Text/Xiaozhu, Jiang Zuo Meiniang was young, we were ignorant and fearless, and often had many fantasies about the world. When people reach middle age, they realize that there are too many sadness and pain under a peaceful life. We swim in the deep sea of life and gradually become

Text/Xiaozhu, Jiang Zuo Meiniang

When we were young, we were ignorant and fearless, and often had many fantasies about the world.

Only when people reach middle age did they realize that there are too many sadness and pain under a peaceful life.

We swim in the deep sea of life and gradually become two selfs:

A "intermittent shutdown": occasionally making a mess, allowing ourselves to cry happily.

A "continuous charging": multiple injuries, and finally develops a constitution that is invincible to all poisons.

As Roman Rolland said:

"There is only one kind of heroism in the world, that is, after seeing the truth of life, we still love life."

There may be darkness in the adult world, but we still have to clean up our mood and shoulder our responsibilities before dawn.

01. No matter how deep the relationship is, you must be able to take it when breaking up, and let it go

I once saw a passage on the Internet:

"Sometimes, we have to be strong, so when pretending to be strong, we really become stronger and stronger."

deeply agrees with it. There is no one in the world who is born wearing "bulletproof" armor, but just pretending to be strong again and again, constantly honing our protective shells, making ourselves gradually become truly strong.

There is a plot in "Twenty Not Confused 2":

Liang Shuang, played by Guan Xiaotong, is a professional female anchor with outstanding appearance and strong appearance. Her boyfriend Zhao Youxiu is a free photographer who has no desires and no desires.

Because the two of them were unable to synchronize their ideas about career development, Zhao Youxiu decided to come to Liangshuang's company and proposed to break up with her in person.

Liang Shuang was extremely shocked when she heard the word "breakup". She always felt that their relationship was indestructible, but she didn't expect that Zhao Youxiu would actually separate from her.

Liang Shuang burst into tears in an instant. She loved Zhao Youxiu very much. She knew that it might be because she was too busy with work and could not accompany Zhao Youxiu well to do what he liked.

So, she cried and said, "I ended today's live broadcast and could ask the company for a vacation and go with you where you want to go."

However, Zhao Youxiu refused, and he had made up his mind.

Liang Shuang looked at Zhao Youxiu getting up and walking into the elevator. She pressed the elevator button frantically. The elevator door opened and closed again and again. Zhao Youxiu was always standing in the elevator without moving, and her tears couldn't stop flowing down.

At this moment, the assistant urged Liang Shuang to go on the show. She decisively stopped pressing the elevator button, and returned to the live broadcast room to make up with makeup. Although she had just finished it and was wet with tears, she still insisted on making up again and again until she was satisfied.

When Liang Shuang heard the director say "live broadcast begin", she turned around casually, faced the live broadcast camera, and smiled all over her face, as if nothing had happened before, and quickly entered the working state.

That day, she was still a powerful anchor who exceeded the live broadcast KPI. Liang Shuang's quick role switching is really a textbook-level model.

A feeling that once gave us a sense of security and love is the best destination for our souls. For anyone who has made sincere efforts, losing it is an unforgettable pain. However, the life of an adult not only belongs to us, but also has many responsibilities that we need to fulfill. Work will not stop because of our emotional frustration.

Besides, human energy is limited. If we are overly immersed in the mood of broken heart, we will not be able to cope with the rest of our lives.

Then, only by being able to take up and let go of any feelings can we control our own life.

02. No matter how chaotic life is, you must learn to keep your emotions stable

There is a saying on the Internet:

"If you don't have the ability to clean up the mess, don't indulge yourself in your emotions."

This reminds me of a video I saw on a certain voice some time ago:

A working mother got up very early in the morning. After cleaning up her home, she found that there was still some time, so she made a lunch for herself and prepared to take it to the company for food.

Because she was afraid of being late, she put the lunch box on the dining table and hurriedly went to wash.

At this moment, the 2-year-old daughter saw that her mother's lunch box looked very good, so she stepped onto the dining table on a stool and wanted to have a look, but in the end, she heard a "bang".

