" The Road of Few People Walking " reads: "People can reject anything, but they must not refuse maturity."
Maturity is a necessary path in life. It will always come no matter how sooner or later.
Some people become mature through the struggle of life; some people become mature under the nourishment of knowledge and experience.
In terms of time, maturity is a transformation; in life, maturity is a choice.
A person becomes mature and often has the following three major signs.
-1- Enjoy loneliness
I read a sentence: "Faced with loneliness, everyone will go through three stages: endure loneliness, get used to loneliness, and enjoy loneliness."
When I was young, people were afraid of loneliness, but they had to endure the time when they were studying alone.
After adulthood, I found that loneliness is the norm in life, so I slowly accepted it and got used to it.
After maturing, he actively chooses loneliness and begins to enjoy the time when one person tastes life and precipitates himself.
The publication of the book "Deep roots of dreams" has allowed writer May Saten to make many friends.
Sometimes people invite her to attend speeches, and many loyal readers also visit her.
When her life was gradually filled with the welcoming and sending, she began to feel bored and painful.
So, at her peak, she resolutely chose to leave the noisy city and live alone by the sea.
There, her whole body and mind were relaxed, and she could quietly talk to herself and focus on the most real thoughts from the bottom of her heart.
there, she spent her time on her favorite writing and reading. When I was tired, I went out to watch the tide rise and fall, the moon rose and the full moon, the heavy snow flew, and enjoy unprecedented joy and tranquility.
Writer Feng Jicai once said: "Enjoying loneliness is the highest state of life."
Most people have a time to escape from loneliness in their lives.
For this reason, they have to hide and suppress their personalities and integrate into the crowd.
They will spend more time paying attention to others than following themselves.
However, the more mature a person is, the more he knows how to follow his heart and enjoy the richness of life when he is alone.
Jia Pingwa For a while, the former crowded people and suddenly became deserted.
My friend thought he would end up lonely, but in fact, he especially enjoyed that lonely day.
He reads good books, reads idle books, reads miscellaneous books, and reads poetry.
In the book, if you gain some new knowledge one day, even if you don’t eat meat for a few days, there will still be fragrance in your mouth.
In the book, he even realized that "the greatness of heaven and earth, the difficulty of life, do not be sad for suffering, do not be favored and happy, do not be lonely when lonely, and do not be lonely when lonely."
Zhou Guoping once said: "The world is my food. People only eat a small amount of time and spend most of the time digesting. Being alone is me digesting the world."
The process of loneliness is also a process of precipitating the soul, finding the most comfortable state of oneself, rather than grieving oneself.
So, when you are alone, don’t think about how to escape, but try to get along with loneliness and enjoy this rare journey.
After this, you may understand what Marquez said: "Loneliness is confusion before, and loneliness is growth afterward."
-2- My own opinions
" Heart-warming offer", there is an excellent interviewer He Xinlei.
She graduated from a double first-class university, passed the judicial examination , and was also admitted to the civil service.
The interviewer asked her: "If you get our offer, will you give up the civil servant?"
At that moment, she hesitated, her eyes began to flash, she wanted to say something, but finally remained silent.
The interviewer asked, "These are two completely different paths, do you know?"
She stammered and said, "Yes, I know, so, I'm very confused."
As soon as she finished speaking, the smile on the interviewer's face disappeared and his expression became serious.
The interviewer asked again: "Does the civil servants want you to do it? Or do you want to do it yourself?"
This time, she answered without hesitation, saying that she was following her parents' words.
interviewer patiently confirmed with her: "What proportion of your parents' opinions do you have when choosing a civil servant or a lawyer?"
"Sixty percent."
was almost unsuspecting, and she was eliminated in the first round of interviews.
There is a British proverb: "It is not good for a person to not listen to advice, but if he listens to any advice, it is a thousand times bad."
A person who has no idea, even if he follows other people's arrangements, is just completing a task and something that he has to do.
After all, I don’t know what I want, so how to do it.
And people who are mature in their hearts know how to helm their lives, they will not hand over the choice to others.
A person with an opinion is extremely firm every step he takes, and the direction in his heart is becoming clearer. Only a person with independent opinions can become a ferryman in his life.
Ming Dynasty politician Zhang Juzheng There is a famous saying: "In the world, the matter is important to be careful, the action is important to be strong, the plan lies in the people, and the decision is independent."
A mature person will never let his mind become the racetrack for others.
, but knows every decision you make, has a dream in your heart, and a light in your eyes.
-3- Reflection often
Haiyan once said: "Being able to review and reflect is equivalent to having a foundation for starting over, and this is the process of human maturity."
Life is a journey of storms, and there are inevitably days of stuttering. A mature person can grow upward if he knows how to do things attributive .
There is a young man who started selling and had very few orders. He was afraid of losing his job, so he was at home to figure out where the problem lies.
After some analysis, he suddenly understood: "The product and price are fine, it's me that I have a problem." After
, as long as the sales are not successful, he will reflect on himself. Is it not convincing enough or sincere enough?
Sometimes, he would go to ask the client: "What other things do I need to improve?"
After a long time, many customers were moved by his often reflective spirit and became partners of long-term cooperation.
His performance is getting better and better, and eventually he became the president of a multinational company.
Psychology has been divided into two categories:
One type of people don’t like anyone, their hearts are always full of resentment and complaints, and life gets worse and worse.
A type of people know how to reflect on themselves, admit their shortcomings, and become stronger and stronger in self-renewal.
Inamori Kazuo When he was young, he made mistakes due to his arrogance. Since then, he regards self-reflection as a daily habit and requires himself to "live in remorse."
Jobs also has the habit of self-reflection. He asks himself a question every morning. If the answer is no for several days in a row, he will change it immediately.
Management master Welch, although he is very busy with work, every Saturday night, he locks himself in his study and reflects on himself quietly.
As the British philosopher James Ellen said: "If you don't reflect, your heart will be covered with weeds."
grows in practice and matures in reflection.
Reflection is a process of constantly analyzing one's heart, eliminating the "weeds" that hinder your growth, and ultimately achieving transformation.
When cognition and behavior are constantly corrected, you will become a better self.
The so-called maturity is a process of continuous awakening.
knows what to do, what not to do, and what can be done better.
A mature person knows to accumulate himself in being alone; achieve himself in autonomy; and improve himself in reflection.
click "Looking", I hope you not only leave footprints in the years, but also achieve a richer self.
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