I don’t know when it started, but this trend became popular in family education : children can only be praised, pampered, and obeyed, and children cannot be made to feel wronged or sad, otherwise they will be hurt. Leaving a shadow is not conducive to the growth of children. At first glance, it seems that there is nothing wrong with it, but the increasingly frequent incidents of teenagers warn us: this "reason" does not seem to be so correct.
A boy bit his mother in the street but refused to buy a toy.
On the streets of Lianyungang, Jiangsu, an incident that made many people feel unbelievable happened. A little boy actually bought his favorite toy because his mother did not satisfy his wishes. He bit his mother's arm in the street and refused to let go.
On the other hand, the mother was bitten so painfully that she almost fainted and was reluctant to hit him. However, no matter how hard she begged, the child remained indifferent.
The situation of the mother and son quickly attracted the attention of passers-by, who gathered around to persuade the boy to let go.
However, no matter how everyone tried to persuade him, the boy refused to let go. It was not until an enthusiastic aunt came forward to coax him in a very gentle tone: "Mom is wrong, you are right, you are right, you are right!" The boy didn't let go.
But even so, he still made a fuss and refused to leave, insisting that his mother buy him toys. Her mother refused to buy them for her and continued to ask for her mother's thigh.
When passers-by saw how naughty the boy was, they stopped nagging him, forced him away, and stared at him coldly.
When the boy saw this, he immediately became much better behaved.
This incident triggered heated discussions among netizens.
Some netizens believe that the children are not to blame for this, but the mother is to blame. If they had bought toys for their children in the first place, nothing would have happened later.
Some netizens believe that mothers are not wrong and cannot give their children whatever they want.
Some netizens said, "Three feet of ice does not last in a day." The reason for this incident was due to over-indulging parents, and she deserved to be bitten.
Some netizens also lamented that if they encounter such a thing, they can just give it a beating. This is how they came through back then, and now they have nothing wrong with them.
To be honest, this is the first time I have heard of a child biting his mother in the street just because her mother refused to buy her a toy. In similar situations I encountered before, the child either cried and rolled on the ground. But everything has a process. The reason why the boy did this must have grown from his previous "struggle" experience, and he achieved his goal every time, so he had such courage and became more and more bold.
It can be seen that this mother and even the boy's other parents always doted on him, which led to the child becoming more and more arrogant.
Drowning a child is like killing a child. Take action when it is time to take action.
In the traditional Chinese education concept, there is a saying that "a filial son emerges from under the stick." Although many education experts now say that children should not be spanked, the author believes that education There is never a one-size-fits-all rule, and each child must be taught in accordance with his or her aptitude according to their character and habits.
For those children with naughty and perverse personalities who refuse to change despite repeated admonitions, if you coax them (her), they will find out your weaknesses. As long as you are domineering enough and know how to play tricks, you can get what you like, and you will get better and better. It gets worse and worse. For such children, parents should use thunderous tactics and give a harsh lesson when it is time to teach them a lesson, so that the children will realize the majesty of their parents and the consequences of doing wrong things, and thus restrain their own words and deeds.
In reality, how many such children are there because their parents were reluctant to strictly control them when they were young, which led to them becoming more and more outrageous, and when they grew up, they were "educated" by society and the state? However, for many of them, once they need "education" from the state, their lives will come to an end, and by then it will be too late.
And from what happened on the streets of Lianyungang this time, we can also see that many of the children's problems are actually caused by habit.
At the beginning, the enthusiastic aunt coaxed him and made him think that his behavior was calculated. She only let go so that his mother could buy him toys faster. When he learned that his mother still didn't want to buy it for him, he immediately tried his old trick again. When a passer-by approached him for the second time, he immediately changed his attitude.
The approach of the enthusiastic aunt and the passerby who took decisive action for the second time can be judged as to which one is better and which one is worse.
I always believe that there are no poorly educated children in the world, only wrong education methods and incompetent parents. Educating children should be "grasp with both hands, both hands must be strong", not only to let the children feel the meticulous warmth and care, We also need to let our children know when enough is enough, have principles and a bottom line. When there are signs of bad behavior, habits and psychology in a child, decisive measures must be taken promptly to curb it, otherwise the child will be pushed into the abyss and create a "devil" for society.
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