"You should not have a heart to harm others, and you should be careful of others." Although we should maintain a beautiful attitude to look at this world, there are too many people in this world, and the beauty on the surface is dirty and unbearable. Therefore, while we maintain good intentions, we should also be careful and protect ourselves.
It is undeniable that this world does have a warm side. Even the kindness emitted between strangers can warm many people.
However, everything has two sides. When you look at the whole world with a part of the good, you will find that there are too many people with bad intentions in the world.
If you are not prepared for it, you will find that your sincerity has been trampled on for nothing. Even if you are unwilling to admit it, it is all facts. The cruel reality will not come back because of your regrets, and the people who hurt you will not stop because of your kindness.
So, no matter who you get along with, you must be careful, otherwise you will suffer a loss.
1: Keep a hand in everything, don't tell it all
Kego Higashino said: "The most difficult thing in the world to look directly is the sun, and the other is the heart of the people."
Many people have never been afraid to speculate on others with the worst malicious intention, but human nature is selfish and complex. If you don't be careful, you will only be played with by human nature.
So, no matter what kind of person you meet, don’t believe it easily, keep your hands on everything, don’t tell it all. You should know that you may meet a lifelong confidant, but there are also 50% of the chances that you will meet a villain.
Although you did not do anything against your will, and even treated you sincerely, for those who are selfish or malicious, you are just an item that can be used. When you violate their interests, the so-called friendship between you will be reduced to zero.
Your complete description is digging your own grave. He can use this to prevent you from turning over. At that time, it is too late to regret. You have to bear everything you should bear and don’t bear. If you want to avoid such a cruel lesson, you have to be more careful.
Leave more attention, that is, leaving yourself a way out, leaving yourself a way out is not harmful to others.
The friendship between gentlemen is as light as water. A true gentleman will not doubt your friendship because of your guardianship, nor will it affect your relationship.
Between people is a duckweed in the world, ups and downs, encountering is fate, and acquaintance is even more fate.
This fate should be cherished. Don’t let you fall into an embarrassing situation because of your transgression. Being careful in everything is also a respect for your friendship.
If you trust others too much and others show their goodwill, you will tell them all. You will inevitably pay ten times the price for this. This price may even ruin your life, making you unable to look back and have to accept everything you choose.
2: Only say three things to everyone, and you cannot throw your heart out of it
The so-called " great wisdom is foolish " refers to a person who can pretend to be stupid and willing to pretend to be stupid is the most agile and powerful person. Sometimes it is too pure and sensitive, and it will only cause trouble and make the originally simple things complicated.
Therefore, when you get along with others, you must learn to pretend to be stupid, only say three points to others, and keep this sense of proportion, and you will suffer less losses.
3 Talking between people is an art. If you say three-point words will not affect your sincerity, nor will you hurt others. If you talk endlessly from the beginning without leaving any background, a person like you will be the easiest to suffer.
When you leave a little bit of a matter of measure and just say three points in everything, you will master the sense of distance between you. You can interact with them calmly, and naturally you can leave freely. It seems that your existence is optional, but in fact, such an existence is the best protection for you.
Those who really care about you will not stay away from you because of your guardianship, but those who are malicious will have to leave in disappointment when facing your defense. Even if they have any intention, they have no way to start.
3: Learn to refuse, don’t be with villains
Many people suffer losses but will not refuse. Even if they know that the other party is a villain, they don’t have the courage to refuse in the face of his request or other things, but this is not true kindness. Such behavior will only touch yourself.
Slowly, you have to associate with villains, your ideas and life will be disturbed, and such villains can be betray you and use you at any time for their own interests. Therefore, you don’t have to worry about maintaining the friendship of villains.
You should learn to refuse, insist on not being with villains, let yourself go, and don’t kidnap yourself because of others.
You have the right to reject everything you don’t want to accept, and you also have the right to pursue noble sentiments. Your life should not be controlled by others.
When you can keep your original aspiration and walk openly on the principles of your life, you will find that what you once rejected was the despicable villain who was unbearable and hypocritical, and what you accepted was the sunny road and a bright future.
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