"Gold always shines", when did it appear?
encouraged!
Another way of saying it is "comfort", and another way of saying it is "anesthesia".
There are always people who think that gold does not need proof, and it will shine brightly when it is taken out, and it will be automatically recognized as a valuable precious metal . But reality tells us that even with an appraisal certificate, others will still authenticate it in person; more realistically, this opportunity to be appraised is not easy to come up.
what should you do?
insists on the fact that he is gold, firmly believes that gold will always shine, and then, when his hair is gray, his talents are useless but there is no place to use them? Or should we work hard to find opportunities to prove ourselves? When opportunities come, seize them; if there are no opportunities, create opportunities; if opportunities cannot be created, then there is no harm in chickens crowing and dogs stealing, no harm in conspiracy, no harm in intrigues?
Teacher Guo Degang has a saying that goes well: Before success, talent can only be measured in terms of "tuo".
I am gold, why should I be covered with a rag?
I am gold, I should shine like this, and I should be worth this money!
There is no chance, but you still need to work hard; when the opportunity comes, don't hesitate and seize it.
Deputy Political Commissar Ming of the Military Region took a fancy to Zhou Bingyi's talent and prepared to promote him to his secretary. However, the identity of Zhou Bingyi's fiancée Hao Dongmei affected this appointment.
If I want to go to the military region, I will break up with Hao Dongmei. What should I do? Zhou Bingyi was hesitant:
How are you thinking about it? The military region is still waiting for a reply
If I don’t break up with Hao Dongmei, I can’t go to work in the military region, right?
What do you think?
Is it okay to speak
Talk about it
Break up
Tell me, why is this Xiaodong willing to follow me? Because she fell in love with me. I heard someone say that love is not the destination of the relationship between men and women. The ultimate destination of the relationship between men and women is marriage. Love can be regardless of everything, but marriage cannot
The first principle of persuading people : Put yourself in the other person's shoes and consider the problem from the other person's perspective.
Zhou Bingyi gave up this rare opportunity for Hao Dongmei, which certainly fell into the category of "desperate". This is the power of love, and impulse accounts for a large part, but this is not the final destination. Zhou Bingyi's sacrifice may not be able to exchange for anything.
You must believe in love, but you must also leave yourself a chance to "wait".
and so on?
and other changes!
Wait for changes in the other person, changes in yourself, and changes in feelings.
If it remains unchanged, there is no need for the eternal vow;
If it changes, the eternal vow is useless;
So, from a realistic point of view, marriage is the ultimate belonging. With this framework, you can and must sacrifice; love is not, it should be viewed dialectically and treated rationally.
Of course, marriages are also different in nature. Yao Lisong’s words have a major premise:
You don’t worry about her
Worry about her crossing the river and burning the bridge, right? Let’s do it now It is military marriage . If she wants to divorce, she must obtain the consent of the soldier himself. This is Marriage Law
Let's get back to the point. If you are transferred to the military area, you will be at the deputy regiment level and active duty. I have been a soldier for 20 years, and now I am a deputy regiment.
Of course, you are more talented than me, but my hard work can make up for my shortcomings. When I was in the company, I was always the best at the things I was assigned to do. When it came to extra tasks, such as sweeping the yard and cleaning the toilets, I was at the forefront. No one could compete with me.
I have been in the army for twenty years, and I have only taken eight leave. My wife and children have always lived in my hometown in the south. The reason why I did not let them join the army is because I am afraid of their hardship. To tell you the truth, I went home to visit relatives several times, and my own son called me uncle when he met me.
Although the marriage of ordinary people is the same, it is always the same. Compared with love and marriage, it is indeed a bit vulnerable.
As for Yao Lisong's explanation of his personal situation, he put himself in his shoes and thought about the problem from Zhou Bingyi's perspective. At this time, Zhou Bingyi's "breakup" can match Yao Lisong's 20 years of hard work. This is reality, this is an opportunity that is hard to find.
Should I seize this opportunity? Yao Lisong has further explained:
is too far-fetched. What about you, Bingyi, to succeed, you need talent, hard work, but also luck. For example, when you came to the division last time to inspect, if it was not the Deputy Political Commissar Ming, or if it was not the person responsible for receiving the reception, what would happen? You are still you, if you work hard, you will have it again. Talent, you have to stay here, and suck up step by step, but you have a good fortune, right? Now, a big pie has fallen from the world
"boil" and cook in water. It is difficult; "climbing" and using hands and feet together, it is even more difficult; if you have to divide talent, hard work and luck into proportions, then talent accounts for 2%, hard work accounts for 8%, and the remaining 90% may have to wait for opportunities and luck.
