Everyone is striving for a perfect life. However, since ancient times and present, there is no 100% perfect life at home and abroad. After all, on the road of life, it is not always a smooth road.
Everything is imperfect, life always has shortcomings, and incompleteness is the norm in life. The greatest sobering thing for adults is to be their true self.
1, accept the impermanence of fate
1, life ups and downs are unpredictable, everyone will always experience some bumpy roads.
I saw a story: There was a businessman who was engaged in ocean trade. When his career was booming, he suddenly encountered a shipwreck and suffered heavy losses. His years of hard work were in vain.
But he did not lament and complain, but chose to accept it. He took advantage of his career to get married and have children, and gained a beautiful love and a warm family.
Everything in the world is always moving and changing, just as the idiom "lost in the east, harvest in the mulberry", there are gains and losses in life, after the wind and rain, there is sunshine, and at the end of darkness is dawn.
In this life, people will always experience some pain, joy, success and failure, which are all part of life. Only by accepting every part of your life can you truly accept your life.
2. Accepting the ordinary life
Writer Zhou Guoping said: "Everything in the world is extraordinary, and in the end, we must return to the ordinary, and we must measure its value with ordinary life.
Great, wonderful, and success are nothing. Only by truly living an ordinary life well can life be perfect. "
cartoon " McDull Story ", McDull is a simple and optimistic little pig, not handsome, average-minded, grew up in a single-parent family, and lived a not-rich life with his mother. He once fantasized that fate could turn around and that life would be more exciting, but he was always a small person with mediocre qualifications.
Despite this, McDull worked hard to create a better life in the alternation of hope and disappointment, and felt very happy.
We must also learn to accept our ordinary selves and live seriously and steadily in ordinary days.
3. Regulate negative emotions
Emotion is our subjective psychological experience of external things, and everyone is different. When you see the same half cup of water, someone will say, "Oh, there is only half cup of water." This is a negative feeling of regret. Some people will say, "It's great, there's half a glass of water!" This is a positive feeling of gratitude.
The quality of emotions will directly affect our physical health and work efficiency.
Harvard University once conducted a survey and analysis on 1,600 heart disease patients, and found that these patients had long-term negative emotions such as anxiety and depression, three times more than ordinary people.
If you want to control your emotions, you must understand and accept your emotions and improve your emotional intelligence. People with high emotional intelligence can quickly identify and regulate their emotions, consider other people's emotions, and get along with them makes people feel like they are in spring; people with low emotional intelligence often fall into bad emotions, only care about themselves, hurt themselves and others.
Mo Yan said: "The real strength is not forgetting, but acceptance. Accept the impermanence of the world, accept loneliness and frustration, accept the sudden sense of powerlessness, accept your own imperfection, accept all confusion, anxiety, anxiety and regrets. Adjust your state, find the power to continue moving forward, and become a better self."
The greatest soberness of adults is to be the real self.
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