People will meet many people and many things in their lives. The most important person is your parents, and the most important thing is to get along with their parents. If parents cannot give a happy, healthy and happy childhood, you may spend your whole life to compensate for the missing childhood, and maybe you will not be able to make up for the harm caused by the parent-child relationship in your whole life.
Some people lament that life is not easy. There is nothing easy in life, because easy and difficult things are relative. What you think is difficult may be what others think is easy, and what you think is easy is difficult for others. In childhood, you must learn to be rejected by others. In childhood, you should know that it is unreasonable. In childhood, you should know that selfish people have no friends. The easy thing is when you close your eyes, everything is an external matter.
Some people feel the ups and downs of the world. Society is complex, human nature is changeable, and there is no flat road that gives you so much enjoyment. Destiny is fair: if you give you a peaceful life, you will not give you a prominent family; if you give you a healthy body, you will not give you a super IQ; if you give you a rich life, you will not give you the company of your relatives. The world is uneven because people’s hearts are insufficient.
Some people say that they meet bad people. is calculated based on the average age of 80 years. It is probably ignorant and unconscious in 10 years. 79 years × 365 days equals 25550 days. Suppose you meet 10 people every day, that is 255,500 people, but these people will not be more than 10 people who can become your friends and confidants, and there will not be more than 2 people who can spend your life with you. How to find the right him (she) in the vast crowd is indeed a more difficult thing than winning the lottery. Don’t envy others, maybe he is enviing you too.
Some people say that they have no idea about gold and jade. The Buddha once asked his disciples a question: "What is the most precious thing in life? What has been lost or what has not been obtained?" Some of the disciples said that what has not been obtained is the best, some say that the future is the most promising, and some say that the memories that have been gone are the most precious. The Buddha smiled without saying a word, which made the disciples suddenly realize. No one is perfect, and perfect is not human at all. In life, you need to experience the mediocrity of your parents, then realize your own mediocrity, and finally realize the mediocrity of your children. This is a complete life. We should cherish the people in front of us and love the people around us. The most precious thing in life is to live in the present moment. What we have is past, the future has not yet arrived, and what we cannot get is never your food. The people and life you have are your best choice.
A lifetime is like a flash of time. It is not even a drop in the ocean in the universe. We are just passing by in our lives, but we must also live out the various forms of passers-by. Children are not our whole lives, but we are the foundation of our children's entire lives. I understand more about parent-child relationships with our parents. Parent-child relationships are essentially whether your parent-child relationships with your parents are harmonious. Only by being able to handle your relationship with your previous generation can you have a reason to handle your next generation's parent-child relationship well. How to handle the parent-child relationship well? I have a few suggestions for your reference. I hope you will comment in time if you have different opinions.
First, we must be filial to our parents and handle the parent-child relationship with our parents well. Because you are the child’s first teacher and the child’s first educator. “Personal teaching is more important than words”. How you treat your parents is how you treat you according to your appearance. Never think that a child is young. In fact, his small universe has long been complete. He will use his eyes and ears to feel the society and what his parents do.
Second, we must reject the child’s unreasonable requests, and reasonable requests must be met on a postpone basis. As the saying goes, "Spoiling your son is like killing your son." Although your living conditions are better now, you cannot blindly meet your child's requirements. Whether it is reasonable or unreasonable, you must clearly refuse or let the child realize his wish the next day and next month.There is no free lunch in the world. Parents can provide unlimited free labor, free money, and free consultation services. Society will not give you this opportunity. It will ruthlessly hit your little heart and make you feel the cruelty of life.
Third, give children reasonable space and freedom, and you cannot take everything into account. After the living standards are improved, many parents think that they should let their children grow up healthily and happily under their wings without any storm and rain. Their minds are good, but the result is vicious. A "giant baby" will not receive any mercy and will not gain anything except being disliked. Let children learn independently, make friends independently, let children handle money independently, and let children enjoy their own space independently.
Fourth, let children learn to fail, learn to deal with failures, and learn to accept failures. Life is not easy, and living is the greatest success. Failure is the most common situation in our lives. Sometimes finding a job will fail, sometimes getting promoted will fail, sometimes falling in love will fail, sometimes marriage will fail, sometimes investment will fail, and sometimes escaping will fail. In childhood, we should educate our children to accept failure, let them bear failure in their hearts, and let them learn to continue to challenge failure after failure. For example, when a child is playing, someone robbed of a toy; for example, the child is unsteady and falls; for example, if he wants to play with the child, but he doesn't play with you; for example, if he wants to create a work, he doesn't do anything. When I was a child, I didn’t learn to face failure, but when I grew up, I would be a life of failure.
Fifth, let children learn to deal with interpersonal relationships. Most parents think that children have any interpersonal relationships, as long as they can play, they can do it. Some children are rude and don’t say hello when they see their elders; some children play with children, they hit people when they disagree and open their mouths to curse people; some children snatch others’ delicious food and fun things, and ignore them; some children don’t take advantage of them enough, and always hope that other children will take care of themselves and always hope that they are the center of the world. Adults have their interpersonal relationship processing methods, and children also have their interpersonal relationship processing methods. In such a situation, parents must not interfere, and must let their children solve the problem by themselves. Even if he suffers a loss, it is a way to fail in education.
If your child wants to have a happy and healthy life, you must start from childhood; if you want to have a harmonious parent-child relationship, you must set an example by yourself. Children will not be the whole of your life, but the whole life of children is the result of you. For the sake of children, we should improve our own abilities and levels and improve our relationship with our parents.
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