Have you ever had such an experience? When you want to look through your boyfriend's phone, you are rejected by your boyfriend. When you see your boyfriend talking to someone else on WeChat, you ask him who he is chatting with, and he says he is talking to his mother, and then you want to see what you want to talk about, but your boyfriend just won't let you watch it. Or maybe you ask your boyfriend what he is doing, and your boyfriend says he is having a meal, but you see his WeChat steps increase little by little. When you send a message to your boyfriend, your boyfriend doesn't reply for a long time. In the process of not replying to the message, your brain begins to run at high speed, fantasizing various scenes that make you angry, such as not loving you anymore, chatting with other girls, having dinner with others...
Or one morning you wake up and have a dream, dreaming that your boyfriend did something sorry for you, and then you angrily kicked your boyfriend lying next to you.
These experiences and dreams have made you learn to suspect and suspect in your relationship. In fact, it is really easy for girls to suspect. Especially for girls who are insecure, they have higher suspicion in their relationships.
I have a friend who is very insecure because she is a child from a single-parent family and she lacks the love of her parents. If her boyfriend did not reply to WeChat quickly, she would not only be suspicious, but she would also be anxious and strongly uneasy. Then she would talk to us friends to release her anxiety and anxiety. She would also keep sending WeChat and calling her boyfriend until her boyfriend replied to her, and she would not calm down.
In fact, everyone will suspect it and it is easy to suspect it. But suspicion sometimes makes you beware of things in advance, but it is more about cracking your relationship.
Human nature cannot stand the test, and a person cannot stand the suspicion. When you keep suspicious of the other person, you will continue to verify the other person. Sooner or later, the other person will feel tired and innocent one day, and then the direction of the matter will really become your suspicion.
I have a classmate who is very suspicious. Her boyfriend will keep calling and contacting her if she replys to WeChat late. She always kept suspicious and kept asking her boyfriend to explain, but she didn't believe it. Later she collapsed and she found a boy to leave. It was because she loved to be suspicious, so over time she took the suspicious things as real, and then she was afraid that she would be hurt. Moreover, her boyfriend became more and more perfunctory. In the face of her constant questioning, she became less and less likely to explain and was impatient.
So the most feared thing in relationships is suspicion. Don’t worry about gains and losses. Please believe your lover, he will not let you down.
