Everyone in the world is an independent living individual, and individual characteristics vary widely. Due to mutual comparison, discrimination arises. Tall and short, fat and thin, fair and dark, produce physical differences; workers or farmers, dignitaries or civilians, produce differences in origin; high or low education, more or less wealth, large or small powers, produce social differences. As a result, we look at the people around us with a discriminating mind. Next, there is the distinction between mine, yours, his, ours, and yours. There are many things that I think are good, but you don’t have them, and I have them, which leads to complacency, and what you have, and I don’t have, leads to resentment. When something sad happens to one's own family, one is devastated, and when something goes wrong for someone else's family, one takes pleasure in others' misfortunes.
But the reality is that each of us is actually equal in terms of individual life, personality and dignity, but secular elements often give people the illusion that high status, wealth, and fame will make them superior to others. The resulting self-feeling is good, even arrogant, and ultimately makes one lose his life, and everything attached to his life disappears.
reported an incident a few years ago. When a senior official drove past a bicycle repair stall, a bicycle to be repaired fell down and scratched the paint of the senior official's luxury car. Senior officials made unreasonable demands for sky-high compensation to the car repair stall owners in terms of maintenance fees, depreciation expenses, and lost work expenses, etc., and threatened to destroy the car repair stalls if they did not pay compensation. The owner of a car repair stall had a daughter who was in school and a wife who was taking medicine all year round and could not do heavy work. The family's livelihood depended on the income from the car repair stall. Senior officials forced the stall owner to go home and collect the money. On the short road, the stall owner thought about how he could not collect the compensation amount of several thousand yuan. He was so frustrated that he simply took a long knife and stabbed the wife and daughter of the senior official who joined the scolding, killing both of them.
When a person is not reverent enough for life or the lives of others, violence is likely to deprive you of your life. In the face of fresh life, God is fair. If you can let go of everything the world has brought to us, you will choose to treat others without distinction, but this is not an easy thing. Laozi said that the old and the old are like others, and the young are like the young. In fact, they are talking about treating others without distinction.
Life spans only a few decades, from birth to death. The time we stay in this world is not long. There are only 24 hours in a day. How to use time and live a good life must be chosen. How to allocate your time, what things to invest your time in, and who to associate with, but you have to choose. Many people say that you need to make friends with reliable people, but the prerequisite is that you must be a reliable person. When making friends, you can't make equal efforts. To make friends worth making friends, of course, the premise is that you are worth making friends with. There is a principle in communication, which is to communicate upward, but you must have a certain foundation to do it, and you must constantly improve your own value, otherwise you will eventually be eliminated if you squeeze into a circle. Secondly, we must improve our own structure and realm, that is, we must elevate our own ideals and values. Only when we have the same ambitions can we be inseparable and walk side by side towards the distance. Many people are inefficient and spend too much time on ineffective social interactions. In fact, they socialize too much, too frequently, and too casually.
In the large web of interpersonal relationships, we cannot guarantee that everyone we interact with is valuable, nor can we guarantee that every interaction will be fruitful, but we can stick to one principle, which is to stay away from people with negative energy and block garbage people. No bad person in the world thinks that he is a bad person. He will think that he is a good person. If he realizes his "badness", it is possible to correct it. Why not change it, because he thinks he is good. If a person is bad and realizes that he is bad, it is basically impossible because he no longer has narcissism. People stay in this world because of a certain degree of narcissism. Some people say that if a person wants to improve his EQ, he must have a high enough IQ, because people with high IQs will reflect on their own shortcomings.Therefore, for people with negative energy and garbage people, it is enough to stay away or shield them. There is no need to expose them or attack them. It is most important to protect yourself.
Once I told my daughter that in interpersonal relationships, you should kiss a gentleman, and even more, you should kiss a villain. My daughter didn't understand. I said that if an open-minded gentleman is offended, he will fight back in an aboveboard way, but if he is a narrow-minded villain, he will attack in an indiscriminate way, leaving people defenseless. To be kind to a villain means not to be against him, to turn a blind eye, to give him a small favor when necessary, and of course not to dislike him from the bottom of your heart. On this basis, stay away if you can, and avoid if you suffer a loss.
Many things in the world seem to be opposites, but they can all be unified after all. How to find harmonious unity among contradictions requires changing your own thinking mode. Before that, you still need to learn to read, think and summarize like an ascetic.
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