1. Start to focus on yourself
Focus on yourself can keep you away from jealousy, hatred and other series of harms caused to you by others.
When you focus on yourself, the contrast and suppression of others will not inspire your emotional outburst. Why do you say so? Because when your focus is on yourself, you will think about how to improve yourself and reduce the gap between yourself and your expectations, instead of saying every day: Look at how powerful others are, I can't compare with others.
changes perspective and will become like this: my figure/status/wealth is not as good as that of whom, how can I do to become him?
When you subconsciously focus on yourself, you will find ways to complete your growth and transformation through various channels and achieve your goals.
Focusing on yourself can also make yourself less meddling in other people's business, which means that 90% of the troubles in your life disappears at the source. When you really implement it, you will find that it is really good to meddle in other people's business.
Take care of yourself, and you can't control the rest. It is most useless to Niu Tanqin.
2. No longer entangled in the past
likes Zeng Guofan 's sixteen-character proverb: "Everything comes to conform, the future will not be welcomed, it will not be mixed at that time, and you will not be in love with both life." It is a positive and peaceful attitude towards life.
means that everything should be taken care of, face it calmly, live in the present, not worry too much about what has not happened in the future, do what is in front of you without distractions, and do not miss or be entangled in the things that have happened.
The past has passed, and the future has not yet arrived. Past experiences have increased your thickness and should be deposited to nourish you now. It is like a tree, rooted in the soil and obtaining nutrition, but you must focus on developing the branches and leaves on the ground so that you can flourish and stand out.
3. Stay away from bad people and bad things
If bad people and bad things keep consuming you, it is better to be happy and give it a break.
When we deal with anything, we have two strategies: fighting or escaping. If you can't beat it, you will run away, which is also a kind of survival wisdom.
What to do if you can’t escape the bad things? In the end, there is another solution to any thing, which is to let him go.
Let you cry, make a fuss, and hang yourself. If you ignore him, you will be done. As the saying goes: Thousands of blows are still strong, no matter how winds are east, west, south and north.
As long as you determine that this person is bad and this matter is bad, you will firmly believe in it and no longer waste your time and energy for this person or this matter.
4. Normally cultivate growth habits
What is growth habits?
I prefer to incorporate habits that contribute to personal development into my lifestyle. The habits that are more likely to be called growth habits.
This habit means that you are aware of the shortcomings and deficiencies in your lifestyle, consciously change your life path, add some good living habits to enrich the content of your life, and make your life higher quality.
Hobbies and habits such as reading, stage learning, travel, writing, calligraphy, painting, photography, etc. can greatly improve the texture of your life, enrich your spiritual enjoyment, and make more like-minded friends.
5. Take action
The current situation of most of us, see if it is you?
think more and do less, and spend a day of internal friction. When night falls, various self-denials begin to be repeated, believing that he has accomplished nothing. Indirectly full of confidence, and continue to eat and wait for death.
In fact, the secret to action is not that I have to make a complete plan before doing it. I am well prepared and will definitely be very successful when taking action. Instead, I set a small goal and start to do it immediately, adjusting as I do it.
This is an era of rapid change. Just as all companies advocate agile project management methods when doing projects, we all need to respond to changes.
6. Work is not about going to work, don’t go to work just to go to work
The difference between working and working lies in your mentality, and how you view the need to work to support yourself.
Everyone needs work, not only to make money, but also to have the need for self-achievement.
But it is not necessary to go to work. Rich people can stop working at all, and they don’t need to worry about their livelihood. But they know how to work for themselves, know how to work to achieve their goals, and gain a sense of accomplishment and satisfaction.
When a monk hits a bell for a day, it is inevitable.
But when you are working, you think so. You don’t know what you can do when you hit the bell, but the boss asks me, so I have to do this;
When you work, your mentality changes. The daily task of hitting this bell is really good. It not only exercises the body, hones the will, but also reminds people. Listen carefully to the bell, and even experiences a hint of Zen.
In fact, thinking about it carefully, work is a part of life and is the key time to realize the value of your life. Doing your own work well, carving yourself at work, and letting the process of work nourish your mind and nature is the wisest choice.
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