Now the economy is developing well, and the pace of life is fast. Everyone is working hard. It seems that everyone is positive and the world is sunny and beautiful.
However, for most ordinary people, the world may not be so beautiful.
Those so-called fast paces also don't exist.
It doesn’t matter how many people there are, from when they didn’t like learning when they were children, to when they didn’t like work when they stepped into society, and when they were poor after getting married.
There is no law that requires everyone to achieve something, but too many people have become what they hate, their lives are in a mess, but they are unwilling to make any changes.
Now there is a word that appears very frequently, and that is "anxiety".
Some people have anxiety in their families, some have postpartum anxiety, that is, postpartum depression, or they are anxious due to other things.
There are traces of these anxieties, and there are too many people who are not anxious about a particular thing. It seems that there is no trouble, but everything is not going well.
Why is there such an emotion, but it is not satisfying the current self.
Unsatisfied, unchanging, unhappy, life is getting harder and harder.
There are many reasons for this kind of denial of self, some of which are actually easy to correct, but inertia makes a person immersed in failure, looking forward to success, and enjoying failure. In the end, he is still unwilling to make efforts, even if the direction of effort is just A small change.
Let me talk about several kinds of inertia that are common in life.
1. Obesity
Why do you say this in the first place? Because there are more and more obese people, the anxiety about the body is not a woman's unique emotion, and the same is true for men.
Short videos are very popular now,All kinds of inspirational videos about weight loss success are played very high, watched and collected are countless, and really few changes have been made.
There are many humorous and self-deprecating comments on the Internet: "Find a good day and practice again", "Watching it is equivalent to practicing", "Looking at it, move your hands and feet and continue to lie on the bed." I believe most people can see comments like
. Such comments will appear at the bottom of every weight loss or muscle gain video. It has become a popular idiom to earn likes.
Let’s not talk about thin people, they don’t have body anxiety, and people don’t need to lose weight. Even if they are in poor health, they don’t have low self-esteem or harm their body due to obesity.
And the fat man in front of the screen?
Watching the video, the momentary blood, and the comments, I feel that I can find my confidant in an instant, so I can enjoy myself, lie back in bed, and continue to eat, drink and sleep.
Same wording, on the one hand it is a joke, on the other hand it is to make yourself a joke.
How many obese people are discriminated against by others because of their stature. This discrimination may not only come from outsiders, but also from family members.
Just said that this year, two young girls who have succeeded in losing weight have appeared next to me.
Two people were born in the same year, and they basically gained weight from the developmental period.
After graduation, I went to work. I had some savings, eating and drinking crazily. One weighed 140 and the other weighed close to 160.
After successfully losing weight, their weight hovered around 90 kilograms.
Their outfits are very fashionable, showing their waists and stomachs, so they don't feel embarrassed at all.
Some people may say that exposed women are unscrupulous. From the perspective of young people, it is not true. Girls who really have good figures are willing to show it to everyone. This It is a way for them to express their confidence.
There are many suitors behind them.
changed from fat to thin,It brings them not only good health, but also self-confidence.
chat with them, they don’t need others to mention weight loss, they will do it themselves, and confidently say that they lost weight, they were very fat before, especially fat.
Why are they willing to take the initiative to mention it, because they have succeeded.
They all had this experience for those who were obese.
That is the ridicule from the family.
Especially girls, when they are obese, they will basically let their mothers dislike them when they are young. This is the age when they should find a partner to marry. Because of obesity, they can’t get married and make them face as parents. There is no light.
The weight loss journey of the two is also very consistent. Weight loss is mentioned by the mother, and weight loss is supervised by the mother.
One is my mother forcing her to not eat at night and forcing her to go for a run for two hours at night. The other is that her mother supervises exercise at home and makes three meals a day to reduce fat.
What does this mean? It means that when you are ugly because of the lazy image, your mother will despise you.
Many fat people know this well, but are still unwilling to make changes, even if obesity has affected their health.
Yesterday I saw a girl who lost weight posted a video. She said that she wanted to commit suicide before, but now she is confident even if she wears a sack to go out. Any depression and anxiety are all shit.
If you are very rude, you can feel the ease and self-confidence after her weight loss.
2. Poor
An experience that impressed me particularly deeply.
There was a period of time when I was in poor health, had no job, no income, and kept paying, and my days were so sad that eating was almost a problem.
basically didn't have more than one hundred money. Thinking about it now, I don't know how it came here at that time.
My mother is a worker, and her permanent job means working in the factory. Even if she has a permanent job,She still does day-end work with colleagues and friends on holidays.
I once heard that my mother and some of her friends discussed going to other factories to do daily work, more than one hundred a day, including food at noon.
At that time, I was so poor that my eyes were bright when I heard the bag. I don’t need to worry about what I want to eat at noon when I think about it. What if I don’t have money, and I pay 100 a day Many, at least I didn't have any expenses that day, and I still have a surplus.
