What is growth? How should we grow up when we stutter?
In class today, I talked about the word "growth" with the students.
We are always growing and never stop.
Of course, there are also people who don’t want to grow. This does not mean that he has no fighting spirit or ambition; perhaps, in his perception, being stable is what suits him best and is what he pursues.
Therefore, there is no good or bad. The important thing is that we know what we want and what we want to pursue. There is no need to compete or compare with others, as long as you feel good in your heart.
You don’t have to ask them to do what you expect, just do your own thing well.
I often say: We do not have the right to make others change into what we expect, and we are not qualified or able to do it; however, we are qualified to respect our own feelings and act according to our own feelings.
So, I will talk about growth in this article. People who want to grow or want to change the current situation can read it carefully, compare it with themselves, and understand growth.
First of all, we need to know, what is growth?
On the surface, growth means that we have become better through experience and can solve many problems.
Looking at it from the center, growth is a process. In this process, we see our different situations and changes in different stages.
From a fundamental point of view, growth means not only that we grow and become better, we can solve many, many problems ourselves, our cognitive level has improved, and our abilities have improved; more importantly, we can bring benefits to others. Come faith, joy and hope.
If you cannot understand growth well, you will have the following three problems:
1. The more you want to grow, the less you will be able to grow. The more you want to change, the less you can change.
2. It seems that you have taken a lot of shortcuts and seen a lot of changes. However, you don’t know that more problems are waiting for you later.
Third, if you only want to grow yourself and hurt others in order to achieve your own growth, the growth you gain will not last long.
Then, if you understand growth correctly, you will have the following three benefits:
First, you will accept all things, good or bad, and just focus on your own growth, and the root of your growth will be As you become more and more solid, you will get more and more growth results, and you will go further and further.
2, you will take every step down-to-earth, abandon shortcuts, and take the most difficult road directly. What you will gain is not only the result of growth, but also the growth of your own understanding of yourself.
Three, you will not only get better and better, but also your energy will become greater and greater, your feeling of doing things will become better and better, you will help more and more people, and your inner sense of accomplishment will become greater and greater. You will also be loved by many.
This is the impact that understanding growth can have on you.
#1
The surface meaning of growth
I am born in the 1980s. 8 In my memory, in that era, anyone who bought a brand new bicycle at home could be considered to have a good life. Therefore, at that time, I was very envious of being able to ride. Bicycle man.
Later, my father also rode a bicycle back from the county town. Although it was given to us by my uncle, I still liked it very much, even though it exceeded my height at the time.
So, I will practice riding a bicycle when I have time. That bicycle had bars, and my legs couldn’t even reach the ground. In order to practice riding a bicycle, I bumped into trees, fell into the river, wrestled , etc., which were all commonplace.
I remember that at that time I had many purple bruises on my legs.
and so on, I think all friends who have had this experience know this process.
One day, I really learned this big guy. At that time, I often rode my bicycle around.
People who are familiar with me saw me and said: Li Hui, you really learned how to ride a bicycle.
What am I talking about?
I am talking about the result of others seeing me learn to ride a bicycle. In other words, the superficial meaning of growth is that we get the results we have always wanted, which is growth.
can directly see the growth, which is the superficial meaning of growth. For example, we see that each of our students has corrected their stuttering. What we see is that they have completed the path of correcting their stuttering.
Do you understand this?
Okay, let’s look at the growth of the central meaning next.
#2
The Central Significance of Growth
I remember that my friend who was the same age as me at the time saw me and said: Li Hui, how can you reach such a tall bicycle? I fell down several times when I was learning to ride a bicycle without big bars.
What am I talking about?
What is he talking about?
Is he judging from his own experience of learning to ride a bicycle that I will definitely have to suffer more to learn from this big guy. What does
mean?
In other words, what ordinary people see is that we get the results and learn to ride a bicycle. People with real experience know that it takes a lot of effort to learn this bicycle.
Because, at that time, we were generally not too tall.
This is the central meaning of growth.
Growth is a process.
From the time we start to think about our situation, we have begun to grow. The process of thinking is the process of our growth; the process of finding solutions is also the process of our growth.
The process of observing and analyzing pathways is also a small process in our growth process.
has chosen a path, and the process of learning how to solve problems is also a small process in our growth process. After you learn
, I will take you to practice and integrate it. This process is also a small process in our growth process.
Therefore, I tell the students: Correcting stuttering is a process, and correcting stuttering is just a smaller version of our life.
Because our life is a process, a process of getting along with and resolving suffering.
In the process of correcting stuttering, we can see our different states at different stages, and then further understand ourselves and the closed loop of solving problems.
I don’t need to say much about this, just understand it.
#3
The fundamental meaning of growth
It’s still that example.
I learned to ride a bicycle. There are many peers around me who cannot ride a bicycle. They all want to learn, but they are afraid that they will not be able to learn. It is not that they are afraid of falling or hurting themselves.
If others see that I am so short and I have learned it even though I am a stuttering person, will they have the idea of "I can do it too" in their hearts?
That's for sure. What does
mean?
means that as we grow, the words and deeds we show when we come into contact with others will bring hope, confidence and future to people to a certain extent.
A master, he always makes people feel comfortable when chatting or doing things together. When people see themselves, they will feel happy and joyful.
This is the foundation of growth. The fundamental meaning of our growth is not only to grow and become better ourselves, but also to help others grow and give others hope, happiness and confidence.
But the fact is that there are very few people who can reach the surface of growth, even fewer people who can reach the center of growth, and very few who can achieve the fundamental growth.
Because growth is anti-human, and growth is something that only a few people can achieve.
If you want to become one of the growers, you must have the quality of growth.
How to grow?
Suffering, thinking about suffering is the beginning of our growth.
If you stutter; if your stuttering has a great impact on you; if you want to get rid of your stuttering and are ready to pay, you can talk to me at any time.
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