There is no chance. No matter how hard you work and talent you have, you are still you. You cannot achieve transformation or sublimation. At most, you will make your leader praise you for your "work hard" and then let you continue to shine in your position.
So, Zhou Bingyi waited for the favor of God, but he thought this pie was also risky:
is a good metaphor. The pie fell from the sky, the pie fell from the sky, regardless of air resistance, the pie in the sky is free fall , one times ten times one thousand equals ten thousand, and the impact force of 10,000 kilograms hits people
, that is, even if you don’t die, you will be seriously injured. Hao Dongmei is so important, understand, I am younger,
If you want to agree, you can always find a reason; if you want to refuse, there will always be excuses; Is Hao Dongmei important?
Everyone has been young, because of love, Hao Dongmei is the only one and irreplaceable, and any opportunity that can change her destiny cannot be replaced.
It is difficult to find a way to achieve both ways, but Yao Lisong thought of the editorial on People's Daily , and planned to give this newspaper to the leader and try his best to get it:
I asked the director to go to
The director said it and it didn't count
, so let the master use this to communicate and coordinate with the superior. That is better than being stupid here
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, 我们文, don't believe that what gold is always shining, it's all nonsense. According to my more than thirty years of life experience, even if it is covered by a ragged rag, the gold will never shine. In just one sentence, the opportunity comes, firmly grasp
Comrades, remember, the opportunity comes, firmly grasp it!
But opportunities and risks are equal, opportunities are more balanced with sacrifice. Only when there is losses can there be gains, and only when there is giving up can there be additional gains. Can you bear this risk? Can you accept this sacrifice? We always say that we should abandon morality, but people always have a conscience. Some giving up will make one's conscience uneasy and even repeatedly entangle one's life.
Measure rationally, compare clearly, and then give your choice seriously, and accept the result of "willing to accept the loss".
Director praised you, saying that you wrote this speech well, and you don’t need to touch a punctuation mark. Why did I write it? I just wrote the first draft. In the end, you modified
. If I didn’t say that I like colleagues like you, I can do it and do it without taking credit. To be honest, if I really consider myself, I really can’t bear to leave you
Know
What do you know? You are still so confused. Bingyi. The most important thing for this man is career. With a career, everything will happen. Listen to me, break up with Hao Dongmei quickly. I just asked the director. It is still time to divide up
as a colleague. Zhou Bingyi has nothing to say, otherwise he would not have received such real guidance and persuasion from Yao Lisong. But Yao Lisong is an experienced person. The sober and experience reality that experienced people have will generally not be accepted by young people.
People can’t teach others, and words of experience are useless; if you teach people by doing things, you can achieve success in one go. It doesn’t matter whether you suffer big or small losses. Only when things concern yourself will you be sufficiently vigilant.
Yao Lisong’s thirty years of experience and lessons tell him: The most important thing for a man is his career. Only with a career can he be confident, and with a career can he earn enough money to relieve his worries. After having a career, Hao Dongmei may not come back, but Li Dongmei, Yang Dongmei, and Hu Dongmei will come again.
It's just that Yao Lisong ignored one of the most critical issues, which is also an issue that people who have experienced it will no longer care about:
You didn't ask Hao Dongmei's father's final conclusion
The conclusion is that they are unrepentant capitalist roaders and do not belong to the category mentioned in the "People's Daily" editorial
Bingyi, make a decision quickly
At this time, Breaking up with her under such circumstances is equivalent to killing her.
It is indeed quite pitiful
Not because of pity
It is because of love
to
Because of love, because of the feelings that Yao Lisong has experienced but will never believe again, because everyone who has experienced it will be disappointed but young people will be desperate for love. This process is beautiful, beautiful enough to make people give up everything.
Even Yao Lisong doubted "could it be because of love", which shows that he knows the weight of "love". He knows how much debt of conscience Zhou Bingyi will bear for a long time if he chooses to break up. Therefore, Yao Lisong chose to support Zhou Bingyi in the end and swallowed the realistic lessons he had experienced.
Note that this is not a compromise, this is the dignity reserved for love, and the final confidence for all those who believe in love.
We must recognize the reality and seize the opportunity, because in this way we can live; but on this basis, we must also believe in love and the power of mutual support, because in this way we can live well.
Fortunately, "人世" gave Zhou Bingyi and Hao Dongmei a perfect explanation; fortunately, film and television works finally gave love a perfect opportunity.
If there is a choice between reality and love, what should you do?
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