On October 18th, the community has been blocked due to the epidemic, and it has been more than a month since then. My lover is in a foreign land, and I am trapped at my home in Lanzhou alone, living a life without socializing or accompanying me.
I am not worried about being alone. I like to use reading and thinking to occupy my free time, communicate and talk with books, and think that I can grasp the rhythm of time and enrich the days of being alone.
In November, the temperature in Lanzhou became colder day by day. After a few days after the beginning of winter, the sky was gloomy and thick. Suddenly, the room was a little cold. I sat at the desk and felt like I was coming. It was faint at the beginning, but gradually became thicker and thicker, just like a person was shrouded in the boundless forest by clouds, surrounded by mist and could only see myself.
I thought of loneliness.
Loneliness is a topic of life and a topic of life, and it seems to be another topic of philosophy.
loneliness and being alone seem to be not the same thing. Being alone is the state of a person in space, and loneliness is more about a state of mind and the self facing in this state of mind. You may be lonely when you are alone, but loneliness does not necessarily mean being alone. Some people feel lonely when they are gathered, while others feel rich when they are alone. This is the distance between being alone and being lonely.
Why do some people like loneliness, some people fear loneliness, some people seek loneliness, and some people resist loneliness.
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Aristotle said that people who like loneliness are either beasts or gods.
Does people who like loneliness must be mavericks?
Human beings are essentially clustered animals, pursuing larger and more community relationships. Compared with other animals, it is precisely because humans have learned to cluster that they have climbed to the top of biological chain .
In order to get out of loneliness, humans invented language. With language, there is a communication of various ideas and a rambling "gossip". Communication makes people progress, communication makes people unite, and "gossip" makes people understand each other.
Because of the group, humans have produced culture, formed civilization, and understood the rules and regulations. Humans and beasts are getting farther and farther away.
When do people start to yearn for loneliness? Perhaps the world is getting more and more lively. When people are too connected by the excitement, they want to break free and make themselves find themselves, or when a person is bored with the group, they choose to betray them.
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Schopenhauer said that one can become oneself when one is alone. If one does not love being alone, then he does not love freedom, because a person is truly free only when one is alone.
He also said that what we lost in the fun will definitely be regained in loneliness.
This is the loneliness of a philosopher, and Schopenhauer's loneliness are all issued in the "Loneliness Pass". I did not read this pass thoroughly, but I remembered: loneliness is the gift of life, and we must learn to accept all the loneliness in life calmly; either loneliness or vulgarity.
So is loneliness a necessity of life?
Schopenhauer said: Yes.
Whether you enjoy loneliness or be tortured by loneliness, it is a victory of freedom.
If you want to have loneliness, you must learn to be alone. Only when you are alone can you understand the meaning of loneliness, learn how to get along with this world, and learn to measure the distance between you and this world.
Is loneliness really free and happy? Only the lonely ones know that, as Zhuangzi said, "How can you know the joy of fish if you are not a fish?"
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Bacon says that lack of true friends is the purest and most pitiful loneliness, and without friendship, this world is just a wilderness. Anyone who is naturally unmatuous to make friends can be said to be from animals rather than from humans.
In " on Friendship ", he praises friends and lists the various benefits of friendship. He believes that personal happiness and progress must be inseparable from the nourishment and care of friendship.
Bacon doesn't seem to like loneliness. He longs for friends and friendship. He thinks that the city is a wilderness because friends are too far away. He said that as long as it is a human being, even those emperors "wholes" must create some friends to save loneliness.
I think Heshen is probably a friend of Qianlong's creation. The emperors and eunuchs of all dynasties were so close, but they were actually the emperor’s circle of friends.
Li Yu No longer become an emperor, he can only write poems to condemn loneliness.
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After reading " Walden ", I respected Thoreau . It was not only his article that was purely integrated into nature and exuded an organic smell, but also his lonely pursuit of moving forward in the world.
He chose to stay away from the hustle and bustle of the world, build a house and think about farming.
He said that loneliness is good for health most of the time. He never found a partner as good as loneliness. A person who thinks or works is always lonely, wherever he is.
He belittled social networking, believing that social networking will not gain new value, but is restricted by some old customs. "We live in a crowded environment, hindering each other and stumbling around each other, so we don't respect each other."
Thoreau is devoted to getting along with himself, communicating with nature, and talking to heaven and earth.
I thought of another person I admire but still cannot understand - Li Shutong . The two of them yearn for loneliness have different reasons, but they are both people who pursue loneliness without hesitation in difficulties and hardships.
Mr. Lu Xun said that beasts like to walk alone, and only cattle and sheep are in groups.
is visible, loneliness requires courage.
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The most shocking loneliness is Marcos' " Hundred Years of Lonely Lonely ". The reason why it is shocked is that this is more than a hundred years of loneliness, the loneliness of the entire Latin American , and the loneliness of a family for generations.
The loneliness of the Buendia family is essentially the same, but each has its own loneliness: some are lonely because of creation, some are lonely because of emotions, some are lonely because of power, and some are lonely because of revolution.
And I think the men in the Buendia family are more lonely than women. Perhaps men in this world are carrying more loneliness.
Marcos's view of loneliness is the same as Schopenhauer's, believing that loneliness is innate.
"Life has never left loneliness and existed independently, whether it is our birth, our growth, our love, or our success and failure, until the end, loneliness exists in a corner of life like a shadow."
"Loneliness is a partner who will accompany people for a lifetime, and is an established fact. Instead of denying it, instead of fighting and escaping it without any need, it is better to accept it. Let it protect you from the crowded crowd, and let it accompany you for breakfast and tidy up the sun on Saturday morning."
Loneliness is not only a necessity, but also an eternity.
"The past is all fake, memories are a road without a way back, and all springs in the past cannot be restored. Even the most fanatical and steadfast love is ultimately just a fleeting reality, only loneliness is eternal."
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Do we really have loneliness?
Nietzsche said: Are you worthy of loneliness?
Only geniuses and madmen enjoy loneliness, ordinary people are just lonely...
The biggest difference between loneliness and loneliness is that the heart of the lonely is full and full, while the heart of the lonely is panicked and turbulent.
He said that lonely people are not because they want to be lonely, but because they cannot find their kind around them...
Therefore, lonely people have a sense of arrogance in their hearts, so they will immerse themselves in the boundless spiritual world and meet and collide with countless great souls.
Finally, it ends with Nietzsche's words: loneliness is not a good thing. Loneliness will make you fall. Loneliness can decay humans. Go, walk out of the room and go out on the street!
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