Happiness can also be called joy, happiness, pleasure, happiness, etc. From the source, it is a kind of emotion. However, although there are many types of emotions, if you are asked to choose one emotion, the vast majority of people will choose happiness. Therefore, in reality, many people have unconsciously equated a happy life with good emotional regulation. Once you are unhappy, you often immediately think of emotional regulation.
But how can we achieve good emotional regulation?
Xiaoyao believes that under the potential influence of the "profit-seeking nature", most people usually choose methods that seem simple and have relatively obvious effects.
For example, when you are about to lose your temper, tell yourself to take a deep breath and count to three. For another example, when you feel nervous, close your eyes and count to 100, or recite " Heart Sutra " 10 times.
It is undeniable that practices similar to these sometimes have obvious effects on some people. However, for most beginners, it takes a lot of practice for it to really work. And most beginners often give up after practicing a few times without success. The seemingly simple method of
is often just the so-called simplicity that we ignore the specific implementation process. And when we ignore the specific implementation process, "wisdom", an important factor in ensuring a happy life, is also ignored by us unknowingly.
Wisdom, in general, is a comprehensive reflection of a person's ability to analyze, judge, evaluate problems and solve problems . What we call brain-based thinking is mainly the process of analyzing and solving problems. To be fair, as long as you deal with the world, you need the role of wisdom.
However, in reality, there are too many people who immediately shy away from using their brains. Is it that hard to use your brain? Or is using your brain a scary thing? Isn’t it a joyful thing to use wisdom to analyze and solve problems rationally?
Otherwise, it is not surprising that there are too many people who hope to use emotional regulation to achieve a happy life by avoiding the role of wisdom, and ultimately fail in vain.
There are several types of lazy people: lazy hands, lazy feet, and lazy brains. Being lazy is the worst thing to do.
When you are about to get angry, take a deep breath and count to 3, it is just an external appearance. You must also quickly analyze the possible causes of anger in your mind, and then make reasonable decisions and actions. When you focus on specific things rather than emotions, your emotions will often calm down naturally, and calming down your emotions will also help new wisdom burst out and better solve the problems you face.
can also do similar analysis when it encounters its own nervousness.
In fact, emotional regulation and the application of wisdom are like a pair of entangled "quanta". You can't live without me, and I can't live without you. The greater the emotion, the more the role of wisdom will be ignored, and the more difficult it will be to effectively analyze and solve problems; the greater the role of wisdom, the more the emotion will be ignored, and the more difficult it will be to effectively analyze and solve problems. When the problem is solved and a lot of new income is generated, doesn't happiness follow?
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