Have you ever wondered why you didn’t seize the most correct opportunity in life? Or how many times have you seized many opportunities in your life? Even most of us haven't caught it once. Although you want to catch it, in the end, you still watch him lose from under your nose.

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There are many choices in life, why don’t you seize the most correct opportunity? Or how many times have you seized many opportunities in your life? Even most of us haven't caught it once. Although you want to catch it, in the end, you still watch him lose from under your nose. Why is this happening to

? To solve this problem, we rely on rational analysis to reflect on ourselves.

first point, there are only two types of opportunities. One is that information fills the brain with multiple aspects. Various opportunities allow us to enter the blind spot of choice, because people will choose the direction that is most beneficial to them.

But this is not necessarily the most correct choice. It is highly likely that it has become an almost blind choice. Don’t rush to refute it. Following the perspective of human nature, do you follow your heart in the face of diverse opportunities and choose the safest and most profitable choice. It’s like a blind date. Whether it’s external appearance, knowledge, ability, or financial conditions, you determine your inner self from the other person’s appearance. Whether it is good or bad, everyone is choosing the most suitable result.

Another point is the only opportunity and the only opportunity, and there is no other choice. But is this true? We have another choice here, that is, not to choose. Facing the only one, you choose to seize or give up, and we are following that kind of thought. I'm afraid that interests or excessive protection are the first things you subconsciously consider at this stage.

The problem returns to the origin, why can't we grasp the right choice?

First do a small experiment. If you go to the supermarket to buy a bottle of beverage you have never seen before, one has only three or four flavors, while the other has many flavors, but their tastes are almost the same. You'll choose that.

Are you hesitating? Let me tell you the answer. Many people will linger in front of many flavors of drinks, but most people end up choosing drinks with only three or four flavors.

Overyone knows that the choice surface is too narrow, which is definitely not conducive to accurate choice, because it is whether it is packaging, capacity, or taste. Everyone has vs hearts, good and bad hearts. Only when you make a choice can you make a comparison, but too many plans are not conducive to choice, which will make people uneasy and make people at a loss.

The most ironic thing is that multiple solutions equals no solutions. It is commonly known as the blindfolded and confused.

Other things are the same. When facing choices, you will definitely actively reject many opportunities, filter out the opportunities you think are the most suitable and then focus on choosing. The most important thing is that if you choose the wrong beverage, you can throw it away. But have you chosen the right opportunity in life, or how do you choose the right one?

Everyone knows that to solve this problem is nothing more than exclusion and addition and subtraction. However, the premise of using these methods is to exclude self-righteousness and subjective consciousness. How to eliminate it is the first step to overcome the trap and don’t be interfered with your decision-making by the current information.

Any choice you make is definitely not a fabrication out of thin air. It is definitely accompanied by the bonus of various information and relationships you have.

But if you think about it, is there any possible trap for the information you have? Most of the information you have is passed to you by another person or a relationship, and the feedback around you is almost the same information as you have. If another opposite message broke out in your circle, will you be shaken?

or others consciously spread this information to you, predict your predictions, and guide your way of thinking. Let’s think about whether there are many such phenomena. Is it true? There is a high probability that the information released first-hand is such a thing, but how authentic is there to circulate it to you. This trap is easy to overcome. If you don’t listen to what others say,

Put aside this circle. Independent investigation, independent thinking, independent judgment.According to your own decisions, you will correspond to your previous information, and there will definitely be conflicts and conflicts in the middle. If you can resolve this conflict, then congratulations. This chance is most likely yours.

I have a friend who works in a project and never believes in the information passed on by others. He will personally take the project information from the beginning, which is the preference of the project leader. The construction difficulty of the project and the company's historical payment methods are clearly found out. And a professional public relations team is specially set up for this to deal with sudden public relations incidents.

and everything is ready and then go back and follow up on the specific project progress. Be prepared to identify information artifacts. Therefore, the most important thing to overcome the trap is to put aside the independent research and independent judgment of subjective consciousness. Decisions may only take a few minutes, but it may take a lot of effort to find the basis to support them.

The second item goes out of the synchronous thinking circle and don’t be influenced by your current thinking.

Any opportunity is in front of you, there are only four types of people, the same type of people you share with, and the same type of people you share with. Then there are the colleagues who do the right thing with you, and the last one is the colleagues who do the wrong thing with you. Everyone will choose the third type, that is, choose the partner who does the right thing together.

But in fact, most people’s common sense is prejudice, and they are impatient to do more and more mistakes. Only a few people may have inexplicably taken the right path and chosen the right person just because of luck. But what I want to tell you is that from the beginning, we must exclude the group of people who share the same understanding. Almost all opportunities that can be perfectly controlled are not playing according to common sense. How to eliminate

? One small way is to convene the group of people you share the same understanding, count their ideas and opinions, and then find a circle that is not consistent with you to collect the way of thinking of this group of people. There must be conflicts and entanglements between them. Can you solve these entanglements when you think independently? Finally, it is your own correct thinking.

The third point is not to be disturbed by your circle thinking. The decisions made by ordinary people are easily misled by their years of experience, which is also the fundamental reason why it is difficult for us to cross the circle. Whether it is emotional intelligence or IQ, it is like a fish in water in my circle,

But when it comes to another circle, it is difficult to move forward. Do you feel that nothing you do is wrong? But reality makes people have to integrate into another circle because you know where the opportunity lies. If you can't do it well, you will never have a chance. But most people always think that using their own reality or hard work can always open another door.

But this is not the case. The more you do, the further you are from your expected goal. How to change, change your cognition first. It’s not because you are not good that you don’t accept you, but because you are useless that you can’t use you.

Each circle relationship network is in this value system that is not available. Don’t try to use moral value to measure your status in the world. In fact, you are good or bad, you have no relationship with others. Unrelated people will never have the identity of your own people.

Of course, the chance will not give you such an irrelevant person. Reality is so cruel. Because of cruelty, we understand that the core value of opportunity lies in whether you are available or not.

After all, everyone has their own judgment and decision-making ability, but because you are too lazy to be an independent self, you are easily misled by information. In addition, you always habitually follow synchronous thinking to make your choices, and fixed circle thinking is the fundamental reason why you always make the wrong choice.

Whether it is a trap or blocked cognition, or self-righteousness, it can be broken with external objective thinking. Don’t replace correct cognition with your own imagination and delusions. Finding your truest true nature is the only opportunity to face opportunities.