Author Profile: Xinyou Lingxi: Chasing her dreams, born towards the sun, looking forward to becoming a wise mother, photography sister, Guzheng goddess, and manuscript expert.
In the era of "double speed", growth is like fighting monsters and upgrading. We need to run constantly to face endless problems.
Because we have to keep running, we begin to be anxious, inadvertently become eager for quick success and instant benefits, and often complain about our unhappy life.
So, what is a happy life? In fact, it's nothing more than learning to do subtraction.
01 A happy life is to reduce greed
There is a saying: "You should not be too greedy in life, the smaller the desire, the happier life will be." I agree deeply.
We often have a misunderstanding, thinking that only by making a lot of money can we have a happy life. But a truly happy life is nothing more than a simple life minus greed.
is like Ji Xiaolan in the TV series " Iron Teeth and Bronze Teeth Ji Xiaolan ". He is honest and has a simple residence. In addition to helping the emperor handle some things, he just concentrates on writing his ancient strange notes " Yuewei Caotang Notes ". As for the others, he doesn't ask for much.
When he was 80 years old, the emperor sent a special person to send gifts, and then he also appointed Ji Xiaolan as the Prince's Young Guardian and the Grand Secretary.
On the other hand, Heshen , relied on Qianlong's reliance, was domineering and liked to plunder the people's wealth and omissions, and committed all kinds of evil. It is recorded that he has more than 20 crimes, the most fatal of which is greed.
In the end, after Emperor Jiaqing came to power, he immediately punished Heshen, confiscated all his property, and finally forced him to commit suicide.
Ji Xiaolan and Heshen's lives are one that insists on living a simple life, so they have the blessing of longevity; the other is to constantly seek and greed, and eventually their fate is miserable.
Whether a person is happy in life is not because he has more, but because he cares less.
Laozi once said that fewer things can get, and more things can make you confused.
May we all be able to constantly subtract, subtract desires and greed, and write every day of our life with a simple mindset and agile pace.
02. A happy life is to know how to clean the soul
In real life, many people will be busy working because they prove that they are happy. They think that only busy can catch up with others. However, they do not know that the busier they are, the tireder they are, and the more tired they are, the less happy they are.
In fact, the true happiness in life is just knowing how to clean the soul.
There is a story in Buddhism called "Sweeping the Heart". Zhou Lipante is a disciple of Shakyamuni Buddha. People are born dull. He taught him a word of Gada, but he didn't remember it for a hundred days.
People laughed at him. But the Buddha led him to a quiet room and asked him to clean the monastery while chanting: "Sweep away dust and dirt."
From then on, Zhou Lipante insisted on cleaning every day and kept saying "sweeping dust and dirt".
One day he realized: "I swept around day and night. It turns out that the important thing is to clean the soul!"
Later, Zhou Lipante finally achieved the Arhat fruit by constantly brushing away the dust of his soul.
In the world, everyone has their own development time zone, and our happiness only happens in their own time zone.
Instead of being exhausted in the busy chasing, you might as well stop, take a break, and leave some time to clean your mind. Be careful that you are clear and clean, so that your mind will have space and happiness to meet.
Zhu Guangqian once said: Life is originally an art in a broad sense. Everyone’s life history is their own work. In order to create a good work, we are diligent, motivated, worked hard and were studious. But don’t forget that happiness in life is not the purpose. Only by remembering to clean your own soul at all times can the life history of such a person be an exquisite work of art.
May we all stop to clean our souls in a busy life.
03. A happy life is to reduce negative emotions
I saw a story: One day, a hungry greedy snake crawled into a wood factory to find food and was cut by a saw. It bit the saw angrily.
result saw was not damaged at all, but its mouth was bleeding.The greedy snake was extremely angry and used all its strength to wrap the saw around, and finally it was sawed to death.
The poor greedy snake never understood until its death. It was not the saw that it was killed, but its own negative emotions.
In most cases, negative emotions will only bind our happiness, while positive emotions can open another window for life.
is like Su Shi , with a heavy and ups and downs throughout his life. He once had the sad past of "life and death with his wife for ten years, and he could not forget it if he didn't think about it." He also had the pain of separation from his father and brother, and the sorrow of constant demise.
However, in every situation, when it comes to him, he is a good wish of "I hope people will live long and share the beauty of the moon with thousands of miles apart". Even if he is in a difficult situation, he will make a delicious dish of " Dongpo Pork " and " Sheep Scorpion ".
Su Shi has always been called the Optimist School by later generations. The biggest connection is that he is accustomed to resisting with positive emotions and various unsatisfactory situations in life.
A happy life is to know how to withdraw from negative emotions. Remember to keep an optimistic attitude every day and smile at the mess of life, so that you can not be bound by the things in front of you.
When you can withstand the puncture of negative emotions, life can treat you as your first love!
Just like "You Are Flying to Your Mountains Like a Bird" says: People can withstand the strong winds on the ground, so they can also withstand the winds at high altitudes.
May we all be able to face life with a smile, not be bound by negative emotions, have a peach blossom land in our hearts, and there is water and clouds everywhere.
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James Obpenhan once said: Stupid people look for happiness in the distance, while smart people sow happiness under their feet.
A good life requires subtraction, subtracting greed, knowing how to clean the mind, and reducing negative emotions, so that the seeds of happiness can be sowed in our hearts. During the growth process of
, we don’t need to fight monsters and upgrade waves, nor do we need to take a Clipper, we have the sea ourselves. We just need to explain to ourselves and accept every day calmly, and that's OK.
As the saying goes, haste will not be achieved. Take your time and you will go longer, further and happier.