My mother hurriedly ran out of the bathroom and found that her lunch was knocked over to the ground, and food residue was spread all over the dining table, dining chairs and floor.

She ran over immediately, gently carried the child from the dining table, and then said calmly, "You knocked over my mother's lunch."

The child stood on the ground in a daze, saying in a crying voice: "Mom, don't scold me..."

The mother held the child's hand and said gently, "Mom doesn't talk about you, just ask you, are you accidentally?"

Then she squatted down and listened to the child's explanation carefully.

Four times, things you carefully prepare will be destroyed by your child; plans you make in advance will be completely disrupted by your child. As a working mother, you never thought of some busyness when you lived alone.

However, when you yell at her, she will only cry louder; when you scold her, she will only make trouble more.

Naughty is the nature of a child. Besides, there are some unintentional mistakes. If you scold too loudly, be careful not to cause spiritual harm to the child. Being a mother is really difficult!

So, don’t let yourself lose control of your emotions in these little episodes and get lost. No matter how much your child is making trouble, he must keep his emotions stable. When you use patience instead of impetuousness and guidance instead of yelling, your life can be stable and family relationships can become more and more harmonious.

03. No matter how bad your career is, you must keep your electricity at any time and make a comeback

Russell once said:

"Great career is rooted in persistence in working hard, and doing it with full spirit, and not avoiding hardships."

Everyone will encounter ups and downs in their work. The difference is that the weak are beaten to the ground and cannot recover; while the strong will bravely get up and continue moving forward. This is the case with Zhang Hongchao, the founder of "Mixue Ice City".

Zhang Hongchao was born in a rural area in Henan. After graduating from junior high school, he started to make money to support his family.

At first, he came to Zhengzhou and wanted to do sales, but because of his low education, he was turned away.

After being frustrated, he studied hard, passed the adult exam, and entered Henan University of Finance and Economics.

After graduation, he rented a storefront shop with the 4,000 yuan given to him by his grandmother and opened a small shop called "Mixue Bingcheng".

Unfortunately, the store is within the scope of the city’s reconstruction. Two consecutive times, Zhang Hongchao’s money was wasted.

At that time, Zhang Hongchao, who was heavily in debt, was also confused about the future while facing the accusations of his family. But in the end, he chose to start over for the third time.

So he raised money everywhere, learned from his experience, and focused on site selection.

This time, he chose the store on the newly repaired road, next to the university, and with the precise positioning of "Mixue Ice City", the beverage store became popular instantly and was sought after by college students.

Later, he conducted a detailed study of the product formula and rethinked the brand value and franchise store model of "Mixue Bingcheng".

Now, the "Mixue Ice Domain" can be seen everywhere in the streets and alleys.

In an interview, Zhang Hongchao said:

"It is not accidental that I can have today, nor is it because of my luck, but because of self-healing after failure and making more efforts again and again."

"Mixue Ice City" was successful in starting a business in the process of failure and rise again and again.

NetEase Cloud Hot Comment once said:

"Try to collapse alone, and another person quietly heals himself."

Yes, this is the microcosm of the adult world.

Life is like a tragedy and comedy, things are stacked with things, and unhappiness is the norm.

Every progress and every success in work is not easy. It requires us to constantly renew and redemption in failure.

Only in this way can we always maintain our own energy and face the ups and downs of life with greater confidence.

04. Mei Niang said that

The world of adults will inevitably lead to many disasters. Some people are crushed by reality and lose the direction of life. Some people are reborn and live the wonderful life.

If you want to rush to yourself smoothly, you must take the initiative to give up: "free shutdown".

When facing feelings, stay rational and calm so that we will not be defeated by breaking up.

Facing children and learning to be emotionally stable, we can maintain family harmony.

When facing a career, you must always keep your electricity to fight back in trouble.

As Thoreau once said:

"I entered the jungle because I hope life is meaningful, I hope to live deeply, absorb all the essence of life, and defeat everything that is not life, so as not to find that I have never lived at the end of my life."

Yes, please fill yourself up with battery, standby for a long time, and resurrect yourself with full blood, and turn difficulties into opportunities for growth.

So, for the rest of our life, we will pass through the storm and thorns, and we will eventually live into shining people.

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