Nothing is difficult in the world, and mediocre people disturb them.
The reason why we live so tiring is because we have too many irrelevant but extremely harmful people and things in our hearts.
In life, there are inevitably many unsatisfactory things, and there will always be a lot of regrets and regrets. When we are very lost and have nowhere to vent, many people start to "resent the world".
Blame God for not opening his eyes, blaming others for not doing anything for themselves, but for not being able to calm down and reflect on themselves. This is not only a kind of sorrow, but also a kind of stupidity.
What is our first reaction when we encounter problems? Should we shift the responsibility to the environment and others, or should we think of our own responsibilities first?
There is a wife who has been complaining about the laziness of the other woman for many years. "That woman's clothes can never be washed clean. Look, the clothes she hangs in the outer yard always have spots. I really don't know why she even washes clothes like that...."
Until one day, a friend who was keen on her house came to her house and found that the clothes that were not the opposite woman could not be washed clean. A careful friend took a rag, wiped off the gray stains on the wife's window, and said, "Look, isn't this clean?"
It turned out that the window of his home was dirty.
" Mencius " says: "If you don't have in your line, look for it in yourself." If you don't succeed in doing things, you will encounter setbacks and difficulties, or if you are not in good relationships, don't blame others, but reflect on yourself and find the reasons for yourself.
Everything is to look for the reasons from oneself. It is a kind of inner self-reflection, which is to make oneself live a more realistic life and allow noble people to gain the self-love and self-esteem they should have.
A young man told Qingjing:
Because of his honest personality, straightforwardness, offends people everywhere, and everything goes wrong;
After graduating from university, he entered society, but became more and more tired of the world. He felt that people in society do not like to listen to the truth, always like flattery and false feelings;
I don’t know how to go about the future, I really hope to go into the mountains and stay away from this world...
Qingjing told a story:
that year Nanyue Huairang Zen Master wanted to pass the lantern and tell Mazu. Seeing that Mazu meditated all day long, Zen Master Huairang greeted him, but Mazu ignored him.
Zhen Master Huairang took a brick to grind it on the ground in front of Mazu.
Mazu couldn't help asking: "Old Master, what are you doing?"
"Grinding bricks into mirrors."
"How can bricks be ground into mirrors? You are kidding!"
"Then I ask you, what are you doing?"
"Mediation!"
"What are you doing?"
"To become a Buddha!"
"The bricks cannot be ground into mirrors!"
"The bricks cannot be ground into mirrors!"
"What are you doing?"
"To become a Buddha!"
"The bricks cannot be ground into mirrors!"
"The bricks cannot be ground into mirrors!"
" Zi, can you become a Buddha by meditating? "
Mazu was stunned and asked, "What should I do?"
Huairang said, "For example, if a cow pulls a cart, the car doesn't leave, is it a cattle or a taxi?"
"Of course it's a cattle!"
Huairang said, "You are obviously taking a taxi now!"
Qingjing said: We are a cattle ourselves, and the objective conditions are a car. Whether to take a cattle or a taxi, it is obvious.
We live in the world, just like driving on the road, walking straight on the road, and walking in the bends. If a traffic accident occurs or goes into a ditch, you must reflect on your improper operation.
If you complain about the road being too many twists and turns, it has no value or meaning. We may not be able to decide external objective conditions, but it is completely possible to change ourselves.
The young man said: I am honest by nature, straightforward and quick-witted, it is difficult to change!
Jingjing said: Integrity and straightforwardness are not shortcomings, and they are even excellent qualifications for practice. However, when communicating with different people, you need to pay attention to attitudes and skills:
communicate with the elderly and do not forget his self-esteem;
communicate with men and do not forget his face;
communicate with women and do not forget her emotions;
communicate with superiors and do not forget his dignity;
communicate with youth and do not forget his directness;
communicate with children and do not forget his innocence.
An attitude towards the world will inevitably encounter walls everywhere; adapt to local conditions and vary from person to person, and you can reach all the world.
Young man said: I am full of fear and pessimism about my future. I feel that almost everyone in society is hypocritical, treacherous, selfish... I don’t know how to improve this state?
The three most wasteful things in the world:
1. Comment.
Others don’t live by you, let alone you may not understand everything about him. It is better to learn from others’ strengths and make up for your own weaknesses than to judge others’ strengths and weaknesses.
2. Blame.
Everyone can blame him, but he cannot change the status quo. The reason why we encourage each other is better than blame is that we not only improve ourselves but also make everyone happy.
3. Worry.
will only worry when you are not prepared enough or unable to change. The former requires action, while the latter requires letting go.
In the journey of life, people often carry two burdens, one of which says the faults of others and the other says their own faults.
However, when people walk the road of life, they often put the burden of writing other people's faults on their chests and the burden of writing their own faults behind them.
Many times, it is not that others restrict us in doing things, but that we restrict ourselves. Many difficulties were imagined by cowards. If you really do it, you will find that there is nothing.
Everything comes from your inner fear!
If we fail to do things, we should immediately turn our heads and look for the reasons from ourselves. Looking for reasons from oneself is a kind of inner self-reflection, which is to make oneself live a more realistic life and allow noble people to gain the self-love and self-esteem they should have.
After thinking about it, my heart suddenly became clear, and it was said that: "I understand, my heart is clear, and I will do my own things." Since this is the case, why don't we be selfish and "seek ourselves" more when encountering problems?
From now on, learn to use a normal mind to experience the troubles of the world and have the simplest happiness and happiness in the world.
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