What kind of mentality you have, what kind of life you have.
By cultivating a peaceful and indifferent mentality, without arguing, without anger, without resentment, our lives will be stable and quiet.
The mind is as calm as water, and nothing disturbs it.
No matter how complicated and turbulent the outside world is, as long as you keep your mind steady, nothing can interfere with you.
If the heart does not move, the world will not move. If your mind is not chaotic, your life will not be chaotic.
Don’t argue
The most brainless thing in the world is to argue.
won the battle and has no actual value. Losing the fight hurts harmony and loses face.
Yang Jiang and Qian Zhongshu had a dispute over the pronunciation of a word in French on the cruise ship where they were studying abroad. Yang Jiang criticized Qian Zhongshu for his unclear speech and inaccurate pronunciation, which was mixed with a strong Jiangsu accent. Qian Zhongshu was dissatisfied, thinking that since he had been studying French for a long time, there was no problem.
The argument between the two became more and more intense, to the point where they became red-faced, angry, and refused to give in.
Finally, a Frenchman was hired to be the referee, and the debate came to an end.
Afterwards, Yang Jiang reflected and said: "Although I won the argument, I was not happy at all. Because apart from making each other unhappy, arguing has no meaning."
Professor Luo Xiang said : "Yelang is arrogant and a debater. By nature, they often escalate arguments of opinions into verbal attacks, and then turn verbal attacks into physical fights. When you meet such a person, there is actually no need to argue with him, because you can't win. ”
If someone is arguing with you, the best thing to do is to shut up. If you encounter unreasonable rebuttal, the best approach is to remain silent. If someone says something to you that you don't agree with, the best thing to do is to say nothing.
10% of life is destined by God, and the remaining 90% is written by yourself. Instead of consuming your time, energy and mood in arguments, it is better to focus on doing your own thing and live the life you like.
Don’t be angry
The ancients said: "Those who are calm will gather a hundred blessings. Those who are upset and angry will achieve nothing."
Only when a person does not let his emotions be affected by external interference and keeps his mind calm can he absorb blessings. On the contrary, if something doesn't go your way, you will be irritable and angry, which will hurt yourself and ruin your career.
Napoleon said: "A person who can control his emotions is greater than a general who captures a city."
In "The Romance of the Three Kingdoms", Zhou Yu was a famous general in Soochow with great achievements. But he has a bad temper and often gets angry over some things, and eventually he gets angry to death.
After Sun Liu joined forces with , Zhou Yu discovered that Zhuge Liang was extremely talented and was superior to him in every aspect. So, he tried every means to kill the other party, but Zhuge Liang easily resolved them. Zhou Yu was often angry and worried about this, but there was nothing he could do.
Later, Zhou Yu wanted to compete with Liu Bei for Jingzhou , but Zhuge Liang saw through and blocked him every time, causing Zhou Yu to lose his wife and troops, and all his previous efforts were in vain. Zhou Yu was so angry that he fell ill and died young.
Anger is like a gun. When we pull the trigger, the muzzle of the gun is actually pointed at ourselves.
Gene expert Yin Ye said: "When you are angry, the state of your genes will change."
Many diseases of people are caused by anger. Learn to adjust your emotions, don't get angry when you meet someone who dies, don't get angry when something dies, and never pay for other people's mistakes.
Don’t complain
Complaining is a kind of negative energy. It is like shooting oneself in the foot. It is of no benefit to others, is not good for oneself, and does not help anything.
In ancient times, there was a son of an official family. Due to changes in his family, he lost his wealth and left his hometown. One day, he approached a farmland. This place had just suffered a flood, and the crops that were growing well were ruthlessly destroyed. He thought about the changes in his fate and couldn't help but feel sad.
At this time, he saw a farmer replanting crops in the field and humming a song without feeling depressed at all.
He walked over and asked, "Aren't you sad that the flood has washed away the crops like this?"
The farmer replied: "Things are already like this, and there is no point in complaining.Instead of wallowing in sadness, do what you can to change. Although the floods destroyed crops, they also brought abundant nutrients. As long as I replant in time, I believe there will be a good harvest next year. "
The children of government officials were inspired by the peasants and no longer complained about the injustice of their fate. Instead, they studied hard and improved themselves, and finally became a generation of great scholars.
Mao Zedong said: "Complaining too much prevents heartbreak, and it is better to take a broad view of things. "
Everyone will encounter various problems. Those who complain about problems are weak, and those who solve problems are strong. No matter what we encounter, we must face it positively and optimistically and do our best to change, so that we can break out of the situation. Fulfill yourself.
Conclusion
Yang Jiang said: "I am willing to be a zero. If people don't treat me like a thing, I can see through the people who look down on me. "
Life is very expensive, why bother with trivial matters, why bother with insignificant people, why let things you don't like suppress your mood.
I wish our life:
There are mountains and seas in my heart, and I am calm without fighting.
My heart is like still water, and I am not angry or angry.
My heart is filled with sunshine, and I am not sad or resentful.
Cultivation of a tough and transparent heart leads to a better self.
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