In our daily life, we always see such a group of middle-aged women:
Their faces are haggard, there is no skin care products on their faces, and they are full of traces left by the years. They will take care of their homes in good order, but their bodies But nothing can hide the bloatedness.
People usually use "yellow-faced women" to describe them. The parties are angry but helpless, because "they are old" has become an indisputable fact, and no matter how angry they are, they can't change it.
However, some women have reached middle age but they are not old at all. They exude a youthful atmosphere. No matter what they do, they have the vigor of young people. For them, age is a series of changing numbers. That's it.
So why are some middle-aged women not looking old at all? In fact, usually these two reasons.
1. Cultivation of habits
This is the most obvious reason. Before, a blogger on the Douyin short video platform shared her daily diet. We can see from the video content that her diet is mainly light- —
Protein, vitamins and carbohydrates are the main nutrients. High oil, high sugar and high salt are never touched, milk tea is not to be drunk, and snacks are fruits.
In addition, she also exercises every day, sweats like rain in the morning run and gym, and has a healthy lifestyle for decades. This blogger has passed the age of confusion, but she still has smooth and firm skin. Has a spirit that young people are ashamed of.
Nowadays, more and more people are dominated by electronic products. The most common thing they do every day is to sit in the corner of the sofa and watch TV shows and play mobile phones. At night, others have already fallen asleep, but they are still staying up late with their mobile phones. It seems that The passage of time cannot be felt, and day and night are reversed.
"Who stole my time?" This is the doubt of many people at the moment. They always feel that time is not enough. At that time, people lost the concept of time because of some unhealthy living habits.
Zhou Xun once said that the most comfortable and comfortable way of life she feels is to go to bed at nine o'clock every night for a period of time, wake up at 5:30 in the morning to practice exercises, and eat healthily. During that time, she was full of energy every day, and her whole life People also exude different brilliance.
It can be seen that those healthy living habits can well keep a person's state at a certain stage, and the best gift to the future is to be generous to the present.
Second, the confidence of life
In the TV series "Little Shede", Nan Li's mother lives a very delicate life every day, traveling and wearing a mask. Although she experienced a failed marriage, her mentality was not affected by it. On the contrary, her whole person gives a feeling of youthfulness.
On the other hand, Cai Juying has a husband, children, and grandchildren, but she and Nan Li's mother appear old when they stand together. She is obviously a few years younger than the other.
So why is there such a gap between peers? The reason lies in each other's economic strength.
Nan Li's mother has 3 million in savings. She can buy whatever she likes without looking at other people's faces. She has money and she can buy the most expensive skin care products to maintain her skin.
Cai Juying has no money. Her original job was a nurse. Even after she married Nan Jianlong, she felt inferior because he was the dean of the Design Institute. With an old face, she didn't dare to buy skin care products or maintain them because she had no money.
director Ang Lee once said: "My wife's greatest support for me is her independence. She doesn't ask me to go out to work. She gives me enough time and space for me to play and create. If I didn't meet my wife, I might not have the chance to pursue a film career."
A woman's financial independence means that she has the confidence to run a good life, first financial independence and then personality independence, only personality independence is the greatest charm of a woman, Only with an independent personality can you become younger and younger.
Youth and age have nothing to do with
Some people appear old at a young age, while some people still exude youthful vigor even if they are old.
Age is actually a number objectively, and it cannot be used as the only sign to measure whether a person is aging. Some people are already old when they are young, and some people are old and young forever.
In the variety show "Host Contest", contestant Gong Fan once said: "As time rolls on, he will never wait for anyone. But there is a type of people who are young until they die, because They have the spirit of youth."
Youth has nothing to do with age, we should not tie all the values of life in a digital frame, when we constantly enrich our souls.
When we constantly adjust our state of mind, when we naturally accept aging, we will find that our state of mind will suddenly become brighter.
People have different charms in different age groups, what we need to do is to constantly exude our own charm.
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Author | Psychological consultant Fu Dongsheng
The Psychology of Love and Marriage
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