more terrifying is that Zhu lives as usual. He buys groceries and walks his dogs like he usually does. It seems that as long as he doesn't say it, things can be regarded as never before.
But in the world, there is no airtight wall . The evil that Zhu did was finally exposed. Faced with the grief of his parents-in-law and his family, Zhu's parents actually pleaded for him: " He is still a child, so you can forgive him."
A man in his thirties still needs to be protected in his mother's eyes. This may be the source of Zhu's sorrow. If his parents educate him more, he will not have no bottom line in doing things.
There is an old saying that goes: "At the age of three, you see. ”
means that by observing the behavior of a child, you can judge how he looks when he grows up, because personality and thinking will often affect his destiny.
Sooner or later, someone will help him make up for the education that his parents lacks, but the punishment needs to be greater.
Educator William Golding once said: "If a child does not receive the correct education, his bad habits will easily pour out without the constraints of the punishment mechanism and produce huge destructive power. "
What is more worthy of our deepest thinking than children's mistakes are the following points.
1. The collapse of adults, the little boy also knows how to pick soft persimmons.
For example, there are so many people in the subway, why do little boy choose to bully a young woman? The answer is very simple, that is, he thinks women are easy to bully.
If he thinks carefully, if he holds such a consciousness , it is unknown whether you find that bullying the other party will not be punished. It is unknown whether you will do something more extraordinary when you grow up.
The world of adults follows the principle of fairness. You respect me one point, I am polite to you, and you can get along well with each other.
Those who do not talk about the rules will make us feel broken. When you argue with the other party, you will feel like "a scholar who meets soldiers and cannot explain it clearly."
2. The tragic parents' sorrow, spoiling is harmful to children but not beneficial.
Some parents never know how to refuse their children. They think that as long as the child is happy, they can ignore the mistakes made by the other party.
In fact, this is digging a hole for themselves. A child who does not know how to abide by the rules and dares to bully others at will. Don’t expect him to be filial to his parents, because he is selfish and his parents do not teach him goodness. He naturally does not know how to be grateful.
3. The bias of children’s values will lose awe of the bottom line of being a human being.
. It is not scary. If guided correctly, children can be educated in their mistakes.
What is scary is the lack of educational awareness among parents. They always think that children are still young and will become sensible when they grow up. But the problem is that children lack the ability to distinguish values from childhood, and they will also change from evil to evil when they grow up. It is too late for parents to regret it.
4. The indifference of onlookers.
Mr. Lu Xun once said: "The endless distance, countless people are related to us. "
He is reminding us that Young people should get rid of the air conditioner and walk upward. When they see injustice, they can not only help the parties involved, but also save themselves.
Because one day, the same thing happened to themselves, we also need someone to lend a helping hand.
The subway incident makes people sad that many onlookers turn a blind eye, causing the woman to fall into the siege of the little boy's family. Her embarrassment also tear apart the cold side of human nature, such as If there are more righteous people around her, the girl will not be so embarrassed.
When people were born, they were kind-hearted. When a child was born, they were a blank piece of paper. What kind of picture would it become has a lot to do with the thinking of parents. Each of us will become parents. We sincerely hope to be strict with ourselves and teach our children by words and deeds.
The parents' beloved son will have a far-reaching plan.
A little more constraints on the child is the most visionary love for him.
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