is becoming increasingly discovered that if a person is full of shame and lacks confidence, no matter how he dresses or what kind of brand of clothes he wears, he will not be sexy. Because the matter of sexiness is the appreciation and acceptance of oneself in the heart, and the core of sexiness is vitality.
Many girls feel that they can’t get over a little bit when they encounter small things, but their vitality is too weak, which leads to their constant fall into the quagmire of “bad life”. So how can they have vigorous vitality?
01 Full of curiosity, with a strong desire to explore
Sexy, psychologically speaking, is a strong attraction that will make one person curious about another life. If a person is not curious enough about the world and does not explore himself in depth, sexy is just an external pursuit, and on the contrary, it is a brand engraved in his bones.
Take myself as an example. Many friends always ask me: "How do you talk to all kinds of strangers or familiar people?"
is actually very simple. It is not that I am born with very strong communication skills, but that I always have a strong curiosity about others, curious about how other humans view a certain thing or a problem, and whether there are more possibilities in life...
When I keep curious, communication becomes a natural thing, and my heart will drive me to do this.
For example, friends often ask: "How do you have the courage to experience challenging new things and new areas?" Or return to curiosity. I am curious about what this thing is. I am curious about myself after learning something new and iteratively updated...
So stay curious, you can always focus on a broader place and have more sexy beauty of life experience.
02 Actively search for the inner strength of life
Regarding sexiness, I agree with the saying: Beauty is in the bones but not in the skin. Women who become more and more sexy as they live, cannot live without the four words "inner power". Finding inner strength can be done in two ways:
1) Request inward.
For example, myself, is always full of confidence in myself, because I understand that even if the sky falls, I can rely on is never others, but myself.
Take my experience in the past few years of work. From accounting to editor-in-chief, from editor-in-chief to advertising industry and now starting a business, every step has been very big. Now I think I can get pretty good results. One of the important reasons is that I feel I can do it every moment of .
Sometimes I am particularly amazed at the surging sense of self-confidence in myself, but then I think about it, everything I have now is obtained by trusting myself and believing in myself.
Rely on one's own strength to get out of the thorns, continue to grow, and continue to feed back oneself. I am ambitious and ready to explore my potential. The bigger I move forward, the wider the road will be.
Trust yourself and feel your own strength, and you are already full of power.
2) Request from outside.
More people and things that nourish yourself and gain life energy. is something I have only learned recently. It is really important. I hate myself for not getting earlier.
What is the person who can nourish you? The kind of person who stays together can make you more confident, calmer, gentler and more beautiful. For example, since I changed my previous boyfriend who made me irritable and uneasy, my life has become much brighter.
What is the thing that nourishes you? Things that make you warm, safe, happy...
For example, I myself: there are always one or two books I like at the head of the bed, and I will be calm when I read them; the refrigerator is full of my favorite vegetables, fruits, wine and coffee, which can be opened at any time, and a full sense of security; after getting up for an hour in the morning, I feel refreshed on the yoga mat...
How to do it specifically?
You can take a notebook and sort out the relatives and friends around you. Those who always hit you and make you uncomfortable will reduce social distance with them as much as possible, and those who make you better will increase the frequency of social interaction with them.
There is a saying that I like very much. The antonym of anxiety is specific . lists an event list that can make you feel happy, complete it one by one , even if you go to see the sunrise and make a collection of sunsets you take photos by yourself... Read more literary works, especially novels, experience the author's spiritual world, don't always read theoretical books, experience life...
to nourish your life and increase your life energy.
03 Liberate your desire for life
There is not so much to do, there is not so much to do, don’t suppress your desires (as long as you don’t break the law, do not violate public order and good customs), if you want to do it, do it.
For example, you just don’t want to go to work this year. When you think about working, you want to die on the spot. Then, while ensuring that you don’t starve to death, you can take a rest for a year...
Liberate social discipline and the shackles on your own life, constantly broaden your horizons in your life. The more you live, the more powerful the river of life will be.
04 Learn to play the spirit
It seems that as people get older, they are less and less allowed to play and enjoy themselves.
But when you do something in a state of fun, you can relax and be comfortable. Playing is a very sexy state. Playing is to please yourself, not paying much attention to the result of something, and enjoying the process of doing it.
When you please yourself, you no longer care about what people around you think, you no longer care about what people around you think, you are not trying to win any awards... Then there will be a continuous stream of life energy to find you. Relax, okay?
Finally, I would like to share with you my recent situation - gap year is starting a business. I think my current state can be regarded as realizing a relative freedom.
When I do what I like and think it is right, I will have a sense of purpose and value. Although I may have to worry about more things than when I was at work and I am busier, I will not feel that empty and aimless, and I am happy even if I am a little tired.
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