When a person is in a moment of glory, he will be full of energy, speak golden words, be envied and pleased everywhere, and be filled with good expectations for the future;
It should be said that anyone will become more contented when life goes smoothly. Peaceful and peaceful.
However, when the external environment is unfriendly, or one encounters a low period in life, and is suppressed by others, a person's heart will easily fluctuate;
Because one cannot adjust one's emotions well, when getting along with others, he will It's like a different person, always restless or hot-tempered, and afterwards feeling ashamed of his lack of composure.
It can be seen that a calm mind when in good times, restless and disordered when in trouble, does not prove a person's strength.
" Those Things of the Ming Dynasty " said:
Yes, even if you have an appearance that everyone envies, a well-read talent, and endless wealth, it does not prove your strength. Because the strength of the heart is the real strength.
Therefore, when a person can remain calm at the following three moments, it means that he is very extraordinary.
When faced with the temptation of interests, remain unwavering
Lin Yutang said:
"Have the courage to be your true self, stand alone, and don't want to be someone else."
Many people now want to make quick money. In order to make quick profits, You can abandon all bottom lines and principles, and even abandon family ties, marriage, and friendship;
Faced with the temptation of benefits that came to my door, I started to think "flexibly" and planned to give it a go and bet on a foreseeable future;
However, in economics, any high-yield thing is accompanied by high profits. Risk;
If you win something, you must also ignore or lose something;
In psychology, there is a Occam's razor principle , which pays attention to simplicity and effectiveness, that is, if it is not necessary, do not add extra thing.
The same principle can also reflect a person's attitude towards life-get rid of the complex and keep it simple, get rid of the rough and keep the essential;
People's energy is limited, you try your best to get the best, but you also need to bear the price;
If you cling to others, you will Be aware that you have a debt of gratitude and need to repay it when necessary;
you did it Anything that goes against public order and good customs may face criticism and scorn from the world;
A person who has inner order and perseverance will not give up the correct attitude of life just because of a little benefit in front of him, because he knows that anyone who is criticized by others Any greedy shortcut may backfire;
when it backfires, there will be no turning back.
Don’t lose your composure when faced with face-to-face humiliation.
I heard a story. The German poet Goethe went for a walk in the park. When passing through a narrow path, he happened to meet a critic who was disgusted with him;
Critics are arrogant. He said: "You know what? I never give way to a fool."
Goethe smiled and said: "I am just the opposite."
It can be said that Goethe is witty. The humorous answer gave the critics a powerful counterattack.
When working hard in society, we will inevitably encounter people who are opposed or disgusted with us;
Out of jealousy and competition, some people like Say something challenging They use provocative words to humiliate us in person, maliciously hurt our self-esteem, and try to make us lose our sense of proportion and make regretful actions;
If we are angered by their words, lose our composure, and do something irreparable, then we are on target. into their "wants".
A person with a strong heart is often not afraid of the humiliation of others, but will cleverly avoid other people's traps and laugh them off calmly.
When others attack us, it is when their hearts are disordered. They have their own struggles and unbearables, which have nothing to do with us. Only those who can resolve the humiliation with wit are truly extraordinary people.
Don’t panic when facing criticism from others.
The ancient Roman philosopher Seneca said: Those who can restrain themselves have the most prestige.
Human beings are advanced animals with social attributes. They inevitably have to deal with people in life. If you meet a gentleman, you will naturally meet a villain with a certain probability;
No matter what you do, as long as you succeed in it, there will be results.
They can't stand your rapid rise, and they disdain your excellence. They will often make trouble behind your back, hoping to use this to attack you, slander you, and make you suffer. , then became depressed and stopped shining.
In fact, when others criticize you, it often proves that you are different and excellent;
Because people will not judge too much a person who cannot arouse their competitive mentality;
Their ugly psychology is obvious. Revealing is nothing more than putting you under pressure and then withdrawing from the competition and eclipsing it so that they can be satisfied.
Therefore, when others criticize us, it has been proved from the side that we are at the "top". We should reflect on this appropriately. If it is our fault, we should correct it in time;
If it is not, we will not You must be concerned and just laugh it off. This is a powerful counterattack against those people;
When a person can remain calm when others are negligent or tempted by benefits, it means that they have found the focus of life and have the The three correct views, powerful but not simple, are blessed people.
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