Editing: Little Junior Sister
We often don't understand why children suddenly drop so much grades. I believe this is something that most parents are very worried about.
There are many reasons for the decline of children's grades, but the problems that are easily overlooked by us may have to be found from the parents.
For example, quarrels, parents may think that this is just a problem between adults, how can it affect the children?
As long as there is a quarrel at home, the child’s stress level will increase sharply. When the child’s stress level is high and cortisol secretes too much, it will harm the hippocampus. The hippocampus is responsible for memory and learning, so if we understand , Our brains can be injured, we know how much it hurts to be around the child every day, constantly accusing and nagging.
is a lot of mothers who do not feel the harm they have caused to their children. They think it is normal. I am nagging you for what you are afraid of?
is the kind of nagging full of love, that is, nagging, nagging, but you just have to think about it in reverse; if your leader is by your side every day, nagging you like this, try Try it, it will be extremely painful. It is a chronic stress, and this chronic stress will damage the child's brain and make it produce cortisol.
Then the most important thing is that these pressures will make his prefrontal cortex underdeveloped, or the prefrontal cortex develops slowly, so you can observe this child.
This is why it is said that the effect of family education can be seen from the children, and the state of their family can be seen.
Where does the development of the prefrontal cortex of the brain come from? From you, let him have a sense of control, allow him to have the right to choose, and allow him to make decisions about many of his own things. You can start to do such things when your child is one to two years old. Before the age of three,
can help him develop the prefrontal cortex very well. We can see that a person is "calm, sensible, and mature" and looks like an adult because the prefrontal cortex of his brain has grown.
But if you deprive him of this part of the function, you scold him all day, threaten him all day, always say that I gave you away, or even push him outside the door, close the door for him, every day I'm nervous with you, what happens when I'm nervous? That is, the prefrontal cortex of the brain stops working, is offline, and is underdeveloped, giving all decision-making power to the amygdala.
The amygdala’s method is to fight, either fight or be soft, and soft is that there are many children who flatter parents, and then constantly cater to parents, pretending to be particularly well-behaved in front of parents, in fact, just to be able to live safely and smoothly, and The time the parents spend together loses the possibility of fully developing his prefrontal cortex.
So if you really want to understand how to make a child have self-control, it is to allow his prefrontal cortex to develop enough. This development comes from giving him enough choice space to give him a sense of control.
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