When we were young, we were always compared by our parents with other people’s children. Our parents envied other people’s children, but at the same time we also envied other people’s parents.
Parents are their children's first teachers and their best teachers. A child's character is also deeply influenced by his parents, who are also the light in a child's life.
Children's childhood is very fast. If we miss a good education for them, the regret will be irreparable.
Let us learn to be excellent parents together!
first
Controlling emotions
Controlling emotions may be difficult for many parents, and it is easy for bad emotions to break out in life. Sometimes we think about it, why are we so easily ignited?
To summarize: We don’t understand children’s growth patterns and their whimsical world.
There are many well-known parenting books now. Parents may wish to buy a few more and read them. Maybe you can get the answer.
Parents should not infect their children with their bad moods. When you think about
I am happy, the children will be optimistic and healthy.
If I am irritable, the children will be sensitive and have low self-esteem. How many people can put down their mobile phones after get off work and seriously play games and chat with their children?
If we can't meet each other at night, will we get up earlier in the morning and have breakfast with our children?
If parents can read more, ask more, listen more, and think more, it is related to the growth of their children and not just their grades. If they are not absent from their children's growth, they will not regret their children's future!
Ask your children how they feel when something happens, listen carefully to their thoughts, and even if they are irrelevant thoughts, imagine them from their perspective.
Nothing you buy can compare to the high-quality companionship of your parents. This is the most important education for children's physical and mental health.
Third
Reflect on yourself
Children are the mirror of their parents, and their behavior often reflects their parents' upbringing.
When a child makes a mistake, besides scolding the child, do we reflect on ourselves? Is it because we haven’t taught them before, or haven’t insisted on educating them, or are some of our own unintentional words and deeds affecting our children?
Only when we learn to reflect can we find the root of the problem!
Fourth
Don’t compare yourself to others
When we were children, we were disgusted by our parents who would say, “Look at how so-and-so’s children are so good, and why are you so bad?” Now that we've suffered so much, let's not put our children through it again.
Every child is an independent individual. He is who he is, a firework with different colors.
Fifth
Appreciating children
If we set very high standards for our children from the beginning and look at that high point every day, we will be very anxious and ignore the shining points of our children.
is good at discovering the shining points of children, and sincerely praises and praises him. Even if he ate one more bite of food than yesterday, you can praise him for making a little progress compared to yesterday, and for growing taller/prettier.
Children can tell whether adults really like them, so don't be casual and perfunctory!
Sixth
Teaching by words and deeds
Children will imitate adults from 6 months old, so our good habits in life should first be reflected in our parents. When we show it, let ourselves become role models for our children .
If you can't do something, don't force your child to do it. For example, if you always use your mobile phone to watch videos or play games in front of your children, you still ask your children not to play with their mobile phones!
When you can do it, your children will naturally follow you and be convinced of you without forcing them.
Seventh
Dare to admit mistakes
Even if many parents make mistakes, because they are adults, admitting mistakes to their children will lose face and lose prestige. On the contrary, if you can admit your mistakes to your children, your children will look up to you and treat you as a friend.
Eighth
Keep your word
"Mom and Dad, will you accompany me to the beach during the summer vacation?"
If you can't spare time, don't just agree to it without thinking about it just to perfuse your children. The child expects you to take him to play every day. After waiting for so long, it is all in vain. You can imagine his disappointment and discomfort.
If parents can't do it, don't make promises to their children easily. When a child is disappointed again and again, he no longer has hope in his parents. If his parents can’t be trusted, who do you want him to trust?
Ninth
Husband and wife relationship No. 1
Parental love and a harmonious and warm family atmosphere are the foundation for children's growth. If parents rarely argue, children in such a family can learn the father's responsibility to the family and the mother's diligence and kindness. It allows him to have sufficient security and become a powerful person.
We are also first-time parents. Of course, we are not perfect, but we can learn to become excellent parents ourselves, so that our children can be excellent, and their future lives will be more exciting than ours!
What do you think you have accomplished and become a parent in the eyes of other children?
I am Lao Huang, a full-time mother of two children. Follow me and let’s communicate and share with each other on the road to parenting!
pictures come from the Internet. If there is any infringement, please contact us to delete it!
articles may not be reproduced without permission!
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-