After the age of 30, it is basically difficult for people to make confidant friends as they become more mature.
It’s not that you have a withdrawn personality, it’s that everyone is on guard. Adults value career and family more. Most friendships are just about social needs and interests.
The real friends of adults are nothing more than childhood friends, old classmates, and a few people around them who they can talk to.
It is very important to be able to chat. Everyone has a standard in their hearts, who can be called friends and who are just passers-by. Only those who have a place in our hearts are worthy of our time and energy.
After all, everyone is very busy. The older you get, the more you will find that there are very few people in your address book who you can interrupt or chat with at any time.
It is true that people are born lonely. If you don’t have many friends, the most comfortable relationship between adults is that you can talk about everything.
In a comfortable relationship, there is no worry or suspicion.
This month, the biggest topic of discussion around us is the announcement of the scores for the college entrance examination and the high school entrance examination. What we hear the most on weekdays is which child got enviable high scores and which child performed abnormally and failed.
Inquiring about scores is a tangled matter. It is even said on the Internet that not asking about grades when meeting is the most basic accomplishment of a person. (The reason is that if you do well in the exam, you will naturally announce it to the public and announce the good news to everyone. If you do not do well in the exam, if you don’t know the results and ask about the results, it will only increase the sadness.)
I have a few friends whose children are also in the graduating class. On the night when the results were announced, they were beaten. I asked on the phone and it was okay. There was no arrogance or blame.
If the children do well in the exam, they will talk excitedly and talk endlessly; if the children do not do well in the exam, they will tell the truth truthfully and encourage each other.
I am very lucky that my friends are all real people and are not so worried and suspicious.
If you have a relationship, you always have to guess the other person's feelings, and you are afraid that if you say the wrong thing, the other person will be unhappy. It is very tiring to make friends with such friends. If it were me, I would rather give up than tire myself.
In a comfortable relationship, you can talk about everything.
Once, I received a call from a friend late at night, asking if he had slept. Do you have time to chat?
I said let’s talk.
The other party is a thoughtful person, and they talk about trivial family matters. She is in the middle of it, and it feels like she is constantly cutting and sorting things out.
It also involved some of her privacy. She said it without any concealment or burden. Maybe she felt relieved about me.
's reassurance touched me, and it was also a tacit understanding between us. After
finished chatting, she was in a better mood and shouted carelessly that she was sleepy and wanted to sleep.
In a comfortable relationship, there is no burden. You can talk about whatever you want. You don’t have to worry about the other party not understanding or laughing at you. You don’t have to think about whether these words are appropriate to say, and you don’t have to stop talking or stop playing the pipa. Too late to speak...
If you don't want to keep it in your heart and feel uncomfortable, then you can talk about anything and have a chat. A word of comfort or understanding can relieve the worries in your heart.
In a comfortable relationship, don’t bother me when anything happens, and you can talk if anything happens.
There are hundreds of people in the address book. Some of them are in frequent contact because of work or other reasons, but the total of them may not be worth as much as someone who is rarely contacted.
has a kind of relationship, don't disturb it, but you can't forget it.
Because I know in my heart that when I face difficulties, they are the ones I can rely on, and they are the first ones to lend a helping hand.
doesn’t contact me often, simply because everyone has their own lives.
Between adults, too close a relationship can sometimes be a burden. Only by keeping distance and leaving space can we get along comfortably.
A comfortable relationship is not about being together every day, or how close you must be if you eat, live and sleep together, but it is that when you need him, he is within sight; when you don't need him, he will not easily disturb you.
When nothing happens, they are busy in their own lives; when they miss each other, they get together occasionally; when needed, they are the first to stand up.
The friendship between gentlemen is as light as water. The most comfortable relationship between adults is that they are not distant from each other and can talk about everything.
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