Harvard Scholars once proposed a famous " three-circle theory ". Among these three circles, the most core is what we usually call the comfort zone.
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is in the comfort zone, because of the familiarity, it makes people feel relaxed and safe. After staying for a long time, they are unwilling to come out again.
However, familiarity does not mean certainty and security.
Those who once thought they could be with each other for the rest of their lives might get separated;
skills that they once thought they could make a living might be eliminated.
I thought it was a solid and constant belief, and it might collapse in the blink of an eye.
In a world of uncertainty, there will be no eternal familiarity and security. Accepting changes and walking out of the comfort zone is the best way out.
Biologists once conducted an experiment with fleas:
In the experiment, the biologist put fleas with extremely strong jumping power into a one-meter-high jar and covered it with a lid.
After a period of time, the biologist took off the lid again, but found that the fleas could no longer jump to a height of more than one meter. The degradation phenomenon of
is called the "flea effect".
It is not easy to stay in the jar, but compared to the pain of hitting the lid every time you jump up, avoiding changes and not trying is undoubtedly a more comfortable choice.
However, over the long term, you will lose the ability to face environmental changes. The same is true for
. People live their life step by step for a long time, and when changes come, they will be caught off guard.
Especially in today's environment, the times are changing much faster and more terrifying than we imagined.
can be separated from the "familiar sense of security" so that it will not be hit by the waves of the times.
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This picture is the scene of a "strange" robbery in Hong Kong, China in June this year.
A logistics company was robbed during transportation. What is incredible is:
The robbers robbed not gold, nor cash, but chips.
In fact, under the special environment, more and more people working from home all over the world are in short supply of chips and prices soar.
It is estimated that the market price of this batch of chips is about 4.2 million yuan.
So even thieves are " inverted " to always pay attention to changes in various industries and even the international environment in order to avoid being eliminated by the times.
What should we do for ordinary people when faced with changes?
The author of "Black Swan" Taleb once proposed a concept of "anti-frailty", which means that you must stand on the opposite side of fragility and learn to benefit from risks and fluctuations.
In the face of uncertainty, facing difficulties is the best choice.
I saw a picture, and the text is:
The difficult road is never crowded.
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Changes will make us feel that the road ahead is getting harder and harder, but the difficult road is never crowded.
When others choose to avoid changes and return to their comfort zone, you face difficulties and move forward against the wind.
Although it seems to have taken a thorny road, once you overcome all obstacles, you will often see more vast seas and sky.
American writer Spencer John said:
Life is always changing, and change means crisis.
If you enjoy comfort, you will become a fool and will eventually achieve nothing.
In the face of changes, some people lost their stable job and chose to start a business bravely; some people's happy family broke up, and they chose to wipe away their tears and set off again.
Changes break the original balance and comfort, but experiencing the pain of being out of control allows us to develop another new path.
In recent years, a very popular saying: the end of the universe is the compilation, and the end of the compilation is the public examination.
represents a stable "system circle" and has become the yearning for more and more people.
But in an uncertain world, what is a person’s true sense of security?
A few days ago, Liu Run talked about a girl - Lin Xi in her 2022 annual speech.
Lin Xi, who graduated from Beijing Foreign Studies University, did not choose to take the civil service exam or take the postgraduate entrance examination with the crowd, but chose to become a mobile phone framer.
Others may just simply split and paste the parts, but Lin Xi is more concerned about the emotions and stories behind the phone.
She used cold electronic accessories to string together the customer's experience and framed them into unforgettable moments.
What was finally handed over to the customer is a warm companionship and memory.
Lin Xi, who was uncommon, has been recognized by customers and has also obtained considerable income through his creative thinking.
In a world of uncertainty, a sense of security does not necessarily mean entering the system;
can also be your own learning ability, innovative thinking, or just one step deeper than others think and take one step more.
Getting out of the comfort zone and going to an unknown world is a challenge, but it is also an opportunity. As Liu Run said in his speech:
The sense of security comes from certainty, but opportunities are hidden in uncertainty.
There are always too many uncertainties in life, but there are always people who can find new opportunities in uncertainties and regain their sense of security.
There is a story online:
A 35-year-old female security guard Wang Dakun, who successfully won the battle this year and was admitted to the Harbin Institute of Technology master's degree.
Wang Dakun once failed to start a business. After coming to Shenzhen, he found a civilian security job in a school.
Although the new job is not as bright as before, it is also the secretarial field that he is good at. With family and beauty, Wang Dakun's life is stable and quiet.
But after becoming a mother, she decided to break her comfort zone and prepare for the graduate entrance examination.
While taking care of the baby, working and studying hard, 9 months later, I finally got into my ideal university.
Someone didn't understand her choice, but she said she just wanted to seize one opportunity to go further.
In the face of uncertainty, some people chose to retreat, and some people chose to set off.
In fact, a person's ultimate sense of security is the ability to choose life.
is the ability to choose what you want to do, and even the ability to choose what you don’t want to do.
You can not choose a stable life, let yourself learn to control your life in changes;
You can not choose a comfortable and comfortable life, let yourself experience and do your best in difficulties;
You can not choose to stick to the traditional safe path and keep yourself energetic in stumbles.
Only those who are not limited to rules and dare to face uncertainty can have more confidence and control every choice and every behavior, thereby creating their own life.
There is a concept in psychology called "self-provement", which means that the more you believe, the more likely you can achieve what.
If your belief is pessimistic, bad news will follow;
If your belief is optimistic, the outcome of things will most likely be as you wish.
Get out of the comfort zone. We must have a firm belief in our own beliefs. You can try the following three methods:
There is a saying:
The real changes start from a very small step.
Big changes will make people panic, but small and specific changes can be easily accomplished by everyone.
You can try to change to a restaurant to eat; you can try to choose a new route to work; you can try to accept a new task.
In the process of change, look for new perspectives and see new changes. Gradually, you will adapt to the unchanging external environment.
When a person begins to accept changes and changes, he will slowly grow.
Psychologist Victor Frankel once said:
People do not simply live, but need to make judgments on their future at all times to decide what kind of person they will become in the next moment.
Make decisions, which will make you feel uncomfortable and stressful, especially when facing difficulties. But life is like a spring. Only when you compress it will it jump, and only when you have pressure will it have elasticity.
Only by having a flexible life can you maintain vitality and progress.
. Come little by little to form your own rhythm and goals.
There is a question online: "How can you safely get out of your comfort zone?"
There is a highly praised reply: Take your time and step by step to the "edge of your comfort zone".
The so-called "edge of comfort zone" means not completely retreating into the comfort zone and not being too aggressive.
instead take some risks in a controllable way and challenge yourself to do things you don't usually do.
Let yourself first experience something uncertain in a controlled, easy-to-manage environment, and pile up sand into a tower.
Slowly, you can form your own rhythm and goals and no longer be afraid of facing changes.
Nicethells once said:
Those who know why can survive.
Have your own beliefs. If you learn and master new methods, you can slowly walk from your comfort zone to your learning zone.
When your skills are stronger, your comfort zone expands, and the panic zone shrinks.
talk show actor Siwen once said:
You must really work hard to be qualified to talk about Buddhism. Only when you have truly obtained many things, you are qualified to say no.
We all want to "find certainty", but more importantly, we "become certainty" ourselves.
There will be no eternal comfort zone in this world. No matter whether you want it or not, the "mountain" of life is always there, on your way forward.
You must climb mountains before you can move forward.
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