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In life, we will meet all kinds of people, some people are like sunshine, shining into our hearts, giving us warmth and protection.
And someone is like a thorn in a rose, pricking us with a dull pain. Many times they want to pull it out, but hesitate for various reasons. Over time, they develop a stubborn problem in their hearts.
There is a saying that goes like this: You teach how others treat you. It is your hesitation that gives them the opportunity to intensify their behavior, and it is your kindness and softness that makes them think you are weak and can be bullied.
Not everyone is worthy of your kindness. Some people you meet are worthy of your care. And if you meet those people who pierce you like thorns, there is no need to struggle over and over again, and there is no need to be too polite to them. When it’s time to fall out, Fall out and don't make your life a mess.
Life is so hurried and short. In our limited journey of life, we should try our best to make life as pure as possible without asking for trouble.
People who are demanding excessively
In the process of interacting with others, we will treat others with the greatest sincerity, and help others as much as possible with the idea of exchanging good for good. When facing others' requests for help, we always think of how to help. If you ask for help, you will never learn to say no.
Some people will appreciate your kindness and repay you in the same way. They will not always cause you trouble, but will try their best to compensate you. Such people will be willing to do so no matter how much they pay for them. Sweet.
Similarly, you will also meet some people who will take your efforts as a matter of course. When they ask for help from you, they will not be embarrassed at all, but will make even more demands on you.
In fact, there are such people everywhere in life. Some colleagues will push their jobs to you over and over again, some lovers will take advantage of you again and again under the guise of being a family, some relatives will always make demands on you, and once you are not satisfied, you will change your appearance. Face. People like
will always have unsatisfied desires. If you continue to satisfy them, they will only get more demands from them, and they will make even more excessive demands next time. They hope that you can infinitely tolerate their greedy demands, satisfy their own desires, and accept themselves. needs.
Faced with their demands, some people would rather be wronged than betray themselves. This is a terrifying instinct of human nature: unless you are stung by a bee, you will never know the pain. Slow nerves are often unable to feel those malicious intentions and temptations.
When you meet such people, there is actually no need to be too polite. The more polite you are, others will just criticize you. Next time, they will refresh your understanding and make even more unacceptable demands. It is better to correct yourself from the beginning. Attitude, learn to refuse. If your refusal still makes him confused, it is better to break up with him. There is no need to give them a good look.
People who are unjust for profit
Everyone has the need to make friends. We welcome and welcome different people into our lives. Some people’s friendship is very firm and we stay together. After a lifetime, each other cherishes this relationship.
There are also some people whose relationships are mixed with many interest factors, making them very complicated.
When a person covets your wealth and automatically attaches himself to you when you are prosperous, but chooses to abandon you and sneer at you when you are in trouble, such a person's nature of being unjust and unjust has become clear. Reveal.
Many people are willing to treat people with whom they have close friendships with a sincere attitude, but it is a pity that your sincerity may be with others, but it is not worth mentioning, and they will treat your They will only give you a smile when you are truly of value to them and only care about your interests.
Once one day you are of no use to them, or encounter a conflict of interests, your selfish nature will be exposed. You are only interested in profit, and you will not hesitate to do things that hurt you for your own benefit.
When you meet such people, you don’t have to be patient, and don’t expect them to let you go for the sake of old friendship. There is never true love in their eyes, only interests. Fall out when it's time to fall out, make a clean break with them, don't let them continue to use you in the name of friendship, stay awake, and pull out the thorn in your heart.
Otherwise, the more tolerant you are, you will end up just tolerating them. Sooner or later, you will feel the warmth of the world.
Those who try to stymie you behind your back
all show that it is easy to dodge hidden arrows and hard to guard against. In the face of open and honest competition from others, we can often take countermeasures and deal with it calmly, but when faced with those who try to stumble behind your back, it is often difficult to resist. . People like
are the scariest people. On the surface, they seem to have a good relationship with you, and they act like they are on good terms with you. After defrauding your trust, they then stumble you behind your back and add insult to injury.
Most of them want to get more benefits, and some people are just jealous. No matter what the purpose is, it will eventually have a negative impact on you.
For this kind of people, do not try to influence them. Not only will you not be able to influence them, but you may become a thorn in their side again and again and suffer the consequences.
At the beginning, when you realize that they have hurt you, you may still feel that it is a misunderstanding and do not want to believe it. At this time, you can use some gentle ways to communicate, but once your suspicion is confirmed, then you have no choice but to Choose a more decisive approach.
When facing someone who is trying to stymie you behind your back, never think about tolerating it as long as you can. Your constant forbearance will only make people feel that you are easy to bully, and they will use darker means to deal with you next time. There is no need to be polite to them anymore, make your attitude clear, and at the same time, you should be more cautious and careful to prevent being hurt again.
In this world, not everyone you meet will be a good person, and sincerity cannot necessarily be exchanged for sincerity.
In the face of the kindness radiated by others, we must learn to be grateful, but in the face of other people's malice, we must also be brave enough to deal with it, and don't think about avoiding it.
When you meet the above three types of people, don't hesitate and tolerate them blindly, don't be too polite, your politeness will only be regarded as weakness. Be tough when you need to be tough, and be tough when you need to fall out, only in this way can you feel relaxed.
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