Life is like a hole that accommodates everything, and everything that exists will eventually become reasonable. rising in the east and setting in the west is the law of nature. The sun will always set, just like a meteor will fall when it passes by. , our lives will also come to an end when we get old. Probably all encounters in the world are preparations for separation.
We are not gods who live in Shuiyuntian, nor are we demons who live in Cangyan Sea. We are just ordinary mortals who have lived in Yunmengze for generations. We will fall asleep like the moment when the fuel burns out. Our hearts are like fragile things. The moment the loved ones around us leave, we have to wipe away the tears. Sometimes we must move forward alone and cannot live in sadness.
Around us, when most of our loved ones pass away, we all feel grief-stricken. The relatives cry beside the coffin and shout their names again and again. This is normal and human nature.
But in addition, there is another funeral model in our country called " happy funeral ". Few people understand this "happy funeral". What is it like? Is it very different from our usual funeral model?
What is "happy mourning"
"People have joys and sorrows, and the moon waxes and wanes." It is inevitable that life will come to an end. The living people will prepare funerals for the dead so that the relatives around them can pay their respects. , so that the person sleeping in the coffin can rest in peace, but people are different and regions vary from region to region, so many funeral patterns have been derived.
Some ethnic minorities have their own culture, and naturally have their own unique funeral methods. For example, Tibetan people spread cremation, sky burial or water burial to let their dead ancestors rest in peace.
And "happy mourning" was originally derived from ethnic minorities. Happy mourning first became popular in the Qing Dynasty . At that time, the rulers of the Qing Dynasty were Manchus people who had lived in the north for generations. Happy mourning It started to spread at that time.
Nowadays, when funerals have not been abolished in our country, in rural areas, there are still many families who have died at home. They have to hold banquets, which last for three days in total. The guests are entertained on the first and second days so that the guests can mourn the deceased.
There will be a performance on the last day, specially inviting members of the song and dance troupe to sing, dance, and perform skits , and invite people from a village to come and watch the performance. Only that night we all forgot the sadness, and the flashing lights flashed across our hearts. Sad, harsh music revives us, and inviting a song and dance troupe is actually a manifestation of joy and mourning.
It’s just that we have now integrated mourning and joy. That's why was created. I cried in the first few days, but I still had to perform on the last day.
What is the standard for "happy and sad"?
The above article introduced what joy and mourning are. I believe everyone already has some understanding of it. So, can everyone do this? In fact, it is not the case. There are also standards for joy and mourning. If does not meet the required standards, it cannot be called joy or mourning.
In ancient times, people often suffered from various diseases that could not be cured, and they had to drag their heavy bodies around the world every day. Therefore, death was a kind of evil to them and it was unfair to take away their remaining time. .
There is a saying in ancient times that "good deeds and evil deeds are rewarded". They believe that if a person is plagued by illness and cannot be cured, it means that he must have done something harmful to nature in his life, so he will get retribution and become With such a ghostly appearance, or because he died in an accident when he was young, people will also arrange that he may have done some bad things not long ago.
was not sincere and had done all the bad things. The Buddhas couldn't stand it anymore and refused to repent. That's why was taken away from his life early and could no longer appreciate the beauty of this world.
On the contrary, if this person has lived a smooth life and has not experienced any major life and death events. He is still physically strong, efficient in doing things, and speaks fluently when he is old. , this means that he has done many good things in this life, and will be better when he is old. He died a good death, so when he dies in old age, it will be a joy and sorrow.
There is also a situation of having descendants. We all know that ancient people were very particular about having many descendants. People who have descendants all think that they are blessed. Only those who are blessed will have so many descendants. Some families can’t even give birth to just one. It is extremely difficult, so the death of such an old man is considered a joyous loss.
Moreover, if there are many descendants, four generations must live under the same roof. This means that this person will have a smooth life for several generations, so the descendants will also arrive on time.
Only when the above situations are accumulated in the same old man can they be summed up as joy and mourning, and one of them is indispensable.
The age required for mourning
Funeral is not only joyful in the management mode, but also the dead are also joyful. In the junior high school textbooks, we have all read the chapter of Confucius , which contains the sentence "Seventy years ago" .
In ancient times, all aspects were not developed and improved, and medical equipment was extremely backward. Sometimes a simple cold could kill a person, so everyone thought that elderly people who could live past their sixties or seventies, It is already considered a particularly long-lived one. People who live to this age have basically experienced all the good and evil in the world.
Even if they die, they will have no regrets. For them, death is just something they have experienced in the human world and can go to heaven. Therefore, the first criterion for happiness and mourning is longevity. Only the elderly who have passed this age will not have any resentment. Remaining in the world, even if you leave, you will be satisfied.
Secondly, because they do not have the blessing of technology, they do not know other ways to maintain their health. Being able to live over 60 years old is not only longevity in their world view, but also good luck, blessed by God. Therefore, we must arrange funeral arrangements for him to bless him to go to the new world.
But now, due to the continuous introduction of science and technology and the development of academic exchanges, my country's medical technology has made great progress, and even some difficult and complicated diseases can be treated. People can enjoy top-notch medical care at home. For treatment, there is no need to travel abroad to seek medical treatment. This has also made the average age of the elderly in our country as high as over seventy years old.
It is not difficult to live to sixty or seventy. Some elderly people usually have an optimistic attitude, face life positively, have no bad work and rest habits, and exercise regularly, so they can even be as old as 90 to 100 years old, 100 years old There are many senior people in . Therefore, the age of joy and mourning will also increase today.
Conclusion
No matter how wonderful the movie is, it will come to an end, and no matter how shining the sun is, it will also set. Life is limited, and there will always be moments of separation. Even if the test is difficult, we must maintain our original intention and move forward bravely to pass the test. The departure of our loved ones is the first time we face separation. The moment we leave, even if we cry every night, it is unbearable. , we must go on and be full of hope for life.
I believe that sleeping relatives will feel at ease and satisfied when they see that the people they miss are still living a strong life in the world and have not become depressed because of their departure.
Then he will no longer have worries when he sets off on the road to hell.
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