Author: Wen Qiusheng
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01, introduction
On the long road of life, we cannot avoid dealing with all kinds of people.
Meet like-minded people, and they can rely on each other, appreciate each other, and improve each other. When encountering people with different values or people of different levels, they may have conflicts with each other, attack each other, and form their own formations.
people live for a lifetime. The person they meet may be good friends, a warm and warm sun; or they may be bad friends, a cold ice cellar.
A truly smart person can make himself live like an hedgehog on the road of life.
You can usually put the thorns flat to reveal a gentle look. But when encountering a crisis, you can quickly wrap yourself with a thorn to protect yourself.
Dazai Osamu said: "I have pleased everyone, but I still can't live a good life."
The relationship between people cannot be maintained for a long time by pleasing. When getting along with others, be kind and sharp. If you don’t want to be pinched as a soft persimmon, please remember three advice.
02. Only by learning to refuse can others know how to respect you
Rejection is a way to express the bottom line and self-principles.
People who know how to reject others are often good at being loyal to themselves and expressing what they think, and can better manage relationships between people.
Qi Baishi After becoming famous, relatives and friends often went to his place to ask for painting. Some friends do not pay or pay only a small fee, and take advantage of their feelings.
Due to love, he was embarrassed to refuse. He was so tired that he fell ill and lay on the hospital bed.
Later, he felt that this was not a solution, so he wrote a "Notice" in the living room. No matter the distance, you have to pay for painting.
clearly marked the price. If you are willing to buy a painting, you will pay according to the price. If you are unwilling, please leave yourself.
From then on, few people come to disturb him again. And it has also really attracted people who sincerely ask for painting and appreciate him, give him respect and give him corresponding rewards.
If you don’t want people to pinch them as soft persimmons, you must learn to refuse.
When facing things you don’t like and people you don’t like, you should bravely say “no”. Only by learning to refuse can others know your attitude and know where your bottom line lies.
Learn to refuse, live with principles and bottom line, and you will gain respect and kindness from others.
03. No one has to please
People have different ideas and do not plan for each other without a bottom line.
If two people are not in the same circle or on the same channel, then no matter how you please, you cannot walk together, so that your relationship will last forever.
There is no need to please anyone, and there is no need to compromise.
There is a saying in "The Disqualification in the World": "No matter who you are too enthusiastic about, it increases the probability of not being cherished."
If you want to manage a good relationship with others, don't please others in a "pleasant" way. Because, pleasing will only lead to further imbalance in the relationship between the two people.
The relationships obtained by using flattery will feel deeply affected by one side because of too much effort; the other side will neglect to manage their feelings because of taking it for granted.
After a long time, the party who pleases will feel more and more tired, and in the end there will be no ability to support each other's feelings.
Good interpersonal relationships come from mutual appreciation and mutual attraction. Instead of pleasing others, it is better to learn to improve yourself and move forward with like-minded people.
04. Appropriate temper is beneficial to emotional management
Everyone has their own temper. However, some people are good at restraining their tempers, keeping a gentle appearance all their lives, and never losing their temper.
In fact, it is not that the better the temper, the more others will treat you kindly.
Some people, when they see others having a good temper, become more and more arrogant, do not know how to respect others, and do not know how to grasp the sense of decisiveness of dating.
Getting along with people, learning to express your emotions occasionally, and losing your temper appropriately is actually more conducive to the management of your feelings.
Zhou Guoping said: "Don't care too much about some people. The more you care, the more humble you are."
A proper temper can beat back those around you who are more and more demanding and have ulterior motives. If you lose your temper properly, others will know that you are not easy to mess with.
Don’t want to be pinched as a soft persimmon. When you are hurt or used, please do not blindly endure it. Please allow yourself to lose your temper properly.
Those who have bad intentions towards you, and who see that you are also a temper, will not hurt you so arrogantly.
lose your temper properly, sometimes you will live a more relaxed life.
05, Send a message to hiding autumn
On the road of life, you must learn to love yourself well. While being kind to others, you must learn to protect yourself.
Kindness, but cannot be equated with weakness.
When dealing with people, you must have your own principles, your own bottom line and propositions. Don't just please others or please others.
People who can be friends with you sincerely will definitely not force others to do anything.
Facing those who do not care about your feelings, no matter how you do it, you will not be able to make friends and cannot become friends. It’s better to put away your kindness and be tough.
scares away those selfish people and brings peace to the world. Learn to make friends and learn to manage interpersonal relationships well, and your life will be more colorful.
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About the author: Hearing the autumn voice, using his words to make a living. The autumn wind boils rain, a glass of sake, a story of three or two, and you are with you on the lonely road.
