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As one of the million species of nature, human beings also followed the most primitive natural law at the beginning - the prey of the weak.
Today, human beings have formed a regulated society and advocate spiritually equality of personality.
However, the complete "Datong society" is still far away, and the original law of the survival of the weak is still running smoothly in human society.
If life is compared to a voyage, then life is to confront storms. When you have enough strength and can calmly deal with crises, you will meet the standards of a long-term happy life.
People have different development concepts and pursuits. Objectively speaking, there are levels of strength between people, which means that people with strong strength can easily bully people with weak strength. Such phenomena are common, and there are many people who bully the weak because they have money and power.
No matter how you prohibit or punish, there will always be people who will expose their inner evil and evil in front of others, so that people put forward the motto of "being defensive to others is indispensable".
The more you show weakness in front of people who bully the weak and fear the strong, the greater the damage you will suffer. Being honest is not a mistake, but when you should be tough, you must show your attitude, at least make others afraid to bully you.
When someone harms you for your own benefit
The evil people who bully others are nothing more than two purposes. One is to satisfy their inner desire for conquest and show that they are dominant. The other is to make a strong bully to prevent others from competing with themselves, and even seize the interests of others.
Honesty does not mean that it is easy to bully. When faced with infringement of one's own interests, one must take a tough attitude of unyieldingness, and the rights and interests that should be defended must be defended.
When a person acts weak and can be bullied, he is easily targeted by those who pursue interests.
They will try every means to squeeze benefits from you, and when you raise objections, they will reject you with a tough attitude. At this time, the more silent you are, the more you fall into the trap of the other party.
Once an honest person explodes, his energy is terrible and uncontrollable. After being bullied for a long time, the emotions accumulated in his heart are released at a point, no one knows what kind of disaster he will cause.
You can be kind and give in at some point, but you must stick to your bottom line.
Resist when it is time to resist and firmly refuse when it is time to say "no", instead of letting the anger in your heart accumulate in your heart. This will be of no benefit to yourself and others.
When it comes to principles issues
principle is the bottom line. Only by sticking to the bottom line can people survive in this society normally.
The values and personal inner principles are different, but you must make your own principles an untouchable bottom line.
When someone violates maliciously, he/she should fight back hard and let the other party know that you are not able to accept everything.
For example, illegal crimes, violation of public order and good customs , etc., these can always be used as a person's bottom line. No matter how much pressure the other party brings you, you cannot give in, otherwise what you lose is the whole life.
To be honest, you can be a good person on weekdays, be strict with yourself, be lenient and sympathetic, and adopt an inclusive and understanding attitude towards other people's requirements or behaviors. This is a good way of dealing with people, but it must be based on principles and involves issues of principle and must never be negotiated.
A person's principles are closely related to his inner values. When a person's principles are constantly violated, his own values will inevitably be greatly impacted, become unprincipled, and be tolerant of everything.
undoubtedly makes a person deal with things without bottom line. At the least, he will be despised by others, and at the worst, he will become an accomplice of criminals. Adhering to principles is the foundation of being a human being and is a necessity to realize the value of life.
can’t bear it anymore, there is no need to endure it anymore
Some people’s concept is tolerate. The gentleness of their hearts makes them not angry and tolerant. They can quickly forgive others’ mistakes, and they can also laugh it off when they violate others.
This is a kind of mind, and few people can do it. In Buddhist legends, the " I don't go to hell, , who will go to hell" of is a kind of mind that can pass through the evil soul of . The reason why people are humans but cannot be gods is also due to the ties of seven emotions and six desires.
Take a step back and the sky is broad. Facing contradictions and oppression, retreating is to calm down the situation. It is better to bear some losses yourself than to conflict with others. This is a good way of dealing with things. However, when you meet those villains who are greedy and do not know how to restrain themselves, you might as well beat them hard.
In dealing with people, you must have some principles and not create contradictions, but you cannot be afraid of contradictions.
The more you are, the weaker you will be in front of others. Obviously, those who bully the weak and fear the strong will not feel pity for you who show weakness. Tolerance is indeed a good way to deal with it at some point, but if you can't bear it, you don't need to endure it anymore. You must properly shine your muscles in front of those villains who love to bully others, so that the other party can have a sense of awe of you.
Time and Emotional Class:
We have the obligation to contribute to the harmony and stability of this society, so we have the "do not have the intention to harm others".
We also have the right to protect individual legitimate rights and interests, so with the "being able to prevent others", the awareness of self-protection and the ability to deal with infringement must never be missing.
The so-called "preparation is not a concern". We cannot be the "silents" written by Lu Xun. Repeated silence and surrender will only make people numb. Even if our own strength is low, we must have the mind of " people who dare not forget their worries in the country ". We must always adopt uncompromising attitudes and tough measures to treat evil people.
You can be an honest person, but you must have the confidence to not cause trouble but not be afraid of trouble. When it is time to be tough, no matter how the other party puts pressure on you, you must be tough.
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