article|Yu FeiRang
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In life, there are always some moments that make people feel very helpless and extremely painful, as if they are stepped on to the lowest point by fate.
In the midst of terror and helplessness, few people realize that this is a life experience.
How to learn to get out of the trough depends on:
A person can stabilize his mentality, maintain a calm rhythm, and survive well;
Can deposit all the frivolous and frivolous youth, keep a low profile, and keep a down-to-earth;
dare to break through and start a new life.
These are the three abilities that need to be most needed for counterattacks at low prices: stable mentality, precipitation, and breaking the deadlock.
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stable mentality: things come to adapt, and at that time it is not mixed with
Guiguzi said: "Enjoy and Xu are honest and honest, and they are all flesh. Good and not quiet, be humble and calm, and wait for losses. Right main position."
When problems occur in life, you must learn to adjust your mentality in time. Only by being calm can you not be tied by the current difficulties when encountering things and be confused.
I have seen such a story.
Lulu originally had a comfortable life. She worked as the project director of in a foreign company, which can be regarded as a win between fame and fortune. I have my own company at home and my revenue has always been very good. But unexpectedly, the industry shocked and her company was on the verge of bankruptcy. She was restless and had problems with the company project she was responsible for and was interviewed by the company.
At that time, Lulu would stay in the room as long as she didn't go to work, lying still, crying.
What's worse is that my mother suffered a sudden stroke. Lulu feels that she is the most unlucky person in the world.
After my mother was discharged from the hospital, the family moved from a large house of 200 square meters to a narrow rental house.
Thinking of the considerable amount of medical expenses and the current situation where they are not rich, Lulu's mood fell to the extreme. I wonder how to get through such a day?
Compared to Lulu's collapse, Lulu's condition surprised her father.
After my father handled the company's affairs, he found a "temporary worker" in the neighborhood next door - to give the express delivery a replacement to see the package, and only need lunch and dinner time every day. In this way, he basically has time to take care of his mother. At other times, my father would do his best to take care of the flowers and plants at home. They will clean the house without slacking off and make the simple hut tidy and bright. My father even started to cook, although he was often busy at the beginning.
Lulu only saw peace in her father, as if her family had never encountered bad things such as bankruptcy and mother seriously ill.
Lulu didn't understand her father a little, but her mother told her with red eyes: "Your dad said that as long as the sky doesn't fall, life will still be the same."
A word woke up from the dream.
Yes, no matter how bad life is, life is still going forward. Whether you live in a daze or in a vibrant way is all up.
Influenced by her father, she began to adjust her mindset, work actively, and live a good life every day.
encounters a trough period, and being able to quickly stabilize your mentality is an indispensable ability.
When everything is difficult, first stabilize your mind, don’t panic, and be out of order, let yourself focus on what you should do, make things "impermanent" in the world and "everything" in everything you accomplish.
Only by calming one's mind can one be in a state of chaos.
First follow the ultimate move that life gives us, and then keep a fulcrum for yourself to get up from the mud in a quiet and orderly manner, and hope will come back to life.
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Status accumulation: the road is long and long, and then it will reach
Someone asked: "Which kind of person is the first to get up in the trough?"
The highest praise answer is: "I have been working hard to improve myself silently."
When we encounter a cold wave and our own conditions are scarce, if we want to get rid of this embarrassment, we need to rest and recuperate the energy to fight against difficulties.
A young man, after graduating from college, got a job in a magazine. A few years later, he wrote a novel, but the response after publication was mediocre.
Immediately afterwards, he was fired for negligence and had to look for a job again. The money he had already spent was almost the same. The work has not yet been settled.
He fell ill and the doctor told him that he needed to be hospitalized for a long time.
On the bed, he felt like a stone was blocked in his heart. had difficulty breathing, and his limbs were stiff. He felt "nearly dying".
He decided to save himself, ignore the overwhelming pain, divert his attention, and study mystery novels.
Two years later, when he was discharged from the hospital, he read more than 2,000 mystery novels without realizing it.
Life is still in chaos, but he has calmed down and written manually. A few years later, he carefully delivered all the manuscripts to the editor. Surprisingly, this novel became very popular as soon as it was published.
This is the story of Fan Dain, the "father of American mystery novels".
In the "moment of life", we need to rebuild the past An unstable foundation of life, give yourself time, accumulate confidence and upward strength.
people are at a low point, and can develop skills quietly. Even if you accumulate little by little every day, it is the capital that can turn over.
is as in the "Cicada of Seventeen Years" written by Yishu : "Dig a hole, hide it, practice diligently, train troops secretly, and wait one day to break out of the ground. It must be like 7-year cicada , mixing with the fragrance of osmanthus, and singing and blooming, and everyone knows it. ”
Press down on all the powerlessness, grievances and sufferings. When our impetuous heart calms down, the suspended feet can step on the ground steadily.
" Motto Joining " says: Beyond self-improvement, the supreme technique of man.
Every effort you put into at a low point will quietly stun the years on a certain day in the future.
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Break the deadlock and think about change: Those who know the situation will live, and those who break the situation will live
" Caigen Tan " There is a saying in " Caigen Tan ": There is a saying in "missation comes without worry, it depends on him to save it.
A strong man will not be content with the "death" situation arranged by God for him, but will "live" it.
When he makes up his greatest determination and uses all resources and strength to change the status quo, the situation will reverse, and in the midst of danger, he will kill his own way, which is breaking the deadlock.
l1 movie "Never Compromise" is based on a real event in the United States:
A woman who doesn't even have a legal professional background, but as an assistant in a law firm, spent more than a year, and with the courage and perseverance of never compromising, she won the largest civil compensation case in the history of the United States. She won the largest compensation in the history of American litigation - $333 million.
The woman is named Irene.
Irene was the champion of a beauty pageant, but after she got married, her marriage was not smooth.
After two failed marriages, she lived a difficult life with her three children alone, but unfortunately she encountered a traffic accident, and then she lost the compensation lawsuit that she was determined to win, and she lived in a difficult situation.
But she did not compromise with her life at a low point.
Erin begged her lawyer to hire her and spend her days working in a law firm. One day, Erin accidentally found some very suspicious medical documents in a pile of documents about assets and debts, and soon discovered a major environmental pollution incident hidden in the local community through investigation.
This time, she did not compromise with a strong large company, but helped people get out of danger and get the compensation they deserve.
Her life has so many ups and downs, but she used her extremely tenacious perseverance to overcome unimaginable difficulties, and gradually overcome the seemingly insurmountable siege, turning all the grievances given by God into a fight back full of desire to survive.
proves to the world the value of a "weak woman" and opens up a new world on the road of life.
The first thing you need to do is courage. Every opponent has weaknesses, and so does every game, with its weakest points.
A person’s life will not be destroyed or established!
Many people don’t die in life experience at all, but give up finding ways to get out of trouble.
Things in the world are like chess, but if you want to win, you need to learn to play. What we break is not only the opponent's situation, but also the situation in life.
Only by calming yourself first and living as usual can you deal with it more firmly; change your impetuous behavior and concentrate on increasing your abilities; and ultimately fight for the right to dominate your future with fearless heart.
The rare thing in life is to be calm, not be surprised when things change, not be confused when encountering things, and finally seek victory in stability.
Author Profile: Yu Feirang, the author of reading books at 10 o'clock, with a book signed; his works are scattered in magazines and journals such as " Yilin ", "Marriage and Family", " Zhiyin ", " Prose Hundred Schools ", etc. Motto: People always have good intentions, and dreams are also beautiful.
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