It was not until recently that I saw Li Xinyi's new book "Let Love Go Home" that I suddenly realized. Li Xinyi, author of "The Four Lessons of Life: Translation" and "Chess and Tao", and founder of the brand that Zhonghe Life and Xinyi Psychology.

As a parent, have you ever had such experiences: "The room I just packed up is filled with toys in an instant", "Tutoring the child to do homework, instant blood pressure rises", "The child loses his temper for no reason", "The child fights when he sees people", "The child skips school and runs away from home", etc. Some people may say that these are all "problem children". My child is very obedient and studies by himself every day, but have you ever thought that some obedient children are very inferior and dare not express themselves?

"Every child is an angel", but why do they become a demon while raising it? It was not until recently that I saw Li Xinyi's new book "Let Love Go Home" that I suddenly realized.

Li Xinyi, author of "The Four Lessons of Life·Translation" and "Chess and Tao", and founder of the brand that Zhonghe Life and New Psychology. He has been engaged in psychological counseling and research for 34 years and is good at dealing with various psychological crises and emotions. He uses Yijing to apply psychology technology, subconscious situational dialogue technology, and family energy analysis technology to help tens of thousands of families improve family relationships and improve children's physical and mental health.

His new book "Let Love Go Home" is also a family education reading book on how to build a good relationship between husband and wife and parent-child relationship. He focused on the pain points of current family education and combined with his practical experience in psychological counseling, emphasizing the construction and inheritance of love, revealing the reasons behind family conflicts and parent-child generation gap. Let’s take a look together!

1. Love is the source of family education

What is the most important thing about a family? The answer is "love". If the family is full of love, then the children who grow up in this family will be more optimistic, cheerful and confident; on the contrary, a family is full of quarrels and beatings everywhere, and such children will also solve problems by quarrels and fights when they grow up.

I still remember when I was in elementary school, a big brother suddenly came to my neighbor's house. He is no different from normal people, but when he is addicted to drugs, he is particularly afraid of people. His parents are both in business and are very busy every day. Sometimes they can't meet each other for a week or a month. He didn't know when he started taking drugs. First, he exchanged all the money given to him from his family for drugs. Later, he cheated his parents and stole the things from his family for drugs. His parents had no choice but to send him to the drug anti-drug center, and then sent him to my neighbor's house, and eventually committed suicide.

shows how important family education is. If his parents were less busy with work and spent more time with him, they would not have committed suicide in the end! A family full of love and companionship is really crucial to the growth of children.

2. Go into your heart and find the cause according to the result

When we find that children are fighting or rebellious, we often blame the children. How do you fight for others? Why are you so disobedient? If you do this, I won’t like you anymore? ...But we never thought about why children have this reaction. We only saw the results and did not look for the causes of this result.

Some time ago, the weather was too hot, so I would take my baby downstairs to play at night. Later, I met a little girl who opened her mouth and cursed people. When I heard this, I thought this little girl was too unqualified, so how could she curse people? Until one night, I met the little girl's grandmother, and I finally knew why this little girl was just swearing.

will plant whatever causes you have. Family education has too much impact on children, and parents really need to set an example.

3. There is a difference between men and women, and education cannot be generalized.

Have you ever noticed that boys today lack masculinity and girls are masculine. What is the reason for this? Think back, are there many elderly people raising girls as boys and raising boys as girls. If the boy had an older sister, basically the clothes he had worn when he was a child were left with his older sister; if the girl had an older brother, she would basically follow her older brother to run wildly outside every day, etc.

What impressed me most was that when I was in college, there was an anchor on the school radio station, a boy. He spoke in a coquettish voice, and the orchid finger on his hand was often raised. At that time, everyone thought he was very strange. It was not until later that he learned that his parents divorced that his mother took him to live with his three sisters. He was completely surrounded by girls, so he lacked masculinity.

Therefore, boys should have a boy's education method, and girls have a girl's education method, and they cannot be generalized.

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It is the first time everyone is a parent. There will inevitably be mistakes in the process of being a parent, but it doesn’t matter if it makes mistakes, just correct them in time. And this book "Let Love Go Home" will make you reflect on yourself all the time and avoid detours in parenting.