Ji Xianlin in the book "Ji Xianlin Talks about Life":
can think of others and forty percent of yourself. He is a good person who passes the exam.
In dealing with people, we can leave three room for ourselves in everything, know how to refuse, and be moderately selfish, so that we can get along with the world better.
As the saying goes, everything has a condition, too much is just as insufficient, and any relationship in life must have a bottom line and principle.
1 In a person's life, you must learn to be responsible for yourself, be moderately selfish, and know how to refuse, so that you can live a more calm and comfortable life.
Learn to reject is a skill
Rejection is like telling your own little secret, which is hard to say.
When you get along with others, the idea of being kind to others is deeply rooted, just like smoking for a long time, it has become a habit.
would rather be wronged than say the words of rejection.
People who are not good at rejecting will make their life feel more tired and uncomfortable, but when someone makes a request again, they still dare not refuse.
Learning to reject is a skill and a ability.
"The most tiring person in the world is the person who doesn't know how to refuse."
blindly fulfills other people's requests, making yourself pay more and more prices. What you get is not the deep feelings you want, but making others feel that your time and energy are cheap.
is easy to talk to, and he is willing to help with anything, which does not mean that a person has strong abilities.
Only by learning to refuse can you live a "comfortable" life.
unreasonable requirements, learn to reject
Dazai Osamu in " Human Disqualification " said: 2
"My misfortune lies precisely in my lack of the ability to refuse. I am afraid that once I reject others, I will leave a crack in my heart that will never heal."
In that book, the protagonist Ye Zang must carefully cater to everyone since his birth, try his best to win everyone's favor, and do his best to integrate into this society.
desire to be understood and recognized, but in the end he lost his true self, lost his qualifications to be a human being, and became a hopeless person.
Dazai Osamu depicts many people's secret thoughts. Sometimes I dare not refuse, but it is just because I am afraid.
In fact, we should all understand that helping others is affection, and not helping is the duty.
Nothing is natural, and it is natural. When we say no, we don’t have to feel guilty and sad, because that is our right.
Just like there is a saying: "If you don't know how to refuse, where will you come from?"
Be a person who is "not easy to talk to"
From now on, be a person who is "not easy to talk to", adhere to principles and bottom line, be yourself first and then help others.
In fact, rejection may not necessarily offend people, and blindly cooperating may not necessarily win people's hearts.
Things are precious. If you want to improve your status, you must know how to remain silent and refuse decisively. Only by speaking less is a good word. Only by being rare can you show a rare opportunity.
This is how people's hearts are. Everyone will unconsciously see clearly everywhere and will be valued at a rare moment.
No matter who you are, there is no need to suppress your value excessively. Reject when it is time to refuse. Only in this way can your cooperation gain the other party's gratitude.
Bi Shumin said:
"Rejection is a right, just like survival is a right."
We must use this right that belongs only to our own. Although it is good to be kind to others, refusing to help is not necessarily bad.
Everyone has free choice. You must let the world understand that helping is love, not helping is duty.
written at the end
sanmao said:
"Don't be afraid to reject others, because when a person asks, he has prepared two answers in his heart, so giving him any answer is expected."
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