分寸和剋制 Appropriateness and restraint

有教養的人，彷彿春雨，在每一個角落溫暖世人，總在不經意間讓你舒暢無比。

例如下雨天，你在路上走着，一位司機開車從你身旁經過，踩剎車減速，沒有濺起一滴髒水。你會不會心裏一暖，對這個司機好感倍增呢？

其實，教養的本質，可以從兩方面來說，一是分寸，二是克制。

很多人辦事往往不懂得分寸，懷着一顆善良的心，卻好心辦壞事。

鄰居夫妻吵架，你本想去勸一下，讓兩個人都消消氣，和好如初。結果你掌握不好分寸，過多參與到人家家務事中，被人家反過來責怪你。

所以，懂得分寸很重要，什麼時候出手，以什麼方式出手，都會讓人有不同的感受，也是考驗你的智慧。

克制，是指懂得適可而止，及時收手。

不要拿自己的教養當成賣弄的資本，滿世界去誇耀自己，每個人都有很強的表現欲，而人最難做到的即是克制自己的表現欲。

Educated people, like spring rain, warm the world in every corner, and always make you feel comfortable inadvertently.

For example, on a rainy day, when you are walking on the road, a driver drives past you and slows down by stepping on the brake without splashing a drop of dirty water. Will you feel a warm heart and feel more favorable to the driver?

In fact, the essence of education can be seen from two aspects: moderation and restraint.

Many people do not know how to handle affairs properly. They have a kind heart, but they are good at doing bad things.

The neighbor and his wife quarreled. You wanted to persuade them to calm down and make peace. As a result, you don't have a good sense of propriety. You take too much part in others' housework and are blamed by others.

Therefore, it is important to know how to handle the situation. When and how to handle the situation will make people feel different and also test your wisdom.

Restraint means knowing enough to stop and stopping in time.

Don't take your education as the capital to show off, and go all over the world to brag about yourself. Everyone has a strong desire for performance, and the most difficult thing for people to do is to curb their desire for performance.

真正有教養的人，懂得分寸和剋制。他們會在出去時悄悄地把門關上，不會吵醒你；他們會在接到電話時跑到圖書館外面，不會打擾你看書。

他們彷彿春雨，總在不經意間讓你舒暢無比。

懂得分寸和剋制的教養，是一種不用說出來的美好。

A truly cultured person knows discretion and restraint. They will quietly close the door when they go out without waking you; They will run outside the library when they receive a call, and will not disturb your reading.

They are like spring rains, which always make you feel comfortable inadvertently.

The cultivation of moderation and restraint is a kind of beauty that needs no words.