Looking back, I, a young woman, went to the factory to work with a group of aunts who were about to retire. It was too shameful and hesitated for a long time.
My mother said to me: "I am not afraid of being poor, and I am also afraid of being ashamed!"
At that time, there was a real feeling of thunder, like tearing away the ugliest side of myself for others to watch, without any dignity at all. Pierce the heart.
In the end, I really went to the factory with my mother. I did it during the day and night, and stood for 12 hours. I thoroughly experienced life and completely let go of my self-esteem.
When a small team leader in the workshop asked me why I went to work in the factory at a young age, I chuckled and never argued. I was running around for my life, not ashamed, and it was even more ashamed to be poor.
All said misfortunes never come singly. When I was most sad, my husband’s company was facing bankruptcy and he had not been paid for several months. Not only him, but all his colleagues were too poor.
At that time, I persuaded him to work part-time in the factory with me. He was unwilling at first. I copied and pasted what my mother said to me with him, and he compromised.
With a kind attitude of helping others, he called on the manager he has always respected.
His manager used to have a high income, had his own sports car, played with many women, and has always enjoyed a high-spending life. He never eats cheap things and is confident in front of everyone.
With no income for several months, high car loans and high consumption make him no longer able to do as well as before.
applied countless credit cards,Bibai Huabai has been pulled into the blacklist and emptied his wife's savings.
When he knew that we were going to work part-time in the factory, he was not smiling, ridiculing, or approving, but his reluctance to participate together was obvious.
His wife was fed up with such a poor life, and while taking the child, he asked me to sign up for her and want to work part-time with me. His pride does not allow a wife who has just given birth Going out to work to support him, in desperation, went to the factory with us.
stayed for a day and never visited again.
later learned from his wife that after returning home, he complained that he was too tired in the factory to go back.
He also does not allow himself to work in positions below the manager. The superiority of the leadership makes him unwilling to suffer a little bit and suffer a bit of wrongedness.
Now, more than two years have passed, and our days are slowly turning around. He has sold the car he has always loved, his income has not been high, and he has borrowed more and more.
The last time I met with him, three of their former colleagues had a dinner together. Without a car, he was sitting in the back seat of another colleague’s electric car, which was very different from the previous image of wearing a famous brand and driving a sports car. Superiority.
His unwillingness to lower his body mentality, I believe many people have it, this is also a kind of inertia.
Knowing that life is not easy, and can not bring the minimum life security to the family, I still don’t want to make changes and enjoy the superior life, because of the illusory self-esteem, I don’t want to let myself eat A little bitter.
3. Haunted
How many people feel like this, life is muddled, there is no goal, no running.
I don't know what I'm doing, and I don't know how I should go in the future.
Going to work every day is like a walking dead.
A male friend often talks to me about this topic: Do you think you like this job now?
Some people may say that they don’t like the current job.Or very few will say they like this job.
I haven't thought about this problem, I said: "There is nothing to like or dislike, if you think about it carefully, the current job is fine, not annoying."
, I have been talking about this topic for several years, and my idea has not changed, that is, he doesn't like his work.
He said that there is no passion in his current work, nothing to learn, no rush, just to survive, it has no meaning at all.
I said: "Going to work does not delay your study. You can sign up or find the industry you like on the Internet to improve yourself. You can also look at other jobs. This is not the only job in the world."
Whenever I talked about this topic, he always kept silent, as if he didn't want to answer, and as if he didn't know how to refute it. In short, he didn't want to change.
On the one hand, I feel that the current life is meaningless, on the other hand I don’t know and don’t want to make changes.
This kind of haunting state has been seen in too many people.
The world is big, and the moneyless are the majority. Many people have a dull life, but they are still very happy.
No one requires a strong family property to be a big boss to have a happy life. Many rich people are equally unhappy.
There are so many ordinary families, and they have a very happy life. It is a happy thing for a family to sit and eat, fight between husband and wife, and accompany their children out to play.
Being unconscious is a lifetime, and being happy is also a lifetime. Why should you let yourself be so sad?
When you feel that life is boring, you can add some interesting hobbies. When you feel that work is not passionate, you can learn more and improve yourself.
Being muddled will only make you more sad, and it will also make the people around you more tired.
Many anxious people look down on themselves, self-denying, and others will not approve it.
It doesn’t matter if it doesn’t affect life,But this state of many people has seriously affected their quality of life.
Faced with such a situation, the first thing is to let yourself make changes.
Let go of self-esteem and accept the challenge.
The first step in the challenge is to change yourself. You can learn, you can raise flowers and plants, you can volunteer to give back to the society, and you can exercise to make your body more perfect and healthier.
All kinds of ways, as long as you are willing to do it, and you are willing to enrich your life, you will find that you will become more and more confident.
Even if you don't make a lot of money, you are already a spiritual person who made the change, right?
It’s really bad to be too sad. In this life, try to raise yourself up once!
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