After the vicissitudes of life, the heart is pure and full.
Author: Insight · Annabeth
Middle age is a watershed in life.
When he was young, he thought he could control everything.
Half our lives have passed, and we have gradually matured and calmed down. Only after thousands of sails have passed, can we see the true appearance of middle-aged life.
The greatest maturity in middle age is to put down one's face, quit emotions, and restrain desire.
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Put it down
There was a question on the Internet: "When did you realize that you were already middle-aged?" It started to feel very humiliating.”
When we were young, we felt that our face was too great, and we always insisted on everything, and never refused to bow our heads.
But at a certain age, with a home and responsibility, "face" becomes an unimportant thing.
In the recently aired TV series "Little Shede", Tong Dawei plays Xia Junshan, a designer with eyes above the top, talented and arrogant.
He came up with a simple and high-end design scheme, and the customers were not satisfied, so he had to rub the vulgar elements into a ball.
He thought that the other party was blasphemous and unwilling to compromise, so he was forced to give up. The
scene was once very embarrassing, and even if the person in charge came forward to adjust it, it still broke up.
However, no matter how tall Xia Junshan is, there will be days when he will be low.
In order to get his daughter Xia Huanhuan a place in a remedial class, he asked the client he had offended before.
He waited for hours, practiced various conversations, swallowed his voice when he was teased, and praised the client's design against his will. After
painstakingly moved his emotions, he finally got a place in the remedial class.
If I saw such a plot when I was young, I would think that he was nothing more than a coward. When I grew up, I realized that Xia Junshan's bowing his head was a responsibility.
I have heard a saying: Children are often more respectful than adults, because the world is small, so all the little things are not small.
When people reach middle age, as the world becomes bigger and responsibilities become heavier, we will gradually realize:
No matter how important face is, it will not be worth life; no matter how beautiful face is, it will not be worth the well-being of a family.
Philosopher Santayena said: "Our dignity is not in what we do, but in what we know how to do."
Only by swallowing grievances can we take responsibility.
is the greatest honor for middle-aged people.
02
Get rid of emotions
A student once asked Cai Chongxin, a well-known entrepreneur:
"What is the saddest thing in the past so many years?" The matter..."
's seemingly simple answer contains profound wisdom.
is sad, it is mental, difficult to handle, and objective.
When we are middle-aged, we have already cultivated a sense of peace and calm in the storm of time.
A qualified adult, without any sadness in his heart, only asks about the result.
Host Li Jing had a very difficult time when she left CCTV to start her own business.
At that time, she rented a small bungalow full of rubbish at the door, and under the pressure of owed millions of dollars, she went everywhere to make investments, and she was often so busy that she didn't even have time to drink.
To hold meetings, to promote their own programs, and to rush to various entertainments.
When anxiety and stress were too great to relieve, she would find a place where no one was there to cry.
But as soon as she arrives at the door, she will immediately wipe away her tears and open the door like no one else.
Early the next morning, she went out again hopeful.
Now more than ten years have passed, she has gradually changed from a female host who went to Beijing alone to an entrepreneur worth over 100 million.
If it wasn't for those pains and tears, and the experiences of shattering hearts and blood, she might not be as dazzling as she is today.
Fu Seoul said in "Wonderful Flowers": "The collapse that cannot be hidden is just a scar, and the collapse that is hidden is a medal." Carve us into the best shape possible.
People are middle-aged, life is half-slope, things are endless, tears have dried up.
Even though everyone inevitably weathers the storm, we still leave the cries to digest.
Even if life is difficult, we still choose to put away our emotions. After wiping away the tears in the late night, the dawn is still as sonorous as before.
The biggest self-consciousness of middle-aged people is to be a quiet person.
doesn't get emotional and doesn't look back.
Only in the bitter sea of years, silently cultivate yourself, and live as your own ferryman on the long road of life.
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Controlling Desires
I have heard that there is a monkey in the Algiers region that likes to steal rice from farmers.
Later, farmers developed a special capture method based on the characteristics of monkeys.
They tied a gourd-shaped bottle to a tree and filled it with the monkey's favorite rice. The ingenious design of the
bottle is that the monkey's claws just fit in, but when they've grabbed a handful of rice, they can't get their claws out.
Until the next morning, when farmers came to capture them, they were still squatting, clutching a handful of rice.
The reason why farmers catch a monkey is just to take advantage of the greedy nature of monkeys, and they will never give up the rice they have.
The first half of our life is like the monkey who can't get rid of his desires. We carry an empty basket on our backs and pick up some stones called wealth, status and fame along the way.
waited halfway through the line, only to find that he was overwhelmed.
At this time, we must learn to discard and eliminate.
Peking Opera actress Wang Peiyu, known as "Little Meng Xiaodong", won all kinds of Peking Opera awards when she was in her twenties.
She has been lost in various honors.
I earned 8,000 yuan in good times, and spent 5,000 yuan. I indulged in eating and drinking in low times, and gained more than ten pounds in a short period of time.
Later, a passage from her teacher woke her up:
"Don't sing for a living, so you can sing extravagantly, without material desires, and the rest is the desire for Peking Opera itself."
Since then, she has quit She gave up eating meat and put on cheap clothes. As for the famous brand she once pursued, she smiled and said, "I can afford it, but I can choose not to." in front of many young people.
She is more popular than before, and she is more sober:
"Keep a certain distance from fame and fortune, don't be too popular, it will interfere. If you have money, you will have more money, and you need a lot of self-awareness and cultivation to suppress yourself.”
She stripped away the layers of desire for material things and focused on Peking Opera itself. Instead, in simplicity and simplicity, she touched the true meaning of art .
I have heard a saying that true maturity is the pursuit of life, the bottom line in life, and the understanding of choices.
The greatest tragedy in life is to pursue unlimited desires with limited energy, and finally sink into this and miss the most precious things in life.
People live forever, and the situation will inevitably have ups and downs. No matter you are at the peak or the trough, don't be controlled by your desires, and excessively waste yourself in pessimism or ecstasy. In the second half of
's life, try to abandon all kinds of temptations and the obsession of not getting what you want.
Life is simple and complicated, and life can have infinite meaning.
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Life is a journey. Different age groups see different scenery and different moods.
In the first half of our life, we are in a hurry and busy with grabbing; in the second half of our life, it is better to leave the burden and travel light.
Put down your face and take good care of your family; control your emotions and settle your mood in advance; restrain your desires, reduce complexity and simplify things back to your heart.
Like Like it , may you go through the vicissitudes of life and still be a person with a pure and full heart.